In this episode of Perception Paradox, Zivile (Zivi) sit down with Sem Verbeek, a professional tennis player whose journey challenges everything we think we know about talent, timing, and success.
Sem didn’t grow up as the most gifted junior. He wasn’t “the obvious one.” Instead, he built his career slowly - through discipline, emotional work, and a deep curiosity about life beyond sport. They talk about what happens when your identity becomes performance - and how to separate your self-worth from results in a world that constantly measures you.
This conversation explores:
- Why nerves and excitement are the same in the brain — and how to use them
- The underdog path of becoming a late bloomer in pro tennis
- Discipline as emotional regulation — not punishment
- How routines and breathwork (4-7-8, double inhale) support mental health
- Doubles tennis as a lesson in trust, communication, and letting go of control
- Why you are not your ranking — and never were
Whether you’re an athlete, founder, or high performer, this episode is a reminder that growth doesn’t always look loud - and that freedom often comes from structure.
Key takeaway: You are enough. You belong. And new habits don’t need a new year to begin.
About Sem:
Sem Verbeek is a professional tennis player from Amsterdam, the Netherlands. He has a career-high ranking of 29 in the world on the ATP Tour and won the 2025 Wimbledon Mixed Doubles title alongside Katerina Siniakova.
Sem spent 3 years at he IMG Academy in Bradenton, Florida from ages 14-17 before pursuing a degree in Health and Exercise Science. He graduated with a Bachelor of Science in that degree from the University of the Pacific in 2016.
Instagram: www.instagram.com/semver
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/sem-verbeek
Twitter/X: www.x.com/semverbeekNL
Hosted by: Zivile (Zivi) Einikyte:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/zivileeinikyte/
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:42 The Underdog Nobody Expected
06:42 When Tennis Became Serious
10:50 Choosing Between Studies and Sport
14:48 Discipline, Priorities, and Growing Up Early
17:55 A Day in the Life of a Pro Athlete
23:37 Why Nerves Are Actually Excitement
30:50 Doubles Tennis Trust Over Control
34:30 Communication Under Pressure
39:53 Losing, Failure, and Self Worth
42:33 Staying Grounded While Always on the Road
47:38 Breathwork, Mental Health, and Performance
52:42 Discipline Creates Freedom
58:56 New Year Goals You Don’t Have to Wait
01:03:44 Final Thoughts and Closing Message