In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Karen Paolicelli shares the reality of survival mode inside a long-term abusive marriage — not just the “big moments,” but the daily performance, the masking, and the quiet psychological gymnastics that keep you functioning while everything is falling apart.

Karen opens up about being a single mom navigating divorce and custody, surviving deep financial and emotional betrayal, and rebuilding from almost nothing — all while still in the middle of legal constraints.

We talk about how abuse makes you hyper-organized in the worst way (keeping track of what you told who), how caregiving can blur the lines of danger, and what happens when the person who harmed you leaves… and empties the bank accounts on the way out.

Highlights include:

🎭 Survival mode as performance + “looking okay”

📦 The hidden labor of abuse: tracking lies, covering, compartmentalizing

💔 Grief stacked on grief: loss, illness, and no room to process

💣 Escalation + fear when it starts happening in front of her son

💸 The financial wipeout: left with less than $5

🎾 Healing in real life: therapy, “Let Them,” and a healthy obsession (tennis + movement)

1. What survival mode actually looks like (masking, performance, “I’m fine”)
2. The hypervigilance and “OCD” coping that can develop when you’re constantly covering
3. How grief, miscarriage loss, and caregiving can collide into chronic shutdown
4. When illness doesn’t excuse abuse — and how women rationalize what’s happening
5. The moment she realized the danger was escalating (and the aftermath of covering it up)
6. What happens when abuse starts happening in front of your child
7. The “exhale” moment — and why leaving doesn’t instantly mean safety
8. Financial betrayal: emptied accounts, credit cards drained, starting over
9. Healing tools that helped: therapy support, Mel Robbins’ “Let Them,” and movement as medicine
10. Creating the space you wish you had: community, storytelling, and breaking stigma

Because so many women aren’t “doing okay” — they’re performing okay.

This episode exposes the parts of abuse people rarely talk about: the mental labor, the shame, the isolation, the financial sabotage, and the parenting fear when it spills in front of your child.

Karen’s story is a reminder that leaving isn’t always a clean break — sometimes it’s an exhale followed by survival-level rebuilding.

And if you needed permission to choose yourself before everything is wrapped up with a bow… this is it.

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