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The One You Feed

The One You Feed

By: Eric Zimmer
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 Transformative ideas from the best thinkers on the planet including guests like James Clear, Susan Cain, Michael Pollan, Deepak Chopra, Nicole LaPera, Yung Pueblo, Gabor Mate, Maggie Smith, David Whyte, Macklemore, George Saunders, Anne Lamott, Frank Turner, Mark Manson, Tara Brach, AJ Jacobs, Oliver Burkeman, Ryan Holiday, Parker Palmer. It’s not about perfection; it’s about direction. Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Spirituality
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  • From People Pleasing to Self-Trust: Breaking the Cycle of Fawning with Ingrid Clayton

    From People Pleasing to Self-Trust: Breaking the Cycle of Fawning with Ingrid Clayton
    Feb 3 2026
    In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one’s authentic voice and boundaries. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism. Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn. Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze. Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood. The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma. Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency. The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning. Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys. Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches. Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes: How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein ⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠.⁠ ⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • Why Family Relationships Are So Hard and What Actually Helps with Nedra Glover Tawwab

    Why Family Relationships Are So Hard and What Actually Helps with Nedra Glover Tawwab
    Jan 30 2026
    In this episode, Nedra Glover Tawwab talks about why family relationships are so hard and what actually helps navigate them. She explores the complexities of family dynamics, self-sabotage, and why people resist change. Nedra also shares insights on managing discomfort, setting boundaries, and accepting others’ limitations. The conversation covers practical strategies for healthier relationships, the challenges of being a “cycle breaker,” and how to navigate difficult conversations. You'll discover compassionate guidance for breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering self-awareness, acceptance, and growth in family and personal relationships. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Family dynamics and their impact on personal development Understanding and managing unhealthy relationships The concept of self-sabotage and its connection to discomfort The role of emotional patterns in addiction and recovery Navigating relationships with individuals resistant to change The significance of personal accountability in healing The complexities of shame and its effects on relationships Strategies for effective communication and resolving circular conversations The importance of self-compassion and acceptance in difficult relationships Recognizing and addressing the influence of family roles and expectations on identity For full show notes: ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out these other episodes: How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to davidprotein.com/FEED. ⁠Hungry Root⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 5 mins
  • How To Cultivate Excellence in a Chaotic World with Brad Stulberg

    How To Cultivate Excellence in a Chaotic World with Brad Stulberg
    Jan 27 2026
    Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠⁠! In this episode, Brad Stulberg explores how to cultivate excellence in a chaotic world. He explains how excellence is a lifelong practice rooted in daily effort, presence, and values, not a final achievement. Brad also discusses the importance of process over outcome, balancing ambition with self-kindness, and finding meaning through consistent, value-driven actions. The conversation also covers overcoming burnout, the illusion of perfect balance, and how to live intentionally in a chaotic world, offering practical advice for cultivating fulfillment and true greatness in everyday life. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept of excellence as a continuous practice rather than a fixed destination. The transformative nature of pursuing goals and its impact on character and personal growth. The importance of a process mindset, focusing on daily efforts and consistency. The metaphor of "feeding the good wolf" to emphasize nurturing positive qualities. The balance between striving for outcomes and being present in the process. The significance of measuring effort over outcomes for sustained progress. The idea of "raising the floor" to improve performance on average days. The role of care and commitment in achieving excellence. The distinction between meaningful engagement and the pitfalls of comfort and convenience. The necessity of intentional living and effort in a chaotic, technology-driven world. For full show notes: ⁠click here⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Brad Stulberg, check out these other episodes: The Practice of Groundedness with Brad Stulberg Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Hungry Root: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to www.hungryroot.com/feed and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Check out ⁠Mountains to Cross ⁠by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 12 mins
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