Talking about mental health doesn’t come naturally to most dads — and divorce can make that even harder.

Kate is joined by Mark Guthrie, Team Lead for our Assisted Divorce Service at amicable, a divorced dad and previously a professional McKenzie friend, to talk about why men struggle to open up during separation, and what can help.

We talk about:

• Why mental health is so often overlooked for men going through divorce
• What a professional McKenzie friend is and how they can support you
• How abuse in relationships can show up during the divorce process
• Where to find support if you’re struggling to speak out

This episode is for anyone navigating separation as a man, or who wants to understand what that experience can look like.

Trigger warning: this episode touches on content that some listeners might find distressing, such as abuse and poor mental health. If you need support, ManKind Initiative, Men’s Advice Line, your GP, Mind, Samaritans (116 123), Women’s Aid, Refuge, and YoungMinds Crisis Messenger can all help. If your life is in danger, dial 999.

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Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness and timing, navigating separation with kindness and rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today.

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In partnership with Octopus Money

Welcome back to our 3-part mini-series on The Divorce Podcast, on finance before, during and after divorce. This is the last part - all about helping you set up for a financial fresh start.

It’s easy to think the financial work is done once a divorce is finalised – but this is actually where the rebuilding begins. Kate is joined again by Molly Haylett, Chartered Financial Planner at Octopus Money, to talk you through the main steps.

We talk about:

• Why implementing your pension sharing order shouldn’t wait
• Getting familiar with your new cash flow
• Checking your will and pension beneficiary nominations reflect your wishes today
• Small, realistic habits for rebuilding savings and credit after divorce

If you missed parts 1 and 2, go back and catch Molly’s tips on getting organised at the start of the process and making sense of the money mid-divorce.

The discussions in this podcast, including the adviser's own experiences, are not personal recommendations. Please seek advice from an authorised adviser familiar with your circumstances before taking action. This podcast provides general information only and does not constitute regulated financial advice. Octopus Money is authorised and regulated by the Financial Conduct Authority. This content is intended for UK residents only and is based on UK regulation as of the date of recording.

About Octopus Money

Octopus Money is on a mission to make investing and money advice accessible to all – because we believe everyone deserves to feel confident about their future. You can get in touch with them to find out more on their website.

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Kate’s book amicable divorce includes a dedicated chapter on navigating finances during separation, including reaching financial agreements based on your real needs (not just 50/50 splits) and guidance on commonly overlooked assets like pensions. Find it on Amazon today.

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In partnership with Octopus Money

Welcome back to our 3-part mini-series on The Divorce Podcast, on finance before, during and after divorce. This is part 2.

The two biggest things that come up in the middle of a divorce? The family home and pensions – and neither is as simple as it first looks.

Kate is joined again by Molly Haylett, Chartered Financial Planner at Octopus Money, to unpack the biggest financial decisions you’ll face once you’re in the thick of the process.

We talk about:

• How to get a reliable valuation on the family home, and the difference between selling and transferring
• Why mortgage capacity matters as much as the percentage split
• The difference between defined benefit and defined contribution pensions, and why it matters
• What a pension on divorce (POD) report is, and when it’s worth getting one

If you missed part 1, go back and catch Molly’s tips for getting organised at the start of the process. Stay tuned for part 3, where we cover rebuilding your finances once your divorce is finalised.

The discussions in this podcast, including the adviser's own experiences, are not personal recommendations. Please seek advice from an authorised adviser familiar with your circumstances before taking action. This podcast provides general information only and does not constitute regulated financial advice. Octopus Money is authorised and regulated by the Financial Conduct Authority. This content is intended for UK residents only and is based on UK regulation as of the date of recording.

About Octopus Money

Octopus Money is on a mission to make investing and money advice accessible to all – because we believe everyone deserves to feel confident about their future. You can get in touch with them to find out more on their website.

More divorce resources

Ready to get clear on your finances?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.

Want ongoing support through separation?

Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on finances and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes a dedicated chapter on navigating finances during separation, including reaching financial agreements based on your real needs (not just 50/50 splits) and guidance on commonly overlooked assets like pensions. Find it on Amazon today.

Got a question for a future episode?

Share your thoughts at podcasts@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.

#Finances