What does the Bible say about abuse? According to Dr. Steve Tracy, Scripture talks about abuse hundreds if not thousands of times. In this profound episode, you'll get a clear definition of abuse, how God responds to it, why all sin is not the same in its consequences, and how to guard against toxic misinterpretations of God's word.

Dr. Steve Tracy is the president and international director of Mending the Soul Ministries. Steve and his wife Celestia founded Mending the Soul in 2003 to create best practice Christian resources for understanding and responding to abuse. Steve earned his PhD in Biblical Studies from the University of Sheffield in England and taught theology and ethics at Phoenix Seminary for 30 years. Before coming on staff with MTS, Steve pastored for fifteen years in three different churches. Steve is the author of numerous books and journal articles on abuse, marriage, and healing.

Learn more at mendingthesoul.org

Buy Steve's books:

• To Heal Or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors
• Mending The Soul: Understanding and Healing Abuse (with Celestia Tracy)

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What is sexual attraction fluidity exploration in therapy (SAFE-T)? Licensed professional counselor Andrew Rodriguez shares the history behind the sexual orientation paradigm and offers a powerful message of hope for men seeking alignment between their attractions and their values. You'll learn how Reintegrative Therapy uses modern attachment theory and trauma reprocessing to create significant shifts in unwanted sexual feelings and behaviors. Andrew also opens up about his personal story of childhood loneliness, performance-based faith, and finding his true identity in Christ.

Andrew Rodriguez, LPC, has a passion for helping people discover and live out their true identities. He is the owner of Integrity Christian Counseling. He specializes in SAFE-T (sexual attraction fluidity exploration in therapy), working with individuals with unwanted same-sex attraction, sexual addiction, and fetishes. Andrew is certified in Reintegrative Therapy and serves as the Training Facilitator for the Reintegrative Therapy Association. He's also a board member of The Alliance for Therapeutic Choice & Scientific Integrity, a counselor affiliate with Restored Hope Network, and he's partnered with Desert Stream Ministries and ReStory Ministries. Andrew has been married to his wife, Jessica, since 2007, and they live in Pottstown, PA.

Check out Andrew's YouTube channel, PsychoBible, where he discusses psychology, theology, and sexuality through a Christian counseling lens at youtube.com/psychobible

Learn more about the 2026 Alliance For Therapeutic Choice & Scientific Integrity Online Training Conference here.

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Contact Andrew here.

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Many movies minimize, justify, or even celebrate sexual betrayal. In this episode, you’ll discover 5 popular films that communicate toxic messages about deception and infidelity.

Related episodes for further listening:

• How To Stop Hiding And Lying
• How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure
• When A Wife Discovers Her Husband’s Porn
• How Women Heal From Sexual Betrayal Trauma
• Healing For Sexually Betrayed Men

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Learn 8 differences between unhealthy attachment and healthy brotherhood:

1. How it begins
2. Core motivation
3. Emotional tone
4. Boundaries
5. Identity and inner stability
6. Sexual attraction dynamics
7. Conflict and tension
8. Growth trajectory

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"You are God's beloved son. In you He is well-pleased!" This is a powerful truth for outgrowing porn. But while that identity sounds beautiful, it often leaves us asking: What do I actually do with that? What does it look like to live like a beloved son in everyday life?

This episode breaks down 14 practical, redemptive ways to step out of a performance-driven "slave" mindset and into the freedom of true sonship. If you're ready to heal the boy to free the man, this episode is your roadmap:

1. PLAY
2. REST
3. RISK
4. ASK
5. SHARE
6. FEEL
7. LOVE
8. HUG
9. GIVE
10. RECEIVE
11. PRAY
12. TRUST
13. WAIT
14. BE

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Why We Sexualize Emotions And How To Desexualize Them
• Appropriate Touch Between Men
• The Image Of God In You

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What is your heart hungry for? How can you satisfy that hunger in a healthy way? Shawn Bonneteau unpacks how our thoughts and actions flow from the heart, a 5-second tool that can interrupt unwanted behavior, and how Christ transforms us without shame.

Shawn Bonneteau is a Christian sexual recovery coach who has spent 14 years inside addiction and 8 years guiding men out of it for a total of over 3,000 sessions. Shawn is the founder of Secret Habit, where he guides Christian men to break free from pornography and destructive sexual habits so they can live with integrity, confidence and real freedom. Learn more at secrethabit.ca

Start your clarity quiz:

secrethabit.com/quiz

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secrethabit.com/call

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Instead of trying harder, what would it look like to try softer? Author and counselor Aundi Kolber guides us into compassionate attention so that we can reconnect with our bodies, heal from trauma, and outgrow porn. You'll also hear how God relates to us in the middle of our mess with in-process miracles along the way.

Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (MA, LPC) and bestselling author of the critically acclaimed "Try Softer" as well as "Strong like Water." She has received additional training in her specialization of trauma-and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology. As a survivor of trauma, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain. Learn more at aundikolber.com

Buy Aundi's books:

• Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode—and into a Life of Connection and Joy
• Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things—and Experience True Flourishing
• Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days

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Hear a vulnerable, powerful breakup letter written to pornography.

If this resonates with you, write your own “dear porn” breakup letter and share it in the Husband Material Community, which you can join at husbandmaterial.com

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