Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for Part 2/2. Together they explore whether non-monogamy is really about unmet needs, what happens when a partner satisfies nearly everything you're looking for, the role of new relationship energy in long-term relationships, primary partnerships versus non-hierarchical polyamory, freedom and autonomy in love, catching feelings for people who aren't a match, maintaining boundaries despite intense attraction, and the science behind oxytocin, dopamine, attachment, and post-sex bonding.

They also unpack cream pies, breeding kinks, ownership versus feeling chosen, BDSM dynamics, worship, possessiveness, fertility awareness methods, Oura Ring tracking, vasectomies, accidental pregnancy stories, relationship satisfaction, energetic pleasure, arousal, and what it really means to build a "bulletproof pussy."

Topics Discussed

• Whether non-monogamy is fundamentally about unmet needs
• Can one person satisfy all your emotional, sexual, and relational needs?
• New relationship energy (NRE) and its role in long-term relationships
• Catching feelings for people who aren't a good match
• Oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and attachment after sex
• Bacterial vaginosis (BV): causes, treatment, recurrence, and prevention
• Yeast infections and recurring vaginal health issues
• Gut health's connection to vaginal health
• Creating a “bulletproof pussy”
• Sleep, alcohol, drugs and sex
• UTIs and post-sex hygiene
• Self-checking vaginal health through scent and taste
• Cream pies, breeding kinks, and why people find them attractive
• Accidental pregnancy stories
• Ownership, possessiveness, worship, and feeling chosen
• BDSM dynamics and core desires in sex

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for an honest conversation about sexuality, identity, motherhood, non-monogamy, desire, dating, pleasure, and why "sluthood" has nothing to do with how much sex you're having.

Together they explore whether you can still be a slut while celibate, the difference between sex positivity and sluthood, and why owning your desires without shame is at the heart of sexual empowerment.

Topics Covered:

• Why "sluthood" is a mindset, not a body count• Sex positivity vs. sluthood• Owning sexual desires and boundaries• Polyamory and relationship de-escalation• Solo poly life and finding a new primary partner• BDSM dynamics, D/s relationships, and sexual compatibility• Playing together vs. playing separately in non-monogamous relationships• Feeling sexually satiated in long-term partnerships• Asexuality, demisexuality, and the ace spectrum• Whether you can be an asexual slut• Anonymous sex vs. sex with emotional connection• Sex parties and sex-positive communities• Building trust, safety, and desire with recurring partners• Female arousal, nervous system safety, and orgasm• Why one pregnancy can feel completely different from another• Postpartum sexuality and loss of desire• Returning to sex after giving birth• Masturbation during pregnancy and postpartum• First postpartum orgasms and sexual rediscovery• Oral sex, receiving pleasure, and people-pleasing tendencies• Why some women struggle to receive• "Real eaters" and enthusiastic oral sex partners• The psychology of receiving pleasure• The Wheel of Consent• Foreplay, full-body arousal, and erotic anticipation• Female desire and what actually creates arousal• Grinding, making out, and erotic tension• Bad kissers and sexual compatibility• What makes oral sex feel incredible• Leaving casual sex behind• Dating with intention• Childfree dating and relationship dealbreaker• Having sex on the first date• Slow burns versus instant chemistry• Building tension before sex• Boundaries, self-control, and emotional attachment• Future sexual adventures and lifestyle goals

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with porn historian, writer, and adult industry expert Noelle Perdue for a fascinating conversation about pornography, fantasy, sexuality, kink, technology, trauma, aging, relationships, and the hidden ways porn shapes our world.

Noelle shares her unlikely journey from software developer to porn scriptwriter, her work with Pornhub and the adult industry, and why she believes pornography is one of the most misunderstood cultural forces of our time.

Together, Alexa and Noelle unpack the relationship between porn and real-life sexuality, whether porn influences behavior, the myths surrounding porn addiction, the role of fantasy, kink exploration, sex education, censorship, free speech, technology, consent, and how pornography impacts legislation, culture, and online platforms.

The conversation also explores giantess fetishism, size kink culture, porn parodies, queer sexuality, healing after sexual trauma, alternative forms of intimacy, body image, aging, MILF culture, hookup communication, sex work, human trafficking misconceptions, and why people are often far more sexually diverse than they realize.

Whether you're curious about porn's role in society, interested in sexual exploration, or simply want a deeper understanding of human desire, this episode offers an honest, nuanced, and thought-provoking perspective.

Topics discussed:

• How Noelle became a porn historian• Leaving tech to write porn scripts• Writing porn parodies for major studios• Working with Brazzers and Pornhub• Pornography's influence on technology and culture• Section 230 explained• FOSTA-SESTA and online censorship• Sex work vs. human trafficking• Porn and free speech debates• Does porn affect relationships?• Porn addiction and dependency myths• Porn as a tool for exploration• Why porn should not replace sex education• Fantasy vs. reality in sexual desire• The dangers of using porn as sex ed• Giantess fetish and SizeCon• Expansion fetishes and breast expansion• Vore and consumption fantasies• Alternative forms of intimacy• Expansive definitions of sex• Communicating desires with partners• Casual sex and queer relationship dynamics• Why sexual communication matters• The popularity of MILF content• Body diversity in porn• Criticisms of pornography• The "teen" category debate• Pornography as a reflection of culture• Sexual violence and porn studies• Gooning culture explained

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator Tara Michaela for a nuanced conversation about the ethics of public sex, public play, PDA, kink visibility, consent, social norms, and why society struggles to define where the line actually is.

Together they unpack whether public sexuality is inherently unethical, why people are drawn to public play and exhibitionism, the role of novelty and desire, and how context changes our perception of what's acceptable. They explore everything from making out in public, wearable vibrators, public bathrooms, sex in cars, beach hookups, PDA at parties, BDSM at Pride, leash dynamics in public spaces, sex-positive parenting, children witnessing nontraditional expressions of sexuality, consent education, sex negativity, and the difference between legality and ethics.

They also discuss whether bystanders can truly consent to what they encounter in public, how social norms shape our reactions to sexuality, why people react so strongly online, how consent is often taught as a black-and-white concept despite living in gray areas, and why intent and impact both matter in conversations about consent violations.

Topics discussed:

• public sex vs. public play
• PDA, making out, and cultural attitudes toward affection
• Why public play is exciting and appealing
• Novelty, desire, exhibitionism, and fantasy fulfillment
• Wearable vibrators and remote-control sex toys in public
• The ethics of public sexual behavior
• Consent and uninvolved bystanders
• Social norms versus personal freedom
• The difference between legality and morality
• Being the "naked neighbor" and visibility at home
• BDSM visibility in public spaces
• Kink at Pride and public kink discourse
• Walking a submissive on a leash in public
• Public conversations about sex and sexual experiences
• Elevator conversations, social etiquette, and discomfort
• Consent education and its limitations
• Intent versus impact in consent violations
• Ethical gray areas in sexuality
• Sex on the beach and secluded public spaces
• Sex in cars and privacy expectations
• Public bathrooms and ethical considerations
• PDA at parties, raves, and social gatherings
• Exhibitionism and safer alternatives
• Sex parties and kink events as consensual spaces
• Online outrage and reactions to sexual content
• How sexuality can challenge and change social norms

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Norma Buster, sex positive victims rights advocate, Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg Law, survivor of image-based abuse, and online sex worker, for a raw and nuanced conversation about stalking, leaked intimate images, deepfake abuse, consent, shame, sexuality, healing, OnlyFans, bisexuality, and reclaiming agency after trauma.

Topics Covered:

• Norma Buster’s experience with stalking and image-based abuse
• Why “revenge porn” is an inaccurate and harmful term
• The evolution of image-based sexual abuse laws
• Victim blaming from judges, police, and society
• Trauma, shame, and psychological impact after leaked intimate images
• CA Goldberg Law and victims rights advocacy
• The federal Take It Down Act
• Why intent-to-harm clauses make prosecutions harder
• Free speech debates surrounding image-based abuse laws
• AI deepfakes and nudifying apps
• Deepfake abuse affecting women, minors, and students
• Consent, impact vs intent, and digital privacy
• Supporting friends through stalking or abuse
• Victim vs survivor terminology and trauma identity
• Purity culture and sexual shame
• Bisexual awakening during the pandemic
• Dating couples and exploring non-monogamy
• Threesomes and alternative relationship dynamics
• Healing through sexuality and sex positivity
• Starting an OnlyFans after surviving image-based abuse
• Sex work stigma and online identity
• Reclaiming agency and personal autonomy
• Advice for survivors struggling with shame and harassment

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist, content creator, and non-monogamy advocate Kate Shelor for an unfiltered conversation about open relationships, outsourcing fantasies, emotional labor in swinging, and the surprising ways long-term couples keep intimacy exciting.

Kate opens up about why she rarely dates outside her marriage despite being ethically non-monogamous, how hiring sex workers simplified their relationship dynamic, and the realities of jealousy, chemistry, group play, and sexual compatibility. They also dive into anal sex, fantasies, OnlyFans attention, emotional burnout, aging, confidence, kink exploration, and the difference between fantasy and real-life sex.

Topics covered:

• Ethical non-monogamy & swinging
• Why Kate rarely wants other partners
• Being a sex educator while dating
• Being intimidating or “unapproachable”
• Emotional labor in open relationships
• Using escorts and sex workers as a couple
• Negotiating fantasies and boundaries
• Why paying for sex can be simpler than dating
• Outsourcing anal and mismatched sexual interests
• Jealousy, communication, and trust in marriage
• Male vs female sex workers
• Exploring kinks safely
• Why group sex stopped being exciting
• Realistic female orgasms vs porn fantasy
• Aging, hormones, and changing libido
• OnlyFans, validation, and sexual attention online
• Keeping long-term relationships exciting
• Matching underwear subscriptions
• Cruise playrooms and glory hole adventures
• Novelty, intimacy, and maintaining attraction

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with… herself for a raw, unfiltered solo episode catching you up on everything from life on a Temptation Cruise to her evolving dating standards, sexual boundaries, and relationship mindset.

Alexa shares what it’s like attending a Temptation/Desire-style cruise solo for the first time (people-watching couples, navigating swinger culture, and breaking down exactly how playrooms, workshops, and non-monogamous dynamics work in real life).

She dives into her personal shift away from casual sex and into intentional dating, explaining why she’s now prioritizing emotional connection, aftercare, and partners who genuinely meet her needs, especially when it comes to oral sex.

The episode explores deeper questions around monogamy vs. non-monogamy, whether one partner can meet all your needs, and how exposure to different relationship styles can expand your perspective, whether you ever practice them or not. She also shares behind-the-scenes insights into her workshops, from pussy worship to anal education, and what it’s like teaching pleasure in a fully immersive, hands-on environment.

Topics Covered

• Swinger cruise culture: Temptation & Desire breakdown
• Playroom rules, dynamics, and etiquette
• Workshops: pussy worship, anal 101, handjob techniques
• Observing newbies vs experienced couples in non-monogamy
• Community, connection, and friendships on lifestyle cruises
• Using pleasure and joy as a form of balance in a difficult world
• Transition from casual sex to intentional dating
• Sexual dissatisfaction and unmet needs in casual dynamics
• The importance of oral sex and prioritizing female pleasure
• The orgasm gap and stimulation differences during penetration
• “Real eater only” mindset and not settling sexually
• Monogamy vs non-monogamy reflections
• Fluid relationship identities and changing over time
• Learning from different relationship structures
• Expanding social circles: queer, kinky, celibate, non-monogamous perspectives
• Masturbation and solo pleasure practices
• Behind-the-scenes of sex workshops and teaching live experiences
• STI education gaps and common fears
• Orgies, private room dynamics, and cruise experiences
• Community vs sex focus in lifestyle spaces
• Building a career as a sex educator and coach

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Ashley Manta to explore the world of energetic sex: what it is, how it works, and whether you can actually feel pleasure, connection, or even orgasm without physical touch.

They break down the concept of the energetic body vs the physical body, how breath, presence, and visualization play a role in directing energy, and how practices rooted in tantra, mindfulness, and somatic awareness can expand what we think of as sex. Ashley explains how energy can be shared between partners (with consent), how couples can sync breath and build intimacy without touch, and how techniques like eye gazing, chakra visualization, and intention-setting are used in workshops.

The conversation covers everything from solo exploration to partnered experiences like “energetic penetration,” heart-to-heart connection exercises, and combining touch with energy to enhance sensation. They also discuss real workshop experiences where beginners reported feeling physical sensations, emotional releases, and even orgasms while fully clothed.

Topics discussed:

• What “energetic sex” is
• Energetic body vs physical body
• Breathwork and presence in sexual experiences
• Visualization and directing energy
• Solo energetic pleasure practices
• Partnered energetic connection
• Eye gazing and breath syncing
• Chakra system and energy movement
• Hand energy exercise (feeling energy between palms)
• Energetic “penetration” concept
• Combining physical touch with energy
• Workshop experiences and beginner reactions
• Reports of no-touch orgasms
• Emotional and somatic responses (shaking, release)
• Building confidence in energetic practices
• Energetic kink and power dynamics
• Energetic restraint and roleplay
• Tuning into a partner’s “frequency”
• Feedback cues and responsiveness
• Breath orgasms vs other orgasm types
• Laughgasms, coregasms, and non-traditional orgasms
• Expanding definitions of pleasure
• Self-pleasure and manifestation practices
• Using orgasmic energy for intention-setting
• Longer orgasm experiences
• Tantra workshops and festivals
• Tantric massage (what it may involve)
• Skepticism vs openness
• Long-distance energetic connection
• Phone sex using energy and visualization
• Alexa’s personal experiment and results