You’ve spent way too much time waiting for someone else to pick you. Whether it’s for a date, a new job, or just a solid friendship, every time you aren’t "the one," it feels like proof of that old fear. You start believing you just aren’t good enough.

Maybe you walk into a bar and feel invisible, or you spend your nights swiping through apps only to collect rejections while other guys seem to get all the attention. When you finally do meet someone, you immediately start changing yourself to fit what you think they want. You laugh at jokes that aren't funny and hide the parts of you that feel "too much" just to stay safe. Then, when they pull away, it crushes you because it feels like evidence that you were never enough to begin with.

In this episode, we’re looking at why your brain is so obsessed with collecting proof of rejection while ignoring every bit of connection and value you actually have. We’ll talk about where this pattern actually started and how you’ve been giving your power away to people who never even asked for it. It is time to stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to matter and start choosing yourself instead.

If you’re tired of handing people a scorecard the moment you meet them, join us at thefreedomcommunity.com. You’ll find a group of gay men doing this exact work to reclaim their worth from the inside out.

Check out my Instagram for daily reminders that your worth was never about them. It has always been about you.

Have you ever laughed at dinner and saw someone flinch? Or been told your emotions were "making a scene"?

So you learned to edit. You learned to read the room. You became a watered-down version of yourself just to keep everyone else comfortable.

Here is the truth: Being called "too much" was never a measurement of your flaws. It was a measurement of their limits.

When someone tells you you're too loud, too sensitive, or too gay, they aren't describing you. They are confessing what they can't handle.

In this episode, we stop the "shrink-to-fit" cycle. If you try to pour a gallon of water into a thimble, the problem isn’t the water.

Stop being "easy to swallow" and start being the brilliance you were meant to be.

Join the room that’s big enough for you at thefreedomcommunity.com.

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Have you ever been told you are "too much"? Or maybe you have been called "high maintenance" just because you deserve basic consistency?

In this episode, we are looking at the trap of the "Cool Guy."

You know the one. He pretends he doesn't care. He accepts the bare minimum. He shrinks himself down so he doesn't scare anyone away.

But here is the truth. Lowering your standards to make someone else comfortable doesn't secure the relationship. It just guarantees you will end up resentful.

We are going to flip the script. Standards aren't barriers that push people away. They are filters that protect your energy.

When someone can't meet your baseline for respect and communication, that is valuable information. It isn't a reason to negotiate yourself down.

It is time to shift from asking "I hope they choose me" to asking "Are they actually good enough for me?"

If you are ready to stop apologising for having needs and want to build the self-respect to hold your standards even when your voice shakes, come and join us.

Head to thefreedomcommunity.com to join other gay men doing this exact work.

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David