Ashley and Jess talk with trauma-informed somatic relationship coach Becky Aste about how the nervous system shapes our relationships far more than insight or communication skills alone.

Becky shares the breaking point in her own marriage at year ten, when she and her husband, with two young kids and a long history of a “chase and run” conflict pattern, chose separation and began discussing divorce. Despite years of therapy and self-development, they felt hopeless until Becky discovered somatic coaching during their separation. Learning to work with her body and nervous system, rather than just her thoughts, shifted her energy and the “dance” in their marriage. Over time, they reconciled and rebuilt a relationship with more safety, intimacy, and play.

The conversation explores key differences between traditional “neck up” therapy and somatic coaching, which focuses on present-moment body awareness and regulation. Becky explains how the vagus nerve and body-to-brain signaling mean that 80 percent of our experience is driven from the body upward, so ignoring the body leaves many couples stuck.They dive into topics like using sex as a way to regulate or avoid disconnection, dissociation as a protective mechanism, and how trauma shows up in symptoms such as anxiety, gut issues, and chronic illness. Becky reframes codependency as a fawn response rooted in early survival strategies and unpacks how common attachment styles—anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure—play out in partnership.

Throughout, she offers simple somatic tools such as grounding through the five senses, box breathing, and movement to discharge built-up energy. The episode also covers boundaries from a nervous system lens, the impact of modeling on children, and how to tell the difference between a trauma-triggered reaction and deeper intuition. Becky ultimately suggests that a lack of embodied safety to be authentic lies at the heart of many divorces.

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In this week's episode Ash and Jess interview Jason Gandzjuk, a mental health and mindset coach whose work centers on nervous system regulation, core childhood wounds, and embodiment rather than quick-fix protocols.

Jason traces his story back to losing his mother at 13, a trauma that split his psyche and set him on a decades-long journey through illness, professional motocross and cycling, and over $2 million spent on doctors, therapies, and protocols that never truly resolved his symptoms. He explains that meaningful healing only began when he turned inward, stopped outsourcing his health, and started listening to his body.

Jason's approach challenges the common wellness myths: the idea that a diagnosis (like Lyme disease or mold illness) is your identity, that healing is primarily about supplements and protocols, or that plant medicines alone will “fix” you. Instead, he frames illness as symbolic and instructive often pointing to unprocessed grief, lack of mothering (externally and internally), and disconnection from the body.

He always returns to foundations: sleep, nutrition, movement that feels good, play, fun, and “sacred appointments” you schedule with yourself each day. Without these basics, advanced tools like psychedelics can create more fragmentation than healing, especially if your metabolism and mineral status are depleted and you lack the capacity to integrate what surfaces.

Jason also explores relationship dynamics, safety, and the role of early childhood (especially ages 0–7, the “root chakra” phase) in shaping whether we can feel secure, receive love, and regulate our nervous systems. Illness, he suggests, is often the body’s “last successful strategy” to force us back into truth, boundaries, and self-responsibility.

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Ashley and Jess are joined by Vida Delrahim, co-founder of We Natal, to explore why fertility must be treated as a team sport and why the often-overlooked “trimester zero” is so critical.

Vida shares her personal journey of two heartbreaking pregnancy losses, the lack of meaningful guidance from conventional care, and how her best friend and co-founder Ronit, immersed in functional medicine, helped uncover root causes like Hashimoto’s and lifestyle-driven depletion. Their experiences led them to realize that men contribute 50% to pregnancy outcomes, yet are almost never evaluated or supported, despite sperm being highly sensitive to stress, toxins, heat, and nutrient status.

The conversation covers the global fertility crisis (rising infertility, plummeting sperm counts, and delayed childbearing), and the everyday drivers: environmental toxins, ultra-processed foods, chronic stress, poor sleep, and overtraining. Vida explains We Natal’s focus on high-quality, clean, evidence-based prenatals for both partners, and the importance of the three months before conception for improving egg and sperm quality.

They also dive into mental health, grief, community, and intuition: how mindset, support systems, and small, consistent lifestyle changes can transform the fertility journey and support healthier future generations.

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