Is masculinity toxic? What do women actually want from a masculine man? If you've done years of inner work but still feel confused about what healthy masculinity in relationships looks like — and whether the love you're looking for actually exists — this conversation will change how you see everything.

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Anya Zelinska sits down with sound healer and mentor Joshua Davis on Magnetize Your Queen for a raw, unfiltered conversation about why good men are struggling, what patriarchy actually costs men, and what it really means to be strong without losing your sensitivity. This isn't the manosphere. This isn't man-bashing. This is the conversation men have been waiting for.

What we cover:

• Why masculinity isn't the problem — wounded masculinity is
• What women actually want from masculine men (it's not what you think)
• The relationship as a "third body" — a model you've never heard
• Sovereignty vs. codependency — why your last relationship didn't work
• How to sit with discomfort instead of trying to fix everything
• What healthy masculinity and positive masculinity look like in real life
• Why providing and protecting isn't enough anymore

00:00 – Intro & Why This Podcast Exists

04:18 – Men Are Hurting: The Real Conversation We Need

05:13 – Patriarchy Is Hurting Men Too

06:24 – Men Aren't the Patriarchy. The System Is.

07:04 – Capitalism, Control & What It Costs Men at Home

09:27 – The Patriarchal-Capitalist-Colonialist Matrix

13:04 – It's Not Men vs Women. Who Actually Benefits?

15:14 – Who's Winning the Relationship? (Nobody Should Be)

15:48 – The Relationship as a Third Body

18:43 – Codependency: The Angel with One Wing Story

24:07 – Josh & Sara's Story: Finding Sovereignty Before Marriage

26:20 – The Pressure of Being a "Good Husband"

27:39 – How Codependent Relationships Feed the System

29:20 – Tending the Third Body: Why Weekly Check-ins Matter

30:14 – "I Know How You're Feeling" Is a Form of Control

33:42 – Capital K Kindness

34:40 – It Is Not Your Job to Heal Your Partner

35:04 – Stop Trying to Transcend Your Humanity

37:03 – In a Sovereign Relationship, One Can Soar While the Other Suffers

38:39 – Don't Fix Her. Witness Her. (The Tissue Box Story)

43:35 – When You Need to Leave the Room

44:47 – Men Bypass Their Own Experience to Caretake

45:15 – "Holding a Container" Is Not the Full Truth

54:34 – What Is Healthy Masculinity? Uncharted Territory

55:39 – Strength as Endurance: Sitting in Discomfort

58:42 – We Need Strong Men to Unwind Generational Trauma

59:22 – Providing Financially Doesn't Absolve the Deeper Work

1:00:01 – Providing & Protecting: Why It's So Controversial

1:02:36 – Josh's Story: Growing Up Small & Building Other Tools

1:06:22 – Building Community as a Masculine Act of Protection

1:09:05 – Structure vs Container: Scaffolding, Not a Snail Shell

1:09:42 – When You're Not Needed, That's a Sign of Success

1:12:11 – The Nuclear Family Was Never the Plan

1:14:28 – Upcoming Events & How to Work with Josh

1:17:19 – Closing & Gratitude

Upcoming Online Gathering: https://www.anyazelinska.com/events🌐 Website: https://anyazelinska.com

📸 Instagram: @love_priestess_anya

About Josh:Joshua Davis is a sound healer, mentor, mediator, and musician offering immersive sound healing sessions online and in person.🔊 Josh's Sound Healing Sessions: https://www.futureselfhealingarts.com/soundhealing

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