Have you ever felt like you’re always the one showing up?

The one who remembers birthdays, checks in first, answers the late-night phone call, brings the meal, and somehow ends up carrying everyone else’s emotional baggage.

In this episode, we’re talking about the resentment that quietly builds when we expect people to love us the way we love them and what happens when we realize they never signed up for the expectations we created in our own minds.

We’ll unpack why over-giving can leave us feeling unseen, the difference between generosity and self-abandonment, and why healthy boundaries might be one of the greatest forms of self-respect.

This isn’t about loving people less.

It’s about loving yourself enough to stop keeping score.

Grab your coffee… this one’s a little uncomfortable, but it might just change the way you look at your relationships.

If you’ve ever hidden in your car for five extra minutes of peace, started three new business ideas before finishing your coffee, wondered if you might have ADHD, or felt like everyone else got an instruction manual for adulthood except you… you’re in the right place.

In this first episode, I’m sharing why I started this podcast, who it’s for, and what you can expect from this beautifully chaotic corner of the internet.

We’ll talk about:
🩴 Why “The Chancla Collective”?
☕️ The mental load of adulthood
📝 Notes App confessions
💀 Why I think we’re all just winging it
✨ And why this podcast isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about knowing you’re not the only one asking the questions.

This isn’t a self-help podcast.

It’s a “you’re not alone” podcast.

So grab your coffee, take a deep breath, and welcome to the collective.

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A chancla isn’t just footwear.
It’s discipline.
It’s culture.
It’s protection.
It’s don’t test me on a bad day energy.

This podcast is where women gather to talk about the stuff we don’t say out loud... without pretending we have it all together.

Welcome to The Chancla Collective.

The podcast where messy meets meaningful and nobody pretends they have their shit together.

I’m Alexis Fernandez — mom, firewife, serial entrepreneur, professional overthinker, and the kind of person who starts a podcast because apparently I needed one more thing on my plate.

This isn’t a self-help podcast.

It’s a real-life podcast.

We’re talking motherhood, marriage, ADHD brains, friendship, entrepreneurship, solo parenting, mental health, firewife life, identity crises, random Notes App thoughts, and all the things we usually text our best friends at 11 PM.

Some episodes will make you laugh.

Some might make you cry.

Most will probably make you feel a little less alone.

So whether you’re folding laundry, hiding in your car for five minutes of peace, or wondering if everyone else is secretly struggling too…

Welcome to the collective.

Pull up a chair. Grab your coffee.

Let’s figure out adulthood together.