If you've been listening to the podcast for a while, you probably know me as Coach K. While Sari is taking a well-deserved sabbatical, I'll be stepping in each week to share some of the mindset work I do with trial attorneys every day.

If we haven't met yet, I'm Kevin de la Motte, mindset coach here at H2H. This week's episode is about something I see constantly with attorneys: Overwhelm.

Not the kind that comes from having too much on your calendar. The kind that seems to follow you everywhere, even when you finally cross things off your list.

Here's the surprising part: Most overwhelm isn't created by your workload.

It's created by your brain's survival instinct.

In this episode, I walk through:

• Why your brain defaults to overwhelm
• How slowing down actually gives you more control
• A simple breathing practice to calm your nervous system
• Why reminding yourself, "I have choice here," changes everything
• The journaling questions I use every day to stay grounded
• The goal isn't to eliminate discomfort. It's to stop letting discomfort make your decisions for you.

If you've been feeling like you're constantly pushing through, I think this episode will give you a different way to approach it.

See you next week,
Coach K

Resources:

Listen to the Two Windows Visualization and download the Four Square Breathing Exercise worksheet that I referenced throughout the episode.

If you'd like to dive deeper, I also highly recommend the two books that inspired much of this conversation:

Your Survival Instinct Is Killing You by Marc Schoen
Don't Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen

Quote:

"The goal isn't to eliminate discomfort. It's to stop letting discomfort make your decisions. When you slow down, calm your nervous system, and choose thoughts that serve you instead of reacting from fear, you become a better trial lawyer—and a better human being."

Coach K

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Ever feel like you're carrying around a heaviness you can't quite explain?

Maybe you're exhausted, distracted, or constantly thinking about something that happened months or even years ago. Maybe you can't figure out why it's so hard to move forward.

This week's podcast might explain it.

Coach K and I are talking about something we don't do very well as humans: completion.

We rush from one thing to the next. We don't celebrate our wins. We avoid difficult endings. We leave conversations unfinished. We never fully process losses, transitions, or even really great moments.

And then we wonder why we feel stuck.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why endings often feel like failures
• How unfinished experiences create emotional and mental clutter
• Why completion is essential for learning and growth
• Practical rituals and conversations that can help you let go and move forward
• The question to ask yourself if life feels heavy right now: What in my life remains incomplete?

Listen to the episode and let me know what comes up for you.

Love,
Sari

Quote:

"If you're feeling heavy and if you're feeling stuck, you might look at what is left incomplete in your life. Because if you go back and start intentionally completing those things, you're going to start feeling lighter right away."

Sari de la Motte

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Most lawyers would have taken the $400,000…

The plaintiff had healed. No surgery. Relatively modest medical bills. Plenty of risk heading into trial.

But attorney Matthew Wilson saw something bigger.

In this episode of Sari Swears, Matthew breaks down how he turned down the highest offer in the case, took it to verdict, and watched a jury return $1.8 million.

More importantly, he shares what changed his approach in the courtroom.

For years, voir dire was the part of trial that terrified him most. Then he started doing something different—having real conversations with jurors instead of relying on the same old script.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How a "small" injury case became a seven-figure verdict
• The overlooked damages that resonated with jurors
• What focus groups revealed about suing a city
• How authenticity changed Matthew's entire approach to voir dire
• The moment he realized jurors don't need perfection—they need a real person

And perhaps the most powerful part of the story isn't the verdict itself. 😉

Love,
Sari