The ripple effect of the negativity, chaos and confusion in the aftermath of a CPAN's death is further discussed in the third part of the mini-series focussing on issues from the diagnosis of a serious illness, through to death and beyond.

The actions, control and manipulations of an emotionally immature and dysregulated mind can be severely devastating and often continue way beyond the death of a malignant covert narcissist.

Flying Monkeys can run amok and others may be weaponised through multiple and conflicting 'dying wishes' at the expense of a victim leading to ongoing abuse by proxy at the hands of other bereaved people.

A supercharged and highly emotive time is used to cause maximum harm and damage to what is a confused and unknowing victim at the worst of times through loss and grief.

Here, through examples and insights, we explain how some of this comes about and how some people are unwittingly involved in doing what they believe to be the right thing very much at the expense of the victim.

Linked episodes in this mini series:

When A CPAN Falls Seriously Ill

The Terminal Ilness and Death of a CPAN

Disclaimer:

Content is drawn largely from research and the combined experiences of thousands of people impacted by varying degrees of psychological/emotional/narcissistic abuse.

Whilst there is limited reference to personal experience, not all content directly refers to those events or any individual or group of people specifically involved in them.

Part 2 of our mini-series dealing with a CPAN falling seriously ill, through to death and beyond.

How manipulation and control can take shape and continue throughout this time, together with the impact on the already bereaved in terms of endless dilemmas, extremely damaging false narratives and situations of abuse by proxy via grieving relatives and highly motivated Flying Monkeys.

Need to know information and advice about important considerations when trying to decide how best to proceed in a climate of ongoing abuse and dismissiveness at one of the worst times of our lives.

Understanding how some of this comes about as a direct result of the CPAN's actions can help in taking away some of the chaos and confusion during such a devastating time.

Linked episode:

When A CPAN Falls Seriously Ill

Disclaimer

Content is drawn largely from research and the combined experiences of thousands of people impacted by varying degrees of narcissistic abuse. Whilst there is limited reference to personal experience, not all content directly refers to those events or any individual or group of people specifically involved in them.

One of the most difficult situations we will ever face is dealing with a situation where the CPAN becomes seriously/terminally ill, particularly when this involves an elderly relative or intimate partner that we may be considering leaving, or even have already left.

The first in a 3 part series that go on to further discuss death and the fallout of post death of abuse by proxy long after the event:

The isolation and alienation we feel, but don't know why.

The lack of support or compassion for us as we try to come to terms with the significance of a serious diagnosis and as we face the reality of losing a loved one.

The difficult decisions we are left having to make in what are the ultimate in 'no win,' 'double bind' situations

Bereavement without support mechanisms

Grief, Complex Grief, and 'Relief'

Surviving death as the villain of the piece