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Living Through The Schmidts

Living Through The Schmidts

By: Nicole Schmidt
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Grief is loud, even when it’s silent. It’s heavy, it’s messy, and it changes the way we see everything.


I’m Nicole Schmidt, and Living Through the Schmidts is a space where we stop trying to "fix" the pain and just start being honest about it. As a memoirist and certified grief educator, I’m giving language to the things we usually keep inside... the stories of love, the weight of loss, and what it actually looks like to rebuild after your world stops turning.


Whether you are navigating your own grief, caregiving for a loved one, or walking beside a friend in heartbreak, this podcast is a sanctuary for raw storytelling, gentle wisdom, and the reminder that you never have to carry the unspeakable alone.

© 2026 Living Through The Schmidts
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Episodes
  • Living Forward Without Letting Go
    May 27 2026

    One of the hardest things about healing is the fear that moving forward means leaving the person we love behind. But what if we could carry them with us instead?

    In this final episode of our Saying It Out Loud series, I’m exploring what grief looks like when the sharp edges begin to soften. We talk about "mature grief," that strange, quiet place where you realize you can hold deep sorrow in one hand and real joy in the other.

    Through my own stories of milestones, grandmotherhood, and rebuilding my life after Mitch died, I’m sharing how I found a way to live with the living without ever letting go of the love that started it all.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • What Mature Grief Feels Like: Recognizing the subtle signs that healing is quietly happening.
    • Finding Meaning: How to discover purpose again after a loss that felt like the end of everything.
    • Identity Grief: Rebuilding a sense of who you are when your "we" becomes "I."
    • The Coexistence of Joy and Sorrow: Why it’s okay to laugh, dream, and even find happiness again without betraying the person you lost.
    • Surviving vs. Living: The shift from just making it through the day to truly engaging with life again.

    Key Takeaways & Moments

    • The Myth of "Moving On": Why we don't leave love behind; we learn to integrate it into our future.
    • The Quiet Shift: How to spot those tiny, almost invisible moments where you start to feel like yourself again.
    • Finding New Purpose: Stories of rediscovering meaning in work, family, and new dreams.
    • Living with the Living: Finding the courage to stay present for the people who are still here while honoring the ones who aren't.

    Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

    • With Love, Nicole: My memoir about our journey through Mitch's illness. [Purchase the Book HERE]
    • Heartfelt Haven: Our free community space for grief education and support. [Join the Community HERE]
    • The Letter Journals: A tool I used to navigate the days when I had too much to say and nowhere to put it. [View Journals]
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    34 mins
  • What Actually Helps In Grief
    May 20 2026

    When someone we love is hurting, we desperately want to do something to "fix" it. But the truth is, grief isn't a problem to be solved. It’s a journey to be witnessed.

    In this episode, I’m getting honest about what actually helps when you’re in the middle of deep loss, and what can unintentionally wound. I’m sharing stories from my own widowhood and my journey through loss to introduce a concept that changed everything for me: The Grief Witness.

    A grief witness isn't someone who has all the correct things to say; they are simply someone who is willing to sit beside the pain without trying to hurry it along.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • The Power of Presence: What it actually looks like to "companion" someone in their sorrow.
    • What Not to Say: Why some of the most common grief platitudes can actually sting, and what to say instead.
    • The Grace Gap: Why grace matters so much in relationships when grief is in the room.
    • Becoming a Grief Witness: How to support a friend or family member without feeling the pressure to "solve" their heartbreak.
    • Letter Writing as a Tool: How I used journaling and letters as a way to untangle my own complicated grief.
    • Tiny Increments: Why healing usually happens in invisible, quiet moments rather than big leaps.

    Key Takeaways & Moments

    • The "Wrong" Things: A look at the phrases that hurt and why they often come from a place of love.
    • The Concept of Witnessing: Shifting our mindset from being a "solver" to being a "companion."
    • Practical Support: Real-world ways to help a grieving friend (that don't involve saying "let me know if you need anything").
    • Healing in Small Steps: Finding hope in the tiny, almost invisible shifts of the heart.

    Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

    • With Love, Nicole: My memoir about our journey through Mitch's illness. [Purchase the Book HERE]
    • Heartfelt Haven: Our free community space for grief education and support. [Join the Community HERE]
    • The Letter Journals: A tool I used to navigate the days when I had too much to say and nowhere to put it. [View Journals]
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    34 mins
  • What Grief Actually Feels Like
    May 11 2026

    If you are grieving a spouse, a parent, a child, or supporting someone through a heartbreak they can’t explain... this episode is for you.

    When my husband, Mitch, was diagnosed with terminal cancer, my world didn't just break when he died, it started breaking the moment we got the news. That is the heavy, often lonely space of anticipatory grief.

    In this first episode of Saying It Out Loud, I’m opening up about what those years of caregiving, shock, and eventual widowhood actually felt like. We explore why the grief we feel before a loss is so different from the deep grief that follows, and why "moving on" isn't the goal. Learning to live with the waves is.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • The Difference Between "Before" and "After": Understanding anticipatory grief versus the reality of profound loss.
    • The Ocean Metaphor: Why grief comes in waves, some small and manageable, others that pull the rug right out from under you.
    • The Bereaved Brain: How your mind responds to traumatic loss and why "grief brain" is a very real, physical experience.
    • The Timeline of Loss: How long profound grief actually lasts (spoiler: it’s longer than the world wants to give you credit for).
    • Hope Without the Rush: How to find a path forward without feeling like you have to "heal" on a deadline.

    Key Takeaways & Moments

    • The moment everything changed: Mitch’s diagnosis and the start of anticipatory grief.
    • Why caregiving is its own form of mourning.
    • Breaking down the "waves" of grief, and how to survive the ones that hit without warning.
    • Living with the "Widow" label and rebuilding a sense of self.

    Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

    • With Love, Nicole: My memoir about our journey through Mitch's illness. [Purchase the Book HERE]
    • Heartfelt Haven: Our free community space for grief education and support. [Join the Community HERE]
    • The Letter Journals: A tool I used to navigate the days when I had too much to say and nowhere to put it. [View Journals]
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    27 mins
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