Petty, Personal, and Probably Oversharing

Episode Description

This episode is exactly what the title promises… a little petty, a little personal, and definitely oversharing.

We dive into one of those questions that makes you stop and really think: If you met every version of yourself — the child, the teenager, the broken version, and the healed version — who would you walk up to first?

From there the conversation spirals (in the best way) into relationships, emotional growth, and the things we absolutely refuse to tolerate anymore.

We talk about the green flags that make us feel safe, the non-negotiables we’ve learned the hard way, and the random little icks that instantly give us the “nope.”

Like most Unhinged Memoirs episodes… things get honest, a little chaotic, and very real.

In This Episode We Talk About

• The different versions of ourselves and which one deserves a hug first • Childhood wounds vs adult healing • What we would say to our younger selves • Relationship non-negotiables we refuse to compromise on • The green flags that actually make someone stand out • The petty little icks that immediately ruin the vibe • How life experience changes what we tolerate in relationships

Questions We Ask in This Episode

• If you met every version of yourself, who would you approach first? • What version of you needed the most compassion? • What are your relationship non-negotiables now that you didn’t have before? • What are subtle green flags people overlook? • What random icks instantly make you lose attraction?

Listener Challenge

Think about this: If you met the child version, teenage version, broken version, and healed version of yourself… who would you walk up to first and why?

Let us know in the comments or tag us on social media.

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3AM Thoughts – Part 2

This is the episode we intended to record last week before life hijacked the conversation.

Welcome to the real 3AM thoughts. The kind that show up when the house is quiet, your brain decides sleep is optional, and suddenly you’re unpacking your entire personality at 2:47 in the morning.

In this episode we dive into the thoughts that keep us up at night… and naturally spiral into some very honest and slightly unhinged conversations along the way.

Liz opens up about body dysmorphia and how, for a long time, intimacy became tied to validation. Being wanted felt like proof she was enough. It’s an honest look at how self image, relationships, and the need to feel desired can quietly shape the way we connect with people.

Jess unpacks her lifelong habit of “mothering” everyone. Friends. Partners. Kids. Probably strangers in the grocery store if we’re being honest. She talks about how when someone pulls away or she removes someone from her life, it doesn’t just feel like setting a boundary. It feels like abandoning a child. Which leads into a deeper realization about childhood abandonment and how it still shows up in adulthood… especially when it comes to holding on a little too tightly as your kids start gaining independence.

Valerie drops one of those thoughts that makes the room go quiet for a second. Sometimes healing isn’t about learning how to survive the dark parts of your life. Sometimes it’s about learning how to handle joy when it finally shows up.

Liz then hits us with a question that sends everyone straight into reflection mode: How old were you the first time you were forced to be strong?

From there Jess jumps into one of her hot takes… People are incredibly insecure about their looks, but somehow very confident about their character. Which… honestly explains a lot about the internet.

Valerie then dives headfirst into another one of her deep philosophical spirals about how sometimes we subconsciously choose partners that remind us of the parent who hurt us the most.

Also, in classic Valerie fashion, she introduces a new unnecessarily large vocabulary word into the podcast.

New Word Alert: Anthropologic.

And because no Unhinged Memoirs episode ends in a normal or mature way, we wrap things up by reading an email from a listener asking us to do an episode about “Tummy Sticks.”

Yes. That’s exactly what you think it means.

Apparently we’re adding childish slang for anatomy to our future episode list now.

Stay tuned.

3AM Thoughts – Part 1

We sat down fully intending to dive into the deep, existential 3AM thoughts that keep us up at night… but life had other plans.

Instead, this episode turned into a very real catch up on the chaos of the past week.

Liz opens up about ending a relationship and unexpectedly finding herself talking to someone who might just be her soulmate. The way he shows up for her has her wondering if this is what healthy love is actually supposed to feel like.

Valerie shares the emotional messiness of being friend zoned by someone she had feelings for. While it hurt, it also brought clarity. This season of life is about believing people when they show you they don’t want you and finally letting go instead of chasing.

Jess talks about the beautiful chaos of deep cleaning and remodeling her entire house, from the living room and dining room to the bathroom and loft, and everything that comes with trying to rebuild a space while life is still happening around you.

This episode may not have gone where we planned, but sometimes the conversations that happen naturally are the ones we need the most.

And don’t worry… those deep 3AM thoughts are still coming. Part 2 is where we finally dive into the questions that keep us awake at night.

No outline. No prep. No plan.

In this episode, we hit record and just… talked.

Work. Relationships. Parenting. Starting over. Career shifts. Identity changes. Kids. Growth. Chaos. Healing. Random thoughts that somehow turned into deep conversations.

This is what happens when three women sit down with microphones and let their brains go wherever they want.

We talk about:

• Starting over in life and not being afraid to pivot • Job changes and career growth • Relationships evolving • Parenting realities • Finding yourself again • The fear and freedom of rebuilding

It’s messy. It’s honest. It’s all over the place. And somehow… it all connects.

Welcome to Straight Tangents.

Bryan named this episode. That’s all you need to know.

In this chaotic, laugh-until-you-cry episode, we brought in a special guest to talk about co-parenting, how men’s brains actually work (apparently everything lives in separate “boxes”), and why communication between men and women sometimes feels like we’re speaking different languages.

We also covered:

• The reality of co-parenting from a man’s perspective • Why men compartmentalize everything • Emotional processing vs logical processing • The infamous moth-that-flew-into-his-ear story • What song is the soundtrack of his life (spoiler: MMMBop by Hanson) • And how we somehow spiraled into complete chaos and laughter

This episode is honest, unfiltered, slightly ridiculous, and surprisingly insightful.

If you’ve ever wondered how a man’s brain works — this one’s for you.

If you’ve ever laughed so hard you cried — also for you.

In this episode, we’re normalizing the things people love to judge.

We’re done pretending. We’re done apologizing. We’re done shrinking.

We’re talking about the things that should be normalized instead of condemned — the choices, boundaries, behaviors, and lifestyles that society still tries to shame.

From protecting your peace to cutting people off… From therapy to setting boundaries… From not wanting kids to not tolerating disrespect…

This episode is about choosing yourself — loudly.

If it makes you uncomfortable, good. Maybe it needed to be normalized.

Season 3, Bitches.

We’re back. And life has been life-ing.

In this first episode of Season 3, we’re catching you up on everything that’s happened since Season 2 — the growth, the chaos, the healing, the funny moments, the uncomfortable realizations, and the “oh… we’re actually evolving” type of shifts.

We’re talking:

• What changed in our lives since last season • The healing we didn’t expect to do • The relationships that stretched us • The growth that humbled us • The funny, unfiltered moments that kept us sane • And what Season 3 is really going to be about

This season feels different. More honest. More grounded. More us.

If you’ve been here since Season 1 — welcome back. If you’re new — buckle up.

We’re not the same women we were last season. And that’s kind of the point.

Have you ever caught yourself reacting to someone, only to realize it wasn’t really about them at all? In this episode, we unpack the hidden ways our unprocessed emotions, past wounds, and old narratives spill over into the present. From snapping at our kids when we’re really stressed, to feeling invisible in relationships and assuming rejection where none exists, we explore how projection and triggers quietly shape our interactions.

We’ll dive into:

• What projection actually is (and why it’s often our past talking, not the present).

• Common triggers—abandonment, rejection, not feeling seen, worthiness—and how they show up in everyday life.

• How numbness, as Lori Gottlieb says, isn’t the absence of feeling but the overload of them.

• Practical “in-the-moment resets” you can use when you feel hijacked by big emotions.

• How to tell the difference between your baggage and someone else’s.

Why it matters:

When we slow down and ask, “Whose baggage is this anyways?” we stop letting our wounds run the show. We create space for healthier communication, repair, and self-understanding—whether with our kids, our partners, our friends, or even ourselves.

✨ Takeaway: You’re not broken for being triggered. Your body is remembering. But you have the power to pause, reset, and choose a new response.