Episode #1099

What do you do when your wife tells you she's been faking it for 30 years?

Is it a test? Is she trying to get a reaction? Or is this the beginning of the end?

In this episode, we unpack a real story from one of our men whose wife told him she was never truly attracted to him and only stayed for the kids. Most guys would get defensive. They'd argue the facts. They'd collapse into shame. Or they'd chase.

He didn't.

He stayed grounded. He stayed curious. He didn't make it about himself. And that response alone changed the dynamic.

We talk about what a safety test actually is and why so many men fail it. We break down how to hear the emotion underneath the words instead of reacting to the content. And we get honest about the other possibility too, that maybe it's not a test at all. Maybe it's complete.

If that's the case, how do you move forward without falling apart? How do you make sure your worth isn't tied to the relationship? How do you handle it in a way you can look back on without regret?

This is a real conversation about staying steady when everything feels uncertain. About not chasing. Not collapsing. Not reacting. But standing firm in who you are, whether the marriage rebuilds or ends.

If your relationship feels shaky right now, this episode will challenge you in the right way.

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Episode #1098

A lot of men struggle to own their wins.

Instead of standing tall, they make a joke. They downplay it. They get the dig in before anyone else can. It sounds like humor. But underneath it is often low self-worth, fear of looking arrogant, or a need to stay in control.

In this episode, we unpack why so many men use self-deprecation as armor. We talk about where it starts, how it gets wired in from family, school, or early work environments, and how it follows you into your business and your marriage.

If you've ever brushed off praise or felt uncomfortable saying "yeah, I did that and I'm proud of it," this conversation will land. We get into how dimming your light doesn't just affect you. It impacts your wife. It impacts your leadership. There's a big difference between vulnerability and tearing yourself down.

This episode is direct and practical. You'll walk away with simple ways to slow down your reactions, catch the pattern before it comes out of your mouth, and start building real internal confidence.

If your relationship feels off and you're not sure where things started slipping, the first step is getting clear on what's actually broken.

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It will show you exactly why your relationship feels the way it does and give you a clear path to start turning it around.

Episode #1097

How do you encourage your partner to grow… without making them feel like they're not enough? That's the question we're digging into in this episode

A lot of men make this mistake. They start doing personal development. They feel better. They see the benefits. Then they turn to their wife and say, "You should do this too." What she hears is, "Something's wrong with you." And that's where the resistance starts.

We talk about why pushing growth almost always backfires, and what actually works instead. It starts with being the example. Not in a holier-than-thou way. Not in a "I've figured it out" way. But in a grounded, consistent way where you just live it. When you're doing the work, sharing what you're learning, and applying it in your own life, it becomes contagious.

We also get into the idea of judgment and the gap. The gap between where you are and where you think you or your partner should be. When you focus on that gap, it creates tension. When you own your own growth and detach from how it should look for them, things shift.

This conversation is honest. I share examples from my own marriage, including times I tried to hand my wife the "right" book and it went nowhere. Not because she didn't care, but because it wasn't hers. Growth has to be chosen. You can't force it.

If you want your partner to rise, rise first. Lead your home by who you are, not by what you tell her to fix.

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