In this week’s episode of What’s Your Damage?, AJ and AJ dive into their very different sexual awakening moments — and let’s just say, the vibes were not the same.

“J“ spills about her lifelong devotion to Christian Bale (yes, even factoring in the infamous on-set rant) and how her love story really began with the Newsies. Something about scrappy newsboys in suspenders and fireman-adjacent outfits? Formative. She breaks down her very wholesome, theater-kid-coded awakening — complete with elaborate fantasies about various newsboys.

Meanwhile, “A”s awakening was… significantly less subtle. She recounts watching the wildly explicit Cruel Intentions and having absolutely no buffer between innocence and full-blown sexual tension. Where “J” had musical numbers and yearning glances, “A” had spit filled make outs, dramatic virginity plot lines, and the undeniable power of Sarah Michelle Gellar in peak ’90s villain mode.

Two awakenings. One podcast. Endless damage.

In episode 10 of What’s Your Damage?, AJ and AJ talk about the deep desire to escape into a different family. Growing up in traumatic family systems shaped how both of them turned to art—TV, books, and stories—as a way to survive the painful reality of their home lives.

“A” is 13 weeks pregnant at this point and reflects on her childhood, where the TV was always on. As a kid, she escaped into Full House, fantasizing about Danny Tanner as her father—someone safe and kind, who wouldn’t call her the C word just for wanting to watch Friends.

“J”, meanwhile, time-travels all the way back to 1868, fantasizing about being a member of the March family. (Let’s be honest—she was absolutely a Jo, the ultimate feminist icon.) The March family was shockingly progressive for 1868—which somehow made them feel more evolved than J’s strict Mormon household in the 1980s. She longed for the kind of sisterhood the March girls shared, something she wished she could have had with any of her sisters—though it hurt most that her closest sister was also her abuser.

AJ and AJ kick off Episode 9 with the choice of a generation: Edward Cullen or Jacob Black? From there, they dive headfirst into the teenage experience — from Levi Lovin’, (dry humping), going to parties, and the longing to be seen and find love and possibly made over!

“J” talks about Can’t Hardly Wait and how, thanks to a strict Mormon upbringing (and the whole “appearance of evil” thing), she was never going to parties or drinking in high school. Instead, she lived vicariously through the characters on screen — experiencing the chaos, romance, and freedom secondhand. And ultimately became the life of the party!

“A“ shares she was not the cool girl in high school, (she was in the recycling club). She longed for a love that saw her deeply past her nerdy exterior. So she escaped into She’s All That, where a simple makeover turned a geek from invisible to suddenly being stared at by a guy with a jawline that could cut glass. If only that was her experience.

In Episode 8, AJ and AJ dive deep into what it means to break the cycle of abuse, especially when the harm comes from the people who are supposed to love you most—sisters, friends, and family.

"A" shares the story of a friendship with a narcissist, beginning with intense love bombing and quickly evolving into something darker: becoming a supporting character in someone else’s carefully crafted social media persona. A finds herself literally and emotionally positioned as the “camera person,” helping build someone else’s image while quietly losing herself in the process. As she unpacks what happened, she realizes the relationship was echoing a familiar dynamic—chasing validation and mirroring patterns from her relationship with her mother. Ultimately, "A" chooses herself: she stands up, draws a boundary, and removes this person from her life—set to the soundtrack of “Walking on a Dream” by Empire of the Sun.

"J" opens up about growing up with an abusive sister, and how she survived by escaping into Little House on the Prairie—watching herself onscreen through Laura Ingalls Wilder, while her sister became Nellie Oleson in her mind: cruel, entitled, and relentless. Even when her sister offered half-hearted apologies, the bullying continued. "J" shares how she eventually learned to stand up for herself, refuse the cycle, and step away from the role she was forced into—breaking the cycle of abuse for good.

AJ and AJ get real about their first periods — including the awkward, traumatizing and even serendipitous moments that came with them.

“J” shares how a trip to a waterpark turned into actual trauma when she was forced to wear a tampon way too early — locked in a bathroom with her mom and sisters, all of them screaming at her to just put it in — turning what should’ve been a fun day into total panic and humiliation. She talks about how "Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret" helped her feel seen for the first time, like she wasn’t the only one going through it.

“A” shares her own “this is fate” first period story: she got hers the day she went to an *NSYNC concert, and to her it felt amazing — like she was finally a woman, and therefore officially ready to get pregnant by JC from *NSYNC. Then, in a full-circle twist, she talks about how 14 years later she actually met her childhood crush… and he turned out to be a total jerk, completely destroying the fantasy in the most disappointing way possible.

In this episode of What’s Your Damage, AJ and AJ confront the horrifying realization that sometimes… we are a little bit like our abusers. They dig into how art has a deeply rude habit of holding up a mirror, reminding us that everyone is capable of doing bad things—and that one bad moment doesn’t get to be the whole book. It’s a chapter. A messy one. But still just a chapter.

"J” recounts losing her cool after her Disneyland flight was canceled and she yelled at a customer service representative who absolutely did not deserve the spice "J" was serving up. What started as a travel issue quickly turned into an uncomfortable mirror of her father’s explosive anger—clarifying, humbling, and deeply inconvenient. That realization followed her later while watching Rogue One: A Star Wars Story, when she noticed to her horror that she was identifying with the Empire.

"A” opens up about discovering her codependency after reading Codependent No More by Melody Beattie and immediately realizing the book was, unfortunately, about her. She talks about a major fight with her producer, quitting drinking shortly after, and how that decision quietly but completely changed her life.

This episode is about accountability without self-destruction, laughing at your worst moments, and remembering that a bad day—or even a bad call to customer service—is just a page in the book, not the whole story.

This week on What’s Your Damage, AJ and AJ attempt to Marie Kondo their emotional baggage, unpack the chaos of messiness, and then hurtle straight back to 2020. The team opens up about how they coped with COVID, isolation, and deeply questionable living situations.

“A” (who is definitely Anne Hathaway… probably) shares the true horror of being bubbled with her producer’s roommate and his girlfriend. Starved for community, “A” discovers Survivor and becomes obsessed, dreaming about being on the show not for the challenges, but for the social game—alliances, conversations, and any form of human connection.

Meanwhile, “J” discovers RuPaul’s Drag Race and reflects on how the show—and the world—has changed since its early seasons. From finding community to celebrating individuality, every queen brings something unique, reminding us all: it’s okay to be exactly who you are. Even if you are a secret CIA spy.

Reality TV, radical self-love, and one timeless truth: if you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?

AJ and AJ kick off episode 4 by debating which "Friends" characters they relate to, then dive headfirst into the messy, meaningful theme of belonging. "A" opens up about feeling disconnected in college before finding real sisterhood in her sorority—bonding over Dirty Dancing: Havana Nights and The Butterfly Effect. "J" reflects on growing up without a close bond with her sister and the comfort she found in the iconic Babysitters Club series.