“The Quiet That Changes You”

There’s a moment in every journey where the noise finally fades… and what’s left is the truth.

This episode is built for that moment.

The Quiet That Changes You is a solution‑based compilation — a curated collection of the language of the heart. It weaves together reflective questions, lived experience, and grounded emotional clarity to guide you back to yourself. Each segment is intentionally chosen to help you slow down, listen inward, and reconnect with the parts of you that have been asking for attention.

Through stillness, self‑honesty, and a mid‑episode intermission designed to reset your spirit, this compilation invites you to release the weight you’ve been carrying — the old stories, the survival patterns, the expectations that no longer fit who you’re becoming.

This isn’t motivation.

This isn’t hype.

This is a return to yourself.

If you’ve been craving peace, direction, or a deeper sense of alignment, this episode will meet you exactly where you are and help you step into the version of you that’s been waiting on the other side of letting go.

Welcome to The Lose Control Experience — where letting go becomes your greatest strength.

Episode Title: Simply Katie — Unfolding, Unapologetic & Unfinished

Series Theme: A Paradox to Positive, Peaceful Living

Guest: Katie (aka Katie B, Katie W, Katie U)

Sobriety Date: September 23, 2005

Episode Summary

This week, we sit with a woman whose story doesn’t just echo through the rooms—it roars through the silence most people are too afraid to face. Katie has lived many lives under many names, but today, she’s stripped it all down. She’s simply Katie.

Nearly 20 years sober, Katie’s journey is one of chaos, clarity, and courage. From childhood trauma and addiction by age 15 to a suicide attempt at 20, her path to recovery began with a single act of surrender. She found refuge in Oxford House and rebuilt her life—one breath, one breakdown, one truth at a time.

Katie’s recovery is layered and lived. She’s a sponsor, treasurer, and servant leader in the rooms. She’s helped the very friend who gave her her first drink find sobriety years later. Her story is full-circle. Full of grit. Full of grace.

She’s known redemption: a career in finance, homeownership, and financial freedom. And reckoning—spending a night in jail sober after 19 years, facing demons she thought were buried. Her life is proof that recovery isn’t a finish line—it’s a daily choice.

Katie finds peace in meditation, nature, and the power of pen and paper. The Big Book isn’t just something she reads—it’s something she breathes. She’s never cured. Always becoming.

Her family is the tribe she’s found in recovery. Her soul rests best by the ocean or a mountain river. She’s danced, cried, created, and sat in the stillness of early morning coffee with nothing but gratitude and grit.

This episode isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. It’s about what happens when you lose control of the life you thought you wanted… and find the one you were born to live.

Today’s guest is someone who hasn’t just lived through life’s seasons—he’s been shaped, shattered, and spiritually reassembled by them.

From Catholic boyhood and altar steps to the chaos of addiction and unspoken wounds… From the reckless rebellion of youth to decades lost in boardrooms, barrooms, and blurred boundaries... From collapsing under the weight of ego to rising with humility as compass.

This isn’t just a story—it’s a resurrection.

Ted Bower’s life is a layered testimony: innocence undone, trauma absorbed, rebellion ignited, and clarity earned. He’s walked through silence, storms, and surrender. And he’s come out the other side not perfect—but honest. Not untouched—but transformed.

What looks like rock bottom? For him, it was the ground floor of transformation. Where Step One wasn't just recovery language—it was a spiritual reckoning.

Through God-moments and brutal honesty, through Steps and service, Ted discovered that true healing doesn’t come in the absence of pain—it’s born right in the middle of it. His path reveals something simple but profound: the disease doesn’t need liquor, and the soul doesn’t need applause. It needs truth. Stillness. And a willingness to be undone.

Now, at 50+, Ted isn’t finished—he’s barely scratching the surface. Still dissolving. Still listening. Still becoming.

So if you’ve ever found yourself caught between projection and purpose, performance and peace… this one’s for you.

This is not just a conversation. It’s a confession. A reckoning. A spiritual initiation into the seasons that shape us… and the choices that save us.

Let’s dive in.