What happens when you grow up in chaos and just learn to get on with it?

In this episode, I talk with filmmaker and speaker Lee Greenhough about growing up around loss, addiction, and instability and how those early years quietly shape the choices men make later in life. Lee shares what it’s like to carry things you never dealt with, how that weight can surface through drinking, anger, or restlessness, and why change rarely comes from big moments or sudden insight.

Instead, this conversation is about responsibility, momentum, and the small decisions that slowly pull a life back on track, even when no one ever showed you how.

Lee talks candidly about losing his father at a young age, growing up with an alcoholic parent, and how unprocessed grief and trauma followed him into adulthood. He reflects on the years where drinking became the release valve, and the risk, and how close he came to losing the life he was quietly building.

Rather than presenting himself as “fixed”, Lee is clear about what actually helped: taking responsibility, putting himself in better environments, committing to work, movement, and creative outlets, and learning to challenge the constant negative voice in his own head. He explains why therapy didn’t give him the answers he needed, and why momentum, not motivation, became the thing that changed everything.

The conversation also explores creativity as a survival tool. Lee shares how writing and filmmaking became a way to process what he couldn’t talk about and why so many men abandon creative instincts they had earlier in life, often without realising the cost to their mental health.

This episode will resonate with men who:

• Grew up fast with little guidance.
• Feel functional but not settled.
• Rely on distraction, work, or alcohol to keep things contained.
• Know something needs to change, but don’t relate to advice or slogans.

There are no hacks here. No reinvention story. Just an honest account of how small decisions, repeated over time, can stop a life drifting off course, even when the starting point was far from ideal.

If you want to find out more about Lee’s films, visit his website www.greenhoughfilms.co.uk and to find out more about his speaking work, visit https://www.speakingwithlee.co.uk.

A lot of men don’t think they have a problem with intimacy. They just feel a bit distant. A bit shut down. Less connected than they used to be to their partner, to sex, or to themselves. This episode goes right into that space.

I’m joined by Dr. Dan Sneider. Dan is a therapist; however, this isn’t a lecture or a list of techniques. It’s a conversation grounded in his own lived experience and how he learned early on to shut parts of himself down, how that showed up in his relationships, and what it actually took for him to stay present instead of withdrawing when things got uncomfortable.

We talk about how intimacy doesn’t usually disappear overnight. It fades quietly. How many men default to pulling away rather than risking saying the wrong thing. And how habits that look like “sex issues” are often really about safety, control, and not knowing how to stay emotionally exposed without feeling weak or overwhelmed.

Dan shares what he’s learned, first in his own life, then through years of working alongside men, including:

• why emotional closeness can feel threatening, even in good relationships
• how shame and self-protection show up as silence, distraction, or distance
• why midlife often brings intimacy problems to the surface
• and how connection starts with honesty, not performance or confidence

This episode is for men who care about their relationships but don’t always know how to talk about what’s going on inside them. Men who haven’t “checked out”, but who feel something has shifted and don’t want to lose what matters.

It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding why intimacy feels hard and what actually helps.

If you want to find out more about Dan’s work, visit his website where you can also download his free guide: https://www.growthandgratitudetherapy.com/the-intimacy-shift.

In this episode, I’m joined by Michael Rice, a bioarchitect and the founder of Mentorus. Michael approaches men’s lives the same way he approaches buildings: by looking at foundations, structure, and whether what’s been built is actually fit for purpose. After years designing physical spaces, his work now focuses on helping men understand why a life that looks solid on the outside can quietly stop working from within, and how to rebuild it with intention, clarity, and honesty.

We talk about what happens when the life you’ve constructed no longer fits who you are, and how midlife often reveals this not as a crisis, but as a structural problem that can be understood, and changed.

A key part of this conversation is about the four archetypal parts that operate inside most men, whether we’re conscious of them or not, and what it looks like when they’re missing or out of balance in everyday life:

• the part of you that takes responsibility but ends up carrying everything alone;
• the part of you that should set boundaries but stays silent or explodes;
• the part of you that thinks constantly but feels stuck and overwhelmed;
• the part of you that wants closeness, joy, and connection but feels switched off.

We talk about how midlife often exposes these fractures, and why that’s not a failure, but a signal.

Most importantly, this isn’t a conversation that stays in theory. Michael shares simple, practical ways men can start changing things without quitting their job, blowing up their family, or pretending everything is fine.

This episode is for men who feel:

• unfulfilled and continuing down the wrong path in life;
• disconnected from themselves or the people they care about;
• unsure how to find a way forward to the life they want.

About MENTORUS

In a world where information and knowledge are readily available and accessible, the commodity and quality of Wisdom becomes increasingly difficult to procure and purpose. The unstable landscape of perception and cognition is cluttered and difficult to navigate. Without Truth as our compass, we either stall and forget, or stumble onwards, blind to our inner flame, reacting, rather than creating.

Mentorus provides a Map and the wisdom to read it. It invites the courageous man to dive deep into his true nature, developing contextual awareness of the myriad machinations and meanings of this copy realm, and, most importantly, his role within it. It guides him on a Journey of re-discovery and re-memberance; providing inspiration, insight and illumination - stimulating a powerful impulse to upheave and burn away the accumulated programs, beliefs, and limits, imposed and assumed, and affords him the strength to explore and express his true essence and creative power.

To contact Michael, email him @ 13mentorus@gmail.com.