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A somatic look at stress, pressure, and the internal signals fundraisers ignore.
Fundraising anxiety isn’t a mindset problem — it’s a nervous system response. In this episode, Erin breaks down why fundraisers experience tight chests, clenched stomachs, throat pressure, and racing thoughts when preparing to make an ask… and why none of this means you’re bad at your job.
Drawing on somatic practice, trauma-informed coaching, and fifteen years of fundraising experience, this episode helps you understand how your ancient wiring interprets budget shortfalls like a threat, how donors pick up on your internal state through co-regulation, and how anxiety quietly shapes (and sometimes sabotages) your relationships with donors.
You’ll also hear two contrasting “versions” of the fundraiser:
• the anxious fundraiser whose nervous system is in fight-or-flight
• the regulated fundraiser whose calm presence draws donors in
Understanding the difference is the key to asking with confidence, receiving with ease, and building long-term donor trust.
This episode is foundational for any fundraiser who has ever wondered:
“Why do I feel this way?”
“How do donors seem to sense my stress?”
“Is there a healthier way to do this work?”
Spoiler: Yes. And it starts in your body.
💡 Key Takeaways
1. Anxiety is not a flaw — it's biology.
Your nervous system reacts to budget shortfalls the same way your ancestors reacted to predators. Nothing is wrong with you. Your body is doing its job.
2. Donors feel what you feel.
Nervous system co-regulation means your internal state is always communicating, even if your words sound confident.
3. Anxiety narrows your vision and creativity.
Fundraising from fight-or-flight constricts your thinking, your options, and your relational presence.
4. A regulated fundraiser is a magnetic fundraiser.
When your breath slows, your energy settles, and you stop tying your worth to the donor’s “yes,” everything shifts.
5. Anxiety is a messenger, not a master.
It’s pointing to a place inside that wants safety, attention, or care — and you can learn to give yourself that.
📝 Reflection Question for Your Journal
Where in your body does anxiety show up — and what might it be trying to protect?
This question alone can unlock profound awareness for fundraisers.
🎧 Companion Resource
Be sure to listen to the guided meditation designed specifically for this episode:
“Meditation: Making the Ask”
Use it before donor meetings or anytime your system feels activated.
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Jan 13 202618 mins