You know that list in your head.

I should really get on that. I should be further along. I should be doing more. I should have that handled by now.

That list.

Here's what I want to say about that list: it's making you miserable. And the worst part? You built it yourself. Often from what you saw on Instagram, what your critical parent modeled, or what the self-help industrial complex told you was possible if you just tried a little harder.

This episode is a reality check. Not a permission slip to do nothing. There are real things that need doing and we're going to talk about that too. But there's a difference between what actually needs your attention and the impossible standard you've been holding yourself to. And until you can see that difference clearly, no amount of productivity hacking is going to help.

If you're exhausted in a way that sleep doesn't fix, this one's for you.

3 Things You’ll Take Away:

1. Your to-do list is lying to you. If it has 35 things on it and you did 15, you didn't fail. You made a list that was never possible to begin with. This episode helps you see that and build one that's actually human-sized.
2. What you're seeing online isn't real life. The woman with the perfect pool and the Hunter boots and the coffee and the garden at 6am? She has a team. Robyn breaks down what it actually costs to live that life and why comparing yourself to it is costing you something too.
3. Presence is the whole point. You can get it all right and still miss it entirely. This episode comes back to what actually matters: being here, in this moment, with yourself and the people you love.

⏰ Timestamps

(00:00) Personal growth shouldn't be another thing that burdens your life

(03:00) The should list and what it's doing to you

(05:00) The Sisyphus boulder you keep rolling up the hill

(08:00) Before social media, people didn't try to optimize every category of their life

(11:00) The garden metaphor: why front-loaded effort requires everything else to slip

(15:00) The Instagram woman with the Hunter boots and what her life actually costs

(22:00) The psychological distance between what's true and what's possible

(24:00) The 35-item to-do list and why you're beating yourself up for it

(27:00) What grief, a garden, a renovation, and a career change all have in common

(30:00) The mindfulness piece and why being here now isn't just a platitude

(32:00) The Haudenosaunee Thanksgiving address and bringing your mind into the room

(34:00) The ADHD piece and why keeping up with anything feels impossible

(36:00) The fine line between what you get to do and what you need to do

(40:00) Was I present or just busy?

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a home.

About Robyn Ivy

Robyn Ivy sees people for a living. A trusted mentor, intuitive, and fierce advocate for a creative life, she spent over 20 years as a commercial photographer — honing her powerful skills as a witness.

She guides clients 1:1 through transitions, deep growth, and meaningful change. Her workshops, groups, and programs give you the insights and practices to live more confidently, creatively, and from your truest wisdom.

You'll often find her traveling in a camper van, sitting with the trees, or capturing the beauty of nature. Raising her now-grown sons Rook and Cole has been the greatest joy of her life.

Some conversations are so good they deserve a second life.

This is one of them.

I recorded this with Alisa Barry back in episode 20 — and I still think about it.

Alisa is one of the few people I know who has truly, successfully built a beautiful life on purpose. Not as an aesthetic — as a practice. She started a café in Atlanta in the early 90s because she loved food and beautiful things and eating as a ritual. That café became Bella Cucina Artful Food — an artisan brand that's been in Oprah's Favorite Things twice, carried in specialty stores around the world, and built entirely on the idea that what's on your table matters.

She's also a Japanese ink artist with a 25-year private meditation practice. A curator of objects sourced from around the globe. Someone who picks and chooses — products, people, design, art — specifically to illuminate and elevate your life.

In this conversation we go deep on devotion as a discipline. On what it took for her to claim herself as an artist after years of being known as a business owner. On the simple, powerful daily practices that brought her back to herself when her business started feeling like something she had to do instead of something she loved.

She does things in such a potent, spacious, simple way. You'll leave this one inspired — and probably a little more chaotic than you wish you were. Which, same.

3 Things You’ll Take Away:

1. Devotion as discipline. When Alisa burned out, instead of pushing harder, she came back to simple daily practices that grounded her day and reconnected her to what was beautiful and important. This is what sustainable looks like.
2. Claiming yourself as an artist. Even when the world knows you as something else. Even when you didn't go to school for it. Alisa talks about what it took to step into that identity and how it helped her feel whole.
3. How to curate a beautiful life on purpose. Not as a luxury. As a daily choice. What you put on your table, how you begin your day, what you let in, it all adds up to something. This episode shows you what that can look like.

⏰ Timestamps

(00:00) Why I'm bringing this one back — and what the peonies have to do with it

(05:00) The Eggplant Lady origin story

(09:00) How she ran a busy business and still lived slowly

(13:00) Burning out — and the artist retreat that changed everything

(17:00) Claiming yourself as an artist even when you don't feel like one

(20:00) Curation as a way of life

(23:00) Morning pages and what they revealed

(28:00) Devotion as discipline — the rituals that hold everything together

(35:00) Beauty as a daily practice

(45:00) Leading with curiosity

(55:00) What it means to curate a beautiful life on purpose

🔗 Connect with Robyn Ivy

🌿 Instagram – @robynivy

🧠 Website – www.robynivy.com

💌 Email – robyn@robynivy.com

✨ Want support in your own season?

Book an Intuitive Clarity Session — robynivy.com/clarity

Want to connect with a loved one who has passed? Book a Mediumship Session — robynivy.com/clarity

Taking a few new 3-month mentoring clients — email me at robyn@robynivy.com

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MORE ABOUT ALISA BARRY:

Alisa Barry is an artist, author, and entrepreneur. In the early 90s she opened a café in Atlanta to share her passion for cooking and eating as an artful ritual. From that café grew Bella Cucina Artful Food — an all-natural artisan product line now available in lifestyle, gift, and specialty stores around the world. Featured in Oprah's Favorite Things twice, and in Food & Wine, Martha Stewart Living, and Better Homes & Gardens. Author of two bestselling books, La Bella Vita and Il Piccolo Libro. A Japanese ink artist with a private practice spanning over 25 years, Alisa curates objects of affection from around the globe and calls Atlanta home.

🔗 Connect with Alisa Barry

🌿 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/bellacucinaartfulfood

🧠 Website – https://bellacucina.com

I'm home.

And I almost immediately got flattened by some kind of virus that was behaving like pneumonia. I was actually mid-recording when I got super hot out of nowhere, sweaty, and passed out. Two weeks later — here we are.

Not exactly the re-entry I planned.

But coming home after almost two months away, in the middle of a completely different season than when I left, got me thinking. About what's here now. What's blooming? What needs to go? And what this particular moment in your life might actually be trying to tell you — if you'd slow down long enough to listen.

My backyard wisteria is doing something I've never seen in the decade I've lived here. A third of my yard is covered in the most extraordinary purple blooms you've ever seen. The irises just opened their faces to the sun 48 hours ago. The peonies are about to burst.

And I keep asking myself — what's the equivalent of that in your life right now?

Because here's what I know. Whatever season you're in, whatever's calling you or challenging you or scaring the hell out of you — there's a reason for it. You're being forged for something. And what needs you next will have you as prepared, capable, and whole as you can be — if you lean into what's happening now instead of running from it.

That's what this episode is about.

3 Things You’ll Take Away:

1. What's actually blooming in your life right now. Not what you think should be happening… what actually is. This episode helps you pause, look around, and get honest about what this season is asking of you.
2. What needs to be composted. The relationships, commitments, and habits that were right for a season that's now over. Letting them go more than loss; it's how you make room for what's next.
3. Why leaning in is always the move. Whatever you're being forged in right now is preparing you for something. I make the case, with real stories, for why avoidance costs more than it saves.

⏰ Timestamps

(00:00) Clarity, Change & Intuitive Growth

(04:29) Mastering Change Through Sisterhood

(07:59) Overcoming Decision Fatigue at the Gym

(11:45) Accountability and Personal Change

(13:16) Finding a Workout Routine

(19:26) Strength for Life’s Challenges

(22:12) Embracing Growth and Commitment

(24:04) Growth Through Support and Reflection

(27:50) Finding Your Right Fit

(32:43) Balance in Community Spaces

(36:56) Slow Down and Recenter

(39:58) Progress, Reality, and Adaptation

(41:42) Commit, Progress, Achieve Goals

🔗 Connect with Robyn Ivy

🌿 Instagram – @robynivy

🧠 Website – www.robynivy.com

🎧 The Robyn Ivy Podcast – Listen on Apple | Spotify

💌 Email – robyn@robynivy.com

MORE ABOUT ROBYN IVY:

Robyn Ivy sees people for a living.

A trusted intuitive, coach and fierce advocate for tree portals and a creative life, she spent over 20 years as a commercial photographer, honing her powerful skills as a witness.

Host of the Robyn Ivy Podcast, where she discusses how to be more present to our lives and create what’s next with today’s prominent thought leaders, spiritual mentors and creative guides.

Robyn mentors clients 1:1 through transitions, deep growth and meaningful change in a fun and inspiring way. Her workshops, groups and programs offer you insights and practices to live more confidently, creatively and from your truest wisdom.

You will often find her traveling in a camper van, sitting with the trees or capturing the beauty of nature. Raising her now grown sons Rook and Cole is her best work yet.