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The Invisible Money Scripts Sabotaging Your Success (And How to Rewrite Them)

The Invisible Money Scripts Sabotaging Your Success (And How to Rewrite Them)

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 My Personal Financial Adviser Paradox How I spent years giving brilliant financial advice whilst being unable to follow it myselfWhy excess money never felt safe to hold - everything above day-to-day needs felt dangerousThe realisation that it wasn't about willpower, knowledge, or self-controlHow inherited beliefs about money scarcity and "dirty money" from family arguments shaped my nervous system responses Understanding Borrowed Beliefs - The Father Christmas Analogy Borrowed beliefs as gifts in Father Christmas's sack - given with love but not all serving us todayHow these beliefs often hold secondary gains and serve us in some way (usually safety)The importance of returning unused "gifts" with love and gratitude to break generational patternsWhy changing our money relationship impacts every future generation Where Inherited Money Scripts Come From Family dynamics and early childhood experiences (my Warwick Castle story about my brother losing £20)Religious and cultural influences on money beliefsSpecific historical events our families lived throughPersonal money experiences that create lasting impressionsThe crucial question: "In my family, money was..." The Three Predictable Patterns of Borrowed Beliefs Low Receiving Pattern: Difficulty allowing money, opportunities, or compliments to come inCommon beliefs: "Rich people are greedy," "Money corrupts people," "I don't deserve money"Shows up as: undercharging, deflecting compliments, turning down opportunities, feeling guilty about successMy personal example of struggling with praise and awards Low Holding Pattern: Brilliant at making money but terrible at keeping itCommon beliefs: "Money disappears anyway," "Something bad happens when I have too much"Shows up as: impulsive spending after earning well, self-sabotage when successful, anxiety about bank balancesCase study of my student hitting six-figure months then immediately booking lavish holidays Low Giving Pattern: Fear-based hoarding rather than conscious savingCommon beliefs: "I can't afford to be generous," "If I give, there won't be enough for me"Shows up as: difficulty investing in yourself, anxiety about spending on others, perpetual "rainy day" saving The Family Money Tree Exercise How to map out your family's money patterns across generationsQuestions to explore: Was money talked about openly? Was it a source of arguments? Who controlled money?Common inherited phrases and their impacts: "Money doesn't grow on trees" = scarcity programming"Money's the root of all evil" = spiritual guilt around wealth"We can't afford it" = limitation mindset"Money doesn't buy happiness" = pacifist money story The Generational and Cultural Context How survival strategies from the Great Depression or wartime still influence us todayDifferent cultural approaches to wealth - celebration vs. modestyGender dynamics between maternal and paternal money influencesThe historical context that made these beliefs necessary for survival Conscious Choice and Legacy Work Recognising which beliefs served our families but no longer serve usThe power shift from unconscious inheritance to conscious choiceHow this work creates transformation for coaches, therapists, and financial professionalsThe ripple effect of changing generational money patterns Final Thought This episode emphasises that changing our relationship with money isn't just personal work - it's legacy work that impacts every future generation. When we consciously choose which inherited beliefs to keep and which to lovingly release, we're not just transforming our own financial reality, we're changing the money story for generations to come. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Money Beliefs 02:10 The Impact of Family Money Stories 05:25 Understanding Borrowed Beliefs 08:32 Identifying Personal Money Experiences 11:57 The Blueprint of Money in Families 17:00 Patterns of Money Behavior 22:24 Mapping Your Money Tree 29:44 Choosing New Money Beliefs Resources: Get my FREE book 'It's Not About The Money' Take the Money StoryTypes® Quiz Sign up to my FREE Newsletter Become a Certified Financial Coach Get Investing with my course - Use code INVEST50OFF2024 for 50% off as a podcast listener. Listen to the previous podcast episode - The Future Of Money and AI With Natalie MacNeil Listen to the previous podcast episode - How Digital Currency Is Rewiring Our Money Mindset
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