Let's talk about sex. Or more specifically—why we're waiting.
Dr. Dee and Oscar are both over 40. Both have been married. Both have had children. And both have made the decision to wait until marriage—again.
In this episode, they break down why the sanctity of marriage matters more to them now than ever, how purity culture has historically burdened women while letting men off the hook, and what it's really like to make this choice when you're grown and fully aware of what you're giving up.
It's vulnerable. It's honest. And yes, it's still a little fun.
New episodes every other Sunday.
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What does success really look like in the dating pool — and who gets to define it?

In Episode 4, Dr. Dee and Oscar unpack the trending conversation about dating Black men in 2026. From the hidden economy behind dating successful people to the generational patterns quietly running our relationships, we're getting into all of it.

We also tackle the "traditional woman" conversation — because when men reference traditional values, they often point back to an era when women had no rights. That's not tradition. That's survival dressed up as preference.

Marriage used to be about survival. Today, we need partners who have done the work and come to the table healed. Big difference.

If you're navigating dating, faith, and figuring out what healthy actually looks like — this one is for you.

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In this episode:

• The real economy of dating successful men and women
• Generational dating patterns and where they come from
• Traditional values vs. trauma patterns
• Why marriage used to be about survival — and why that has to change
• What it means to come healed into relationship

This week Dr. Dee and Oscar are pulling back the curtain. We're unpacking a viral reel that exposed what too many people are living but nobody wants to say out loud: How can you be called to preach and still be completely chaotic at home? Why is the church celebrating image while intimacy is dying behind closed doors?
We're talking covenant over compatibility, character over title, and why sitting in the discomfort is the only way to build something real. If the pew version of your relationship looks nothing like the private version… we're talking to YOU.
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In this episode, they break down why spiritual maturity and alignment matter before marriage, and why praying together might be one of the most revealing things you can do while dating. Is it too intimate? Does it create a false connection? Or is it exactly how you find out if you're equally yoked?

This one got a little spicy. Pull up and join the conversation.

New episodes every other Sunday. Said what we said.

Before the deep conversations, the trending topics, and the matters of the heart—let's start with who we are.
Meet Dr. Dee: author, faith-based coach, and someone who's lived through more than a few plot twists. Meet Oscar: bold, dynamic, and unapologetically himself. Together, they're building something real—in love and on this mic.
In this intro episode, they share their individual journeys, how they found each other, and what you can expect from Off Mute: The Podcast. It's honest. It's personal. And it's just the beginning.
New episodes drop every other Sunday.