It's Friday. Pause for a breath you didn't know you were holding. Exhale.

This week's Soft Landings affirmation is for the woman who's tired of measuring herself against someone else's yardstick. For midlife women exhausted from the endless performance of worth.

Today's Affirmation:

"I release the belief that my worth is defined by what I've been taught to buy, do, or become."

You don't need the right house, the right body, the right title to matter. You don't need to achieve enough, accumulate enough, or transform enough to be worthy.

Your worth isn't a product.
It isn't a performance.
It isn't a before-and-after photo.

This weekly self-worth affirmation for women in midlife is a gentle reminder: you're already whole. Worthy without the purchase. Worthy without the productivity. Worthy without the perfect transformation.

What would it feel like to stop chasing someone else's definition of enough?

Not because you've proven anything. Not because you've earned the right. Just because you're already whole.

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You've been propagandised today. Probably in the last hour. And I'm not talking about political ads or conspiracy theories—I'm talking about ideas that feel so obvious, so natural, so true that you'd never think to question them.

In this episode, we explore what propaganda actually is, how it works in modern society, and why the most effective propaganda doesn't look like propaganda at all.

Here's what surprised me most while researching this episode:

The best propaganda isn't loud. It's not flashy. It's quiet, repetitive, and boring. It blends into the background until you forget there were other ways to think. And the language we use every day, from news headlines to social media, is doing more work than you realise.

We dive into:

• Why billionaires buy newspapers (and what that has to do with your morning coffee routine)
• Why does how we talk about certain things matter more than you think
• How "both sides" became propaganda itself
• A trend you've definitely seen on social media that's actually a masterclass in normalisation
• The question that changes everything: not whether you're influenced, but whether you're aware

You'll hear from: Jacques Ellul, Antonio Gramsci, Stuart Hall, Michel Foucault, and Paulo Freire, but don't worry, I make it actually interesting.

Fair warning: Once you hear this, you'll start seeing propaganda everywhere. Your social media feed. Your work culture. Maybe even in this very podcast description. There's no going back.

Listen, if you've ever wondered:

• Why certain ideas feel "obviously true"
• How the media shapes what we think is normal
• What makes something "extreme" vs. "reasonable"
• Whether you can actually think for yourself (spoiler: it's complicated)

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Exhale. TGIF

This weekly affirmation is for you if you've been told that you need a five-year plan when you can barely figure out what you want for lunch.

This week's affirmation:
"I release the belief that I have to earn my rest."


New Soft Landings every Friday. Save this. Share it. Come back to it when you need the reminder. 🤍

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Every Friday on The Scenic Route, one grounded affirmation to help you rest, reset, and remember you're way back home to yourself.

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"Everyone has ADHD now."

You've heard it. Maybe someone said it to you — with a half-joke, half-accusation edge. Like, neurodivergence is just the trend of the season.

But what if that reaction tells us less about ADHD and more about the systems we're living in?

In this conversation with Kristina Kyser — psychotherapist, educator, and creator of the Neurodivergent Rising course — we pull apart the "ADHD superpower" narrative that's everywhere right now. Because yes, there are gifts: innovation, nonlinear thinking, deep passion, hyperfocus. Those are real.

But who benefits when we only talk about the parts of capitalism that it can extract?


What We Cover:

ADHD masking: the invisible labour of appearing "normal"
From childhood, neurodivergent people — especially women — calibrate to a world that says: you're too much, you're wrong, you're different. Kristina breaks down what masking costs and why perimenopause often unmasks ADHD in midlife.

The construction of "sanity" and who it was built to serve
Normalcy isn't neutral. The DSM, psychiatry, the witch burnings — all of it is tangled with patriarchy, colonialism, and capitalism's need for compliant workers. Kristina traces the historical roots of how neurodivergence gets pathologised.

The superpower question: what's true, what's missing, who profits
Yes, ADHD comes with strengths. But when we only celebrate the traits capitalism values (innovation! hyperfocus! productivity!) while erasing the lows, the burnout, the 13-year shorter life expectancy, the systemic barriers — who does that serve?

Why ADHD is a disability under capitalism — and that's not your fault
ADHD isn't a medical deficit. But in a society built for neurotypical brains, it is disabling. Kristina explains the difference between individual healing and systemic change, and why we need both.

Meet Kristina Kyser:

Kristina (she/her) is a late-diagnosed AuDHD educator, former psychotherapist, and course creator with a PhD in English Literature and over 13 years of clinical experience. Her work bridges trauma healing, animist practice, and systems-level critique. She creates initiatory spaces that blend science, soul, and lived neurodivergence in service of collective remembering and repair.

Learn more:
Neurodivergent Rising Course
Connect with Kristina on Instagram

Recommended Resource:
Unmasking Autism by Devon Price

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Exhale. TGIF

This weekly affirmation is for you if you've been told that you need a five-year plan when you can barely figure out what you want for lunch.

This week's affirmation:
"I release the pressure to figure out my purpose. I start with listening inward what I need in this moment."

You don't have to have it all mapped out. What you need right now matters more than what you think you should want five years from now.

New Soft Landings every Friday. Save this. Share it. Come back to it when you need the reminder. 🤍

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Here's the thing nobody tells you: the way you order at a restaurant says A LOT about how you move through life.

Are you the person who waits to hear what everyone else is getting before you decide? Do you need everyone's opinion before you can choose? Are you picking what you want, and it feels weirdly vulnerable?

Yeah. We need to talk.

In this episode, I sit down with Jillian Reilly, author of Ten Permissions: How to Stop Waiting and Start Living, to talk about why so many of us can't make the smallest choices for ourselves, and what that says about the bigger life we're (not) living.

We dig into:

• Why approval-seeking starts at lunch and ends with your whole identity
• The terror of wanting something no one else validates
• How to build choice-making muscles before you blow up your life
• Why pleasure isn't selfish (and might be the most strategic thing you can practice)
• What happens when the old rules stop working, and there's no new manual

This conversation is for the overthinkers, the people-pleasers, the ones who've spent decades being "good" and are now sitting in the rubble of what that actually got them.



About Jillian Reilly

Jillian Reilly is a founder, author, and keynote speaker. Having spent her 30-year career working in social, organisational, and individual change across Africa, Asia, and Central Europe, Jillian’s focus is on helping people unlock their ability to navigate change and accelerate growth and learning. Jillian’s book, The Ten Permissions, guides readers in permitting themselves to update how they operate in the 21st century and design lives that fully leverage the possibilities of this disruptive world. Jillian is a TEDX speaker and podcast host who has been published on international affairs in the Washington Post, Newsweek and the LA Times.

Find Jillian

• Website: tenpermissions.com

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There's a particular moment many of us know well — when everything feels like too much. Not dramatically, but quietly, heavily, relentlessly. You're still functioning, still showing up, but inside, something is fraying. And the most painful part? The story you tell yourself about it: I should be able to handle this.

In this episode, we explore why overwhelm isn't a personal failure — it's a predictable outcome when multiple vulnerabilities align. Using insights from the Swiss Cheese Model and Paul Gilbert's three emotional systems, we unpack why your nervous system can't "just cope" when recovery is structurally unavailable.

This isn't about becoming stronger. It's about understanding why one small change can still matter — even when everything feels impossible.

We'll explore:

• Why overwhelm is rarely about one thing — it's an accumulation of pressures that align
• How the Swiss Cheese Model explains why burnout happens when recovery becomes impossible
• The three emotional systems (Threat, Drive, and Soothing) and why modern life keeps two constantly activated
• Why your nervous system needs recovery cycles, not just more willpower
• How one small change can close one vulnerability — and why that matters
• Why resistance to small changes is often a sign of how depleted you are

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Pause for a breath you didn't know you were holding.

This soft landing is for the woman who's been holding it together so well that no one thinks to ask if she's okay.

This week's affirmation:
"The strategies, steps, decisions that got me here served their purpose — I release them with grace."

You don't have to carry what no longer fits. You don't have to make letting go mean you failed.

What got you here won't always get you where you're going. And that's okay.

This weekend, ask yourself: What am I holding onto simply because it once worked?

Thank it. And let it go.

New Soft Landings every Friday. Save this. Share it. Come back to it when you need the reminder. 🤍

About Soft Landings:
Every Friday on The Scenic Route, one grounded affirmation to help you rest, reset, and remember who you are.

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