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The Attachment Confessions

The Attachment Confessions

By: Chelsea S.
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From FA to Secure AF: How Attachment Science Changed My Life...For Real.

From the moment I discovered attachment science, everything – literally EV-ERY-THING – about every relationship I'd ever been in finally made sense. And now, I'm learning what it takes to earn my attachment security and have awesome, healthy relationships moving forward. We'll dive into the mind-blowing and freakishly accurate world of attachment science, my childhood, my relationships, and my journey of going from FA to secure AF (iykyk – and if you don't know, don't worry! You will soon).

Throughout The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my own attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty heavy stuff but have a grand 'ol time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least!

Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, OR the holy grail of them all – Securely Attached – all are welcome!

Let's freaking go, y'all!

xo – Chelsea

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Episodes
  • Love Languages vs Attachment Styles
    Feb 11 2026

    Hello, everybody! Happy Valentine's Week! Welcome back for episode 18 of The Attachment Confessions.

    On this week's episode, we're doing a deep dive into a topic that I've received a number of questions about since starting the podcast – love languages.

    The 5 Love Languages is a concept developed by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992, and his work has shaped how millions of people around the world understand the concept of giving and receiving love.

    So, in the spirit Valentine's Day, we're going to take a look at the difference between love languages vs attachment styles. They are certainly intertwined, but the science shows us that our formed attachment style is actually what predicts our preferred love languages.

    Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – knowing and understanding your own and your partner's attachment style and preferred love languages is an absolute game-changer in creating a healthy, successful relationship.

    Wanna find out you or your partner's love language? Take the quiz here:

    The Official 5 Love Languages Quiz

    Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.

    Happy Valentine's Day!

    xo - Chelsea

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    24 mins
  • Relationship Goals: How Secure Couples Handle Conflict
    Jan 28 2026

    What's up, everybody! Welcome to episode 17 of The Attachment Confessions!

    On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that is a major factor in either making or breaking a relationship – how couples handle conflict.

    Fights. Arguments. Tension. Disagreements. Misunderstandings. All-out war.

    There are few things more dreaded in life than when there's trouble in paradise. Chances are, you're a lot like me – AKA you've been an absolute train wreck at handling conflict in your relationships.

    Conflict. Is. Inevitable. But a primary element that sets secure couples apart from the insecures is that they've mastered the art of effective conflict management.

    So today, we're taking a look at the tactics secure couples swear by when it comes to handling the hard times the best way possible.

    Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow {healing} Fearful Avoidant, we could all stand to learn a thing or two when it comes to dealing with discord in a more healthy, mature, secure manner. And this week's episode is sure to set you on a path to handling the dreaded C word like a champ!

    As mentioned in today's episode, here is a link to attachment expert Dr. Sarah Hensley's "Achieving Your Attachment Security" online coaching program. In this program, Dr. Hensley provides her step-by-step no-fail conflict resolution plan. I wish I had this plan in my former relationships!! I will definitely be using it moving forward.

    The Love Doc - Coaching Programs

    Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.

    We've got this!

    xo - Chelsea

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    20 mins
  • Taking Accountability for Our Insecure Attachment
    Jan 14 2026

    What's up, guys?? Happy Wednesday! Welcome back for episode 16 of The Attachment Confessions!

    "I am who I am – take it or leave it!"

    Sound familiar??

    Maybe you've had partners make similar claims? Perhaps your current partner has told you this a time or two? Or shoot, you might even be the guilty party, just like I have been in past relationships!

    Today's episode is all about facing the person we see in the mirror and taking accountability for our bad insecure attachment behavior.

    New Year, New Us!!

    Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow Fearful Avoidant – it's time to put our insecure patterns in the past, and experience life and love to its fullest.

    Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.

    xo - Chelsea

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    27 mins
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