In Snack Size Deep Dive 7, we talk about one of the most uncomfortable truths in adult friendships: loving your friends deeply while secretly feeling competitive, jealous, or resentful when they get things you want.

This short, snackable episode unpacks why these feelings are far more common than we admit and why they don’t mean you’re a bad friend or a bad person. Through psychology-backed insights on social comparison, self-esteem, scarcity mindset, and identity threat, you’ll learn why your friends’ success can feel like a personal failure, and how to turn that discomfort into self-awareness instead of shame.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why jealousy and love can coexist
• The psychology behind comparison in close friendships
• How low self-worth fuels competitiveness
• Why your friends’ wins trigger insecurity
• How to stop letting comparison damage meaningful relationships

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In Episode 18 of Things We Say in Therapy, we dive into why so many of us tolerate disappointing ourselves but panic at the thought of letting others down. Discover the psychological roots of people pleasing, the impact of childhood conditioning, and why your fear of disappointing others may be sabotaging your self-worth. Learn practical steps to set boundaries, validate yourself, and break free from self-neglect and self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt torn between your own needs and others’ expectations, this episode is a must-listen for your mental health journey.

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• The differences between disappointing yourself vs. others
• How fear of abandonment and rejection shapes your decisions
• The emotional costs of people pleasing
• Steps to build self-awareness and healthy boundaries
• Why self-validation is crucial for lasting growth

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Why does imagining life feel safer than actually living it?

In Snack Size Deep Dive 5, we explore maladaptive daydreaming: the habit of retreating into imagined scenarios, worst-case outcomes, or fantasy worlds as a way to cope with discomfort, anxiety, or trauma.

If real life feels unsafe, overwhelming, or unpredictable, your mind may have learned to escape inward. While imagination can feel protective, relying on it too heavily can quietly keep you stuck, disconnected, and avoiding growth.

If you struggle with:

• Avoidance and escapism
• Living in your head instead of the present
• Social anxiety or fear of embarrassment
• Feeling safer imagining life than participating in it
• Wanting to heal but feeling stuck

This episode is for you.

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