What happens after the decision is made and things still do not feel settled?

In leadership, we often think the hard part is getting through the decision itself. But what happens when the decision changes the shape of the community? When people leave, relationships shift, or everyone is trying to figure out whether they still belong?

In this episode, Rev. Dr. Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore what it means to lead faithfully after a major decision has already been made. Through stories from church leadership, organizational change, COVID, and their own experiences, they unpack the grief, anxiety, ambiguity, and relational tension that often emerge after seasons of discernment, and how leaders can respond with honesty and care.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why good decisions can still create grief, loss, and uncertainty in a community

• How anxiety changes before and after a major decision, and why leaders need to pay attention to both

• What it looks like to bless people, process change honestly, and lead without defensiveness when a community changes shape

Show Notes

• Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson

• Our Iceberg Is Melting by John Kotter and Holger Rathgeber

• Colossians 3:15 — "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…"

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What if discernment isn't something you do alone, but something that takes shape in a relationship?

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore what it looks like to build a "personal board of advisors" — a circle of people who help you listen well, stay grounded, and move forward with clarity.

Through stories, humor, and practical wisdom, they unpack how to recognize trustworthy voices, how to engage others without outsourcing your responsibility, and how discernment shapes who you're becoming over time.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why discernment requires both personal responsibility and shared wisdom

• The kinds of people who bring clarity to your decisions

• Practical ways to build and test a trusted circle of advisors in your life

Show Notes:

• Proverbs 15:22 (theme): "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed

• Balcony vs. dance floor metaphor — learning to step back and see clearly

• Leadership on the Line by Ronald Heifetz & Marty Linsky

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What do you do when a decision impacts everyone, but not everyone agrees?

Making decisions on your own is hard enough. But in leadership, decisions often have consequences for an entire community. The challenge is building a process people can trust, even when they don't get their way.

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore the real tension of communal discernment: how leaders can navigate complex decisions with clarity, honesty, and care. Through stories from church leadership, organizational life, and their own experiences, they unpack practical ways to involve people, reduce anxiety, and build trust that lasts beyond the decision itself.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why clarity about roles and decision-making authority builds trust — even when people disagree

• How practices like "if-then thinking" and separating data gathering from decision-making reduce anxiety

• What it looks like to care for people after a decision — especially those who feel like they lost

Show Notes

• Fair Process framework — honesty, transparency, and respect in decision-making

• "If-Then" practice — naming fears and planning responses to reduce catastrophizing

• Colossians 3:15 — "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…"

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Have you ever sat in a room where something needed to be said, but no one said it?

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore the challenge of naming hard truths with both courage and care. From "pointing to elephants" in the room to learning how to avoid dropping "verbal bombs," they reflect on the practices that help us discern when to speak, how to prepare our hearts, and how to stay connected even in difficult conversations.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why naming hard truths requires both courage and emotional maturity

• How to discern your motivation before speaking, and why it matters

• Practical ways to enter hard conversations with clarity, curiosity, and care

Show Notes:

• Colossians 4:6 — "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt…"

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Have you ever had a decision that just… lingers?

A conversation you know you need to have. A leadership call that keeps getting pushed to the next meeting. You tell yourself you're "still discerning" — but you're not actually moving forward.

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore the tension between faithful discernment and avoidance — why decisions get stuck, how fear and uncertainty keep us spinning, and what it looks like to grow into leaders who can listen deeply and act when it's time. Drawing on stories from church leadership, parenting, and everyday life, they offer practical ways to recognize real progress, name what's underneath our hesitation, and move forward with courage and clarity.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How to recognize the difference between real discernment and subtle avoidance

• Why fear of consequences — not the decision itself — often keeps us stuck

• Practical ways to move forward, including small decisions, play, and honest conversations

Show Notes:

• The Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman

• Leading with a Limp by Dan Allender

• Holy Play by Kirk Byron Jones

• The Book of Esther (referenced as a model of courageous decision-making)

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Have you ever made a hard decision — only to realize the real challenge comes after?

Maybe you're in a church, workplace, or community where there's real disagreement. You've wrestled with whether to stay or leave, and you've made your decision. But now a new set of questions begins: How do you stay without losing yourself? How do you leave without damaging relationships? And how do you move forward with honesty and care when there's no clean resolution?

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore what it looks like to live your decision with humility and courage. Through stories, humor, and practical wisdom, they name common pitfalls like silent quitting, over-functioning, and avoiding grief — and offer a more hopeful path rooted in boundaries, vulnerability, and love.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why disagreement often surfaces grief and how avoiding it can distort how we stay or leave

• Common unhealthy patterns (like over-functioning, appeasing, or shutting down) and how to recognize them

• Practical ways to stay present, set boundaries, and move forward without losing yourself or others

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When tension rises, certainty can feel like safety. We've all been in a room where strong conviction takes over and starts to sound like control, self-protection, and avoidance.

In leadership, certainty is often rewarded. It feels decisive and strong. But what if discernment asks us to listen instead?

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore what to do with your own certainty (and someone else's), how to respond when someone says, "God told me…," and how to stay grounded without closing the process. Drawing on Scripture and stories from parenting, church leadership, and everyday life, they reflect on how the Holy Spirit guides communities — not just individuals — over time.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why certainty is often about control, not faith

• How to respond wisely when someone claims spiritual authority

• What it looks like to be confident and humble at the same time

Show Notes (resources + references mentioned):

• Discernment by Henri Nouwen

• Acts 15:28 — "It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us…" (a model of shared discernment)

• Matthew 7:7–11 — "Ask, seek, knock…" (confidence rooted in relationship, not control)

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Have you ever wished there were a simple formula for knowing when it's time to move on, especially after your community makes a decision you wouldn't have chosen?

Sometimes the hardest decisions aren't about starting something new — they're about what to do after a decision has already been made. Maybe your church changed direction. Maybe your organization chose a path you wouldn't have chosen. Now you're left holding the question: Do I stay, or is it time to go?

In this episode, Tanner Smith, Chase Rashad Stancle, and Sarah Johnson explore what faithful discernment looks like when you find yourself out of step with your community. Drawing on personal stories, leadership experiences, and practices from the Christian tradition, they talk about how to slow down, notice what's happening inside you, and discern your next step without rushing toward relief or avoiding the question altogether.

• Why the deeper question isn't just "Should I stay or go?" but who you're becoming as you discern

• How to tell the difference between healthy discomfort, anxiety, and harm

• Practical ways to discern your next step — including the "sandbox week" practice and taking small, reversible actions

• Discernment by Henri Nouwen

• Ignatian practice of the Examen (consolation and desolation)

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