In this deeply honest episode of Wildly Her, I open up about one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationships: triangulation. Triangulation is a tool used to control, divide and manipulate. When communication is filtered through a third person, it can quietly erode trust, distort reality, and create distance between the people who need connection the most.

I'm getting very personal and giving real examples from my marriage of how triangulation showed up not only between me and the children, but also in other family relationships. I want you to know what it is and how it works. I talk about how this dynamic can leave us feeling fractured, misunderstood, and emotionally unsafe, and why so many of us don’t even realize it’s happening until much later.

This episode isn’t just about naming the harm. It’s also about healing. I want to describe it so that you can step out of it when possible, and what it looks like to repair relationships that were strained or damaged by being pulled into someone else’s narrative.

If you’ve ever felt caught in the middle, spoken about instead of spoken to, or watched relationships suffer because of manipulation and divided loyalties, then pull up a chair. This episode will help you recognize the pattern, understand its impact, and begin choosing healthier, more honest connection moving forward.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this episode of Wildly Her, we talk about how emotional and psychological abuse erodes self-trust, why our nervous systems cling to what’s familiar even when it hurts, and how having just one safe, grounded person can help us come back to ourselves. When we’re with someone who is emotionally regulated and empathetic, our nervous systems can co-regulate with theirs bringing calm, clarity, and the ability to make decisions from our own strength instead of fear.

This isn’t about someone telling you what to do.
It’s about finding safe alignment so you can hear your own voice again.

You don’t need anyone to agree with you to choose better for yourself.
But you do deserve support that helps you feel steady enough to do it.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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When we believe someone we love may be in an emotionally or psychologically abusive relationship, our instinct is often to fix it, warn them, or push them to leave. But what if, in our fear, we unintentionally begin to mirror the very control we’re urging them to escape?

In this episode, we talk about what it truly means to support a friend who may be in an abusive relationship, without taking away their autonomy, voice, or choice. We explore why trying to dictate someone else’s decisions can feel unsafe, why pressure often backfires, and how control, even well-intentioned, is harmful.

Healing doesn’t happen through force. It happens through safety, consistency, and being a steady presence. We discuss how to encourage the good, reflect truth gently, hold space without ultimatums, and remain a safe place someone can return to when they’re ready.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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