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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

By: A.J. Mahari
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 A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.

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Episodes
  • Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes

    Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
    Dec 21 2025
    Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exe

    s is a trauma-informed podcast focused on understanding reactive abuse, emotional dysregulation, and the complex relationship dynamics that can occur with partners or ex-partners affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) or similar patterns.

    This podcast wpisode explores how reactive behaviors can develop in emotionally abusive or highly dysregulated relationships—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, boundary violations, and chronic emotional stress are present. Listeners will learn the difference between intentional abuse and trauma-based reactions, helping survivors release shame and gain clarity about what actually happened in their relationships.

    Through education, real-world examples, and recovery-focused discussions, the show covers topics such as:

    What reactive abuse is and how it differs from abuse
    Emotional dysregulation and conflict cycles in relationships
    Gaslighting, trauma bonding, and psychological manipulation
    Why survivors may react in ways they don’t recognize
    Healing after emotionally abusive or toxic relationships
    Rebuilding identity, boundaries, and self-trust after trauma
    Nervous system regulation and emotional recovery
    This podcast does not demonize mental health conditions. Instead, it centers on behaviors, relationship patterns, accountability, and healing—offering compassionate insight for those who feel confused, blamed, or silenced after difficult relationships.
    Whether you are recovering from a relationship with a BPD partner or ex, questioning your own reactions, or seeking to understand emotional abuse and trauma responses more clearly, Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes provides validation, education, and a path forward.
    You are not “crazy.” You are not broken. And healing is possible.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://youtube.com/ajmahari
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    26 mins
  • Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love

    Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
    Dec 6 2025
    Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love

    So many partners and ex-partners of people with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder mistake the early intensity for love—because it feels overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating. In this episode, I gently guide you through why Borderline emotional flooding gets misinterpreted as intimacy, connection, or destiny.

    You’ll learn why intensity is not love, why emotional dysregulation masquerades as passion, and why the early idealization phase feels so powerful to codependents, and trauma survivors. This episode helps you understand the fantasy bond, the rapid trauma-attachment cycle, and the heartbreaking confusion that keeps so many people stuck long after the relationship ends.
    This teaching is here to bring clarity, compassion, and truth—so you can reclaim yourself and begin to heal.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    49 mins
  • BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage

    BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage
    Dec 5 2025
    BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage

    In this episode, we explore the misunderstood and often painful dynamic of Borderline hypersexuality—not as “promiscuity,” not as a moral failure, but as an attempt to self-soothe overwhelming internal distress. I walk you through why so many people with BPD turn to sexual intensity to regulate shame, emptiness, terror of abandonment, and the desperate need to feel momentarily wanted or alive.

    You’ll learn how hypersexual behaviour becomes a survival strategy, not a genuine expression of love or intimacy—and why partners often confuse this intensity for connection. We’ll look at the underlying trauma, dysregulated attachment, and the fragmented self that drive this behaviour, and how these patterns affect those who love someone with untreated BPD.

    This episode is especially helpful for codependents, survivors of BPD relationships, and anyone trying to make sense of why sexual intensity felt fused to love, validation, or bonding—only to later feel discarded, confused, or emotionally injured. With compassion and clarity, we break down the psychological mechanisms at play so you can understand what happened, reclaim your sense of reality, and begin healing from the confusion of trauma-bonded intimacy.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    24 mins
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Thanks very good information,so helpful in understanding all this. Helping me make sense of all this

Thanks very helpful

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Very helpful - honest and realistic therapy. It reminds the listener to think of themselves not the bpd!

Really helpful

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