Episodes

  • The Year-Two Wall in Betrayal Trauma Recovery: Why You Still Feel Dead Inside

    The Year-Two Wall in Betrayal Trauma Recovery: Why You Still Feel Dead Inside
    Jun 29 2026
    Eighteen months in, your partner is sober, transparent, and doing the work. And you still feel like a stranger in your own life. In this episode we name what we call the year-two wall in betrayal trauma recovery, why your nervous system is on its own timeline regardless of your partner's behavior, and the two reasons most partners get stuck at this phase, which is almost always both at once. Practical, clinically grounded, and the conversation almost nobody else is having. https://therapevo.com/contact-us/?utm_source=podcast
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    35 mins
  • Restitution After Betrayal: The Repair Work an Apology Cannot Do

    Restitution After Betrayal: The Repair Work an Apology Cannot Do
    Jun 27 2026
    You apologized. You meant it every time. And it still isn't reaching your partner. In this episode, we walk through restitution after betrayal: the named clinical work that creates the conditions for repair, structured around three components and an honest look at the multi-year arc. For the partner who caused the harm and wants to do the work seriously, the prescription is here. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast
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    34 mins
  • Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED): Recovery Beyond Abstinence

    Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED): Recovery Beyond Abstinence
    Jun 27 2026
    You quit porn three months ago and you still can't function with your wife. In this episode, Caleb and Verlynda walk through what's actually happening in your brain, what the flatline is, and the recovery pathway most men in the abstinence-only forums never hear about. https://therapevo.com/contact-us/?utm_source=podcast
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    34 mins
  • Is Your Spouse Using Therapy Language to Gaslight You? The Five Patterns of Weaponized Therapy Speak

    Is Your Spouse Using Therapy Language to Gaslight You? The Five Patterns of Weaponized Therapy Speak
    Jun 15 2026
    Three to nine months into your spouse's recovery, the language of healing can start to sound like a weapon. He says he is dysregulated. He talks about boundaries. And every conversation about what he did ends with you being the one who needs to do more work. In this episode, we walk through the five most common patterns of weaponized therapy speak, why DARVO with a clinical vocabulary is harder to name than ordinary gaslighting, and what to actually do when you hear it. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
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    39 mins
  • Why You Hate Your Porn Use But Still Can't Stop

    Why You Hate Your Porn Use But Still Can't Stop
    Jun 8 2026
    If you have promised yourself again and again that this would be the last time and ended up back in the same place, this episode is for you. Caleb walks through why hating your porn use is not the same as being able to stop, why self-disgust often fuels the cycle rather than interrupting it, and what actually starts to make the loop lose its grip. For more on this and to book a free 20-minute consult, visit https://therapevo.com/porn-addiction/?utm_source=podcast.
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    30 mins
  • Why the Betrayer Keeps Hurting Their Partner During Recovery

    Why the Betrayer Keeps Hurting Their Partner During Recovery
    Jun 1 2026
    If you've stopped acting out, started doing the repair work, and your partner still ends up hurt by the conversations you thought you handled well, this episode names what's actually going on. Caleb and Verlynda walk through the empathic stress paradox, the three shame patterns that re-injure your partner during active recovery, and why individual therapy on shame is often the missing piece. https://therapevo.com/help-for-the-betrayer/?utm_source=podcast
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    30 mins
  • Trickle Truth and Why Recovery Keeps Restarting

    Trickle Truth and Why Recovery Keeps Restarting
    May 25 2026
    If you've been wondering why your betrayal trauma recovery seems to restart every time your partner discloses something new, your nervous system isn't broken. It's reading new evidence of past deception as a current threat, exactly as it's built to. In this episode we walk through what's actually happening in your body, why more information doesn't bring the calm it seems like it should, and what complete honesty actually means in this season. https://therapevo.com/healing-for-the-betrayed/?utm_source=podcast
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    28 mins
  • My Spouse Won't Go to Couples Therapy: What to Do When Only One of You Is Ready

    My Spouse Won't Go to Couples Therapy: What to Do When Only One of You Is Ready
    May 21 2026
    When one partner wants couples therapy and the other won't come, most advice says wait. Clinically, that's a mistake. Caleb and Verlynda walk through what individual work toward a marriage actually looks like when only one of you is ready, why it isn't a venting subscription about your spouse, and what happens when your spouse finally walks in. Learn more at https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast
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    32 mins