A discussion on the benefits and myths of masturbation, or self-pleasure, covering the many physical and mental health benefits, debunking myths, and addressing potential risks. The conversation emphasizes the normalcy and importance of self-pleasure in understanding one's body and enhancing relationships.

Takeaways

• Normalcy and importance of self-pleasure
• Physical and mental health benefits of self-pleasure

Chapters

• 00:00 The Positives of Self-Pleasure
• 05:48 Self-Pleasure and Relationships
• 12:11 Understanding and Embracing Self-Pleasure

Sources

• https://www.healthline.com/health/masturbation-side-effects#benefits
• https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24332-masturbation
• https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/benefits-of-masturbation

The conversation attempts to define drag by exploring the history of drag performance and culture. It explores the subversive nature of drag as a challenge to social and cultural norms, and delves into the distinction between gender identity and expression, especially between performance and performativity. The conversation also addresses the legal challenges in and erasure of queer history; the historical, cultural, and political roots in queer liberation and resistance; and the intersectionality of drag with race, class, and activism. It emphasizes the role drag has played in building community and solidarity from the 1700s to today.

Takeaways

• Subversive Nature
• Gender Identity vs. Drag Performance
• Drag as a caricature performance of gender
• The intersectionality of drag with race, class, and activism

Links

• What is Judith Butler’s Theory of Gender Performativity?
• Crossing the Stage: Controversies on Cross-Dressing by Lesley Ferris
• Classic Drag: The Greek Creation of Female Parts by Sue-Ellen Case
• Trixie Mattel Breaks Down the History of "Drag"
• Polari
• The 1871 Trial of Boulton and Park
• William Dorsey Swann
• Princess Seraphina: Britain’s first drag queen
• Crystal Labeija: The Queen Who Reinvented Ball Culture
• Stormé DeLarverie
• When Remembering Stonewall, We Need To Listen to Those Who Were There
• STARR
• Imperial Sovereign Court of the State of Montana
• Queer Bozeman
• Montana State University - Bozeman Queer Straight Alliance
• Montana Pride and upcoming events

The conversation begins with an introduction and a discussion about Stonewall, highlighting its diversity and the evolution of language. It then transitions into a detailed exploration of the Hanky Code and cruising culture, shedding light on their historical significance and relevance in the queer community. The conversation delves into the contemporary relevance and evolution of the Hanky Code and cruising culture. It also discusses the challenges and complexities of modern dating and building relationships.

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Takeaways

• Stonewall and its diversity
• The Hanky Code and cruising culture over time
• Challenges and complexities of modern dating

Chapters

• 00:00 Elaborating on Stonewall and Queer History
• 18:16 Evolution of Hanky Code and Cruising Culture
• 25:03 Challenges of Modern Dating

Links

• Stonewall
• The Stonewall Inn
• Marsha P. Johnson
• Sylvia Rivera
• Stormé DeLarverie
• Feds Altering Queer History
• Hanky Code
• Damron
• Samois

The conversation covers the Pride event in Bozeman, including the booth at Pride-A-Palooza, the partnership with the Oh Hi Collective, and the educational event called Queer Sex Toys with Erotique. It also delves into the challenges of representing a sex store at a family-friendly event, the significance of the Stonewall brick, and the impact of rainbow capitalism. The conversation highlights the importance of creating safe spaces, resisting hate, and promoting positivity within the LGBTQ+ community. The conversation covers a range of topics related to sex education, sex toys, and Pride events. It delves into the experience of attending a presentation on sex education, the normalization of sex toys, the use of sex toys for different bodies and relationships, the importance of body safety and cleaning methods for different toy materials, and the growth and significance of Pride events.

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Takeaways

• Pride events provide opportunities to create safe spaces, resist hate, and promote positivity within the LGBTQ+ community.
• Representing a sex store at a family-friendly event presents unique challenges, requiring a focus on empowerment, education, and body positivity.
• The significance of the Stonewall brick and the impact of rainbow capitalism are important topics within the LGBTQ+ community.
• Understanding body safety, sterilization, and material porosity is crucial when using sex toys.
• Pride events play a significant role in promoting community support, authenticity, and love.

Chapters

• 00:00 Pride-A-Palooza and the significance of the Stonewall Brick and Rainbow Capitalism
• 15:03 Hosting the Queer Sex Toys Event with the Oh Hi Collective and a little about queer toy usage.
• 45:00 Reflection on Pride Events and Community Support

Links

• Bozeman Pride
• Ability Montana
• "Pride is a Riot" Brick Keychain by Empath Art
• Stonewall
• Rainbow Capitalism
• Oh Hi Collective
• Cleaning Sex Toys and Understanding Porosity

Toys Mentioned

• Starsi by Cute Little Fuckers
• Zeep by Cute Little Fuckers
• Morrie by Cute Little Fuckers
• Ace by Nu Sensuelle

The hosts reconnect and catch up, discussing social norms in sex stores, toy cleaning and sterilization, attitudes towards sex toys, encounters outside the sex store, dealing with recognized individuals, propositions and uncomfortable encounters, and handling uncomfortable situations. They emphasize the importance of creating a safe and comfortable environment for customers and employees, and share insights on addressing uncomfortable encounters with grace and professionalism. The conversation covers various themes related to the operation of a sex store, including the store's name on bank statements, product knowledge, in-person shopping experience, handling used sex toys, the hiring process, sexual health and wellness training, comfort and normalcy in a sex store, skills for being a good lover, and evolution and growth.

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Takeaways

• Social norms in sex stores differ for men and women.
• Attitudes towards sex toys should be positive and shame-free. In-person shopping experience is crucial for selecting sex toys.
• Training for sex store employees includes sexual health and wellness certification.

Chapters

• 00:00 Reconnecting and Catching Up
• 02:25 Do I need toy cleaner - elaboration
• 05:24 How do we deal when seeing customers in public?
• 08:49 How do you deal with people you know outside of work when they come into the store?
• 12:13 Do you ever get propositioned?
• 14:04 What's your most uncomfortable encounter?
• 16:36 Does a sex shop show up on my bank statement?
• 18:25 How well do you know the products?
• 21:44 What do you do with old sex toys?
• 24:03 What is the hiring process like?
• 26:14 Training for sensitivity and inclusivity
• 28:25 Creating comfort in a sex store environment
• 32:06 Closing

The conversation covers the diverse customer base of sex stores, the approachable atmosphere, product exploration, customer interactions, and advice for first-time visitors. It emphasizes the importance of creating a welcoming and inclusive environment for all customers, regardless of their background or experience.

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Takeaways

• Diverse Customer Base
• Approachable Atmosphere

Chapters

• 00:00 Welcome to the World of Sex Shops
• 00:38 What types of people come in?
• 03:51 What if I don't know what I want?
• 05:32 How should I talk about what I want?
• 06:12 What are some interesting products?
• 07:37 What are some interesting questions you get?
• 08:44 Can I touch the products?
• 09:40 Do I need toy cleaner?
• 10:34 Is it a good place to meet a hookup or pick someone up?
• 11:43 Can people return used toys?
• 12:27 I'm embarrassed. When is the best time to visit?
• 13:34 How should I act?
• 14:23 What do you carry?
• 15:27 How do you deal with customers who make other customers uncomfortable?
• 16:04 What do you recommend for a first toy?
• 17:05 What do I need to know before going in?
• 20:03 Contact information and closing.

The conversation delves into the founding and expansion of the Oh Hi Collective, the cultivation of mental health and authenticity, the negotiation of boundaries and rejection sensitivity, and the importance of embracing expansiveness in communication and consent. It considers embracing the expansive responses "yes and" or "no and" and advocates for a more inclusive and open approach to sexual expression. It also highlights the impact of societal norms on sexual education, consent, and the need for age-appropriate sex education. The conversation delves into the themes of compersion, joy, and pleasure, as well as the normalization of conversations around sexuality and pleasure. It explores the rebellion of finding joy despite efforts to ruin it, the importance of sitting in discomfort, and the need to overcome scarcity and judgment in society.

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Takeaways

• Healthy Sexuality
• Sex Therapy
• Boundaries and Rejection Sensitivity Embracing expansiveness
• Challenging societal norms
• Joy and Pleasure
• Normalization of Conversations

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction and Oh Hi Collective
• 08:59 Cultivating Mental Health and Authenticity
• 18:12 The Power of Boundaries and Rejection Sensitivity
• 28:01 Negotiating Boundaries and Healthy Sexuality
• 33:50 Embracing Expansiveness in Communication and Consent
• 01:00:27 Overcoming Scarcity and Judgment

Discussion Links

• Oh Hi Collective
• Dr. Phronsie Sprenger, PhD, LCSW, CST-S
• Shannon Sepulveda, DPT, PLLC

  Women's Health and Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

• Alok
• Jaiya
• Dr. Patti Britton
• BridgerCare
• Blue Mountain Clinic
• Brené Brown
• Marc Brackett Ph.D.
• Audre Lorde

The conversation covers a wide range of topics related to sexuality, sex toys, shame, and societal norms. It also delves into the history of sex toys and the evolution of societal attitudes towards sexuality. The hosts share personal experiences and insights, creating a safe and open space for discussing intimate topics.

Send us your questions and stories to: tfass@erotiquestyle.com

Takeaways

• Sexuality is diverse and multifaceted
• Shame and societal norms impact sexual expression

Chapters

• 00:00 Exploring Sex Toys and Conversations
• 05:16 Shame and Societal Attitudes
• 18:10 Historical Evolution of Sex Toys
• 23:37 Creating Comfort in a Sex Store

Links

• Body Rituals Among the Nacirema
• don Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements
• Chainsaws
• 28,000 Year Old Dildo
• Oh Hi Collective