There is a voice in your head that has been talking you out of your own life for a long time. And what makes it so dangerous is not that it sounds harsh or cruel, it sounds like wisdom, responsibility and the realistic version of you.

But it is lying to you.

In this episode, I am giving you the exact words to say back.

WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE:

We are taking on three lies, the ones that sound the most reasonable, the most self-aware, and the most responsible and squashing every single one of them. Then I am handing you two scripts for each: one for when the voice shows up in your own head, and one for when someone you love says it out loud.

Lie #1 "I've tried things before and nothing ever creates lasting change for someone like me."

This lie uses your own history as evidence against you. We are going to look at what that evidence actually proves — and it is not what the voice has been telling you.

Lie #2 "I don't even know who I am anymore. I wouldn't even know where to start."

This one sounds like honest self-awareness. It is the quietest lie and the most damaging. And the truth underneath it changes everything about when you are allowed to begin.

Lie #3 "My circumstances just won't allow it right now."

The most sophisticated lie of the three, because it is built entirely from real, true, legitimate facts about your life. Here is what it does with all of that real information — and why it has been costing you more than you realize.

Plus, before we get to the lies, we are talking about the guilt that sits underneath all three of them. Because for most ambitious mothers, these lies are not just intellectual beliefs. They are guilt management strategies. And that needs to be addressed first.

THE SIX SCRIPTS — GET THEM HERE:
All six word-for-word scripts from today's episode are on a free cheat sheet at yourutmost.com/56. One page. Yours to keep. Go grab them while you listen.

YOUR ONE THING THIS WEEK:
Pick the lie that has had the most power over you. Not the most familiar, the one that has cost you the most. Go back to that script. Say it out loud. Wherever you are right now.

The lie has had the floor long enough.

READY TO GO DEEPER?
When you are ready to do this work with someone walking alongside you rather than doing it alone in your car, come spend an hour with me.

Wednesday's at 11:00 AM Central, I host a free live session where we do the honest inventory together, get clarity on who you actually are beyond your roles, and leave with real momentum already in motion.

Reserve your seat: yourutmost.com/identityreset

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Have you ever looked up from a life that looks full, good marriage, kids you love, work that matters, and felt completely hollow? Like you're doing all the things but missing yourself somewhere inside all of it?

That is what we are talking about today.

She was a researcher who spent a decade studying wholehearted living and realized one day she was not living a single thing on her own list. What happened next changed everything and it maps exactly onto what I see happen for every ambitious woman who finally decides she's done going quiet.

We walk through three turning points that brought her back to herself. Honest inventory. Intentional design. Showing up and living there. And I'm going to show you why those same three phases are exactly what stands between where you are right now and the life that actually feels like yours.

If you have been running on empty, going through the motions, and carrying that 2am question, whether this is really all there is, this episode is your answer.

INSIDE THE EPISODE

• Why feeling lost is an invitation, and what that actually means for where you are right now.
• What the Identity Eraser Effect is, how it happened to you without you even noticing, and why it is not your fault.
• The three phases every woman walks through on her way back to herself and which one you're probably stuck in right now.
• Why awareness alone is never enough, and what has to come after it for anything to actually change.
• What it looks like to live in your own rhythm again, not in a dramatic, life-blowing-up way, but on an ordinary Tuesday that finally feels like yours.

NEXT STEP RESOURCE

Put you back into your life and feel like you again. Free live workshop, Become You Again: Your 60-Minute Identity Reset. Held on Wednesday’s, at 11am Central. This is where we do this work together in real time. Come with your questions, come with your honest inventory, and leave with a plan. Register here: yourutmost.com/identityreset

Start immediately with the Identity Reset Starter Pack; a free resource to finding yourself again in 7-minutes at yourutmost.com/starterpack

If this episode cracked something open for you, send to a woman who needs to hear it. You already know who she is.

You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone.

If this episode met you somewhere real, tell me where.

✨ What's Your Superpower? In 90 seconds, discover your identity superpower and the 3 moves to feel like yourself again this week. → Take the Identity Reset quiz. (Less than 90 seconds. More clarity than you've had in years.)

📲 Connect + Continue: If this episode moved something in you, I want to hear about it. Screenshot it, share it, send it to the woman in your life who needs to hear "You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone"!

🎧 Subscribe so you never miss the episode that was made for exactly where you are right now.

🔗 I show up daily on Instagram for the honest, unfiltered conversations this journey actually requires. Come find me: @yourutmostself

🧭 When you're ready for the next step, everything you need is waiting at Your Utmost Self.

If you start strong on Monday and by Thursday you don't recognize what happened to the week, this episode is for you. Not because something is wrong with you. Because nobody ever helped you build a week that was actually designed around your life, your identity, and your season.

In this episode, you will learn why momentum is not a feeling; it is a structure. You will discover the two tools that change everything about how your week works: your weekly rhythm and your DUE, your Dedicated Utmost Execution. And you will walk away with three questions to identify your DUE and two protected blocks on your calendar before the week claims them.

"Who you are determines what you design. What you design determines what you create."

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• Why your systems keep collapsing, and why it has nothing to do with your discipline
• The three things an unstructured week is actually costing you, and why the third one hurts most
• What a weekly rhythm actually is and what your anchors are
• What DUE stands for, Dedicated Utmost Execution, and why it is both how you show up and what you produce
• Three questions to identify your DUE right now
• What a designed Tuesday actually feels like, and why you are allowed to want it

The Question That Changed Everything

"I stopped asking how I feel today? and I started asking what my life needs today, and who do I need to be to show up for it?"

The Anchor Sentence

Who you are determines what you design. What you design determines what you create.

Your DUE — Dedicated Utmost Execution

D — Dedicated. Decided in advance and consistently. Even when it is hard.

U — Utmost. Your highest standard. Determined by who you actually are, not someone else's definition of excellent.

E — Executed. It Exists. The fruit. Something real you actually produced, pursued with your greatest effort and full intention.

Three Questions to Find Your DUE

1. What is the one thing that if I did not do it this week, nothing else would meaningfully move forward?
2. What is the thing I keep saying I will get to, and keep not getting to?
3. What would Friday feel like if I had done just this one thing consistently, with dedication and my utmost standard?

The answer that shows up across all three is your DUE.

Your Action This Week

Two things. Not someday. This week.

First, name your DUE. Write it down. Say it out loud. Make it real and make it yours.

Second, find two protected blocks in your week where that DUE gets done. Not hoped for. Protected. On the calendar. Decided.

Free Resource Mentioned

The DUE + Rhythm Planning Sheet — one page, five minutes. Name your DUE and lock in your rhythm anchors today.

→ yourutmost.com/54

If this episode met you somewhere real, tell me where.

✨ What's Your Superpower? In 90 seconds, discover your identity superpower and the 3 moves to feel like yourself again this week. → Take the Identity Reset quiz. (Less than 90 seconds. More clarity than you've had in years.)

📲 Connect + Continue: If this episode moved something in you, I want to hear about it. Screenshot it, share it, send it to the woman in your life who needs to hear "You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone"!

🎧 Subscribe so you never miss the episode that was made for exactly where you are right now.

🔗 I show up daily on Instagram for the honest, unfiltered conversations this journey actually requires. Come find me: @yourutmostself

🧭 When you're ready for the next step, everything you need is waiting at Your Utmost Self.