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How to Stay Human

How to Stay Human

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 In a world that’s becoming increasingly artificial, disconnected, and disembodied, staying human is a radical, sacred act. How to Stay Human is a weekly invitation to return to what’s real: your body, your breath, your heart, and your connection to the earth and each other. Hosted by award winning, transformational guide and spiritual teacher Tori Gordon and consciousness strategist and technologist Kyle Herron, this show explores the intersection of spiritual awakening, nervous system healing, divine remembrance, and the rise of artificial intelligence. Together, Tori and Kyle bring a unique blend of soul and structure, sacred and scientific, ancient wisdom and modern inquiry. This is a space for seekers, creatives, leaders, and lovers who feel the rupture, and are choosing not to numb or bypass, but to feel, integrate, and evolve. Each episode offers story-rich transmissions and illuminating conversations with mystics, futurists, healers, and thought leaders navigating the tension between rapid technological acceleration and the timeless wisdom of the soul. This isn’t self-help. This is sacred resistance. This is How to Stay Human.© 2022 The Coachable Podcast Alternative & Complementary Medicine Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success
Episodes
  • Move With the Seasons: A New Way to Set Goals for 2026

    Move With the Seasons: A New Way to Set Goals for 2026
    Jan 14 2026

    As 2025 comes to a close, Kyle and Tori invite you into a more human way to plan your next chapter—one that honors your energy, your nervous system, and the natural rhythm of life.

    We reflect on the state of humanity in 2025—polarization, system breakdowns, and the quiet revolution of people choosing a more conscious path. Then we shift into a practical framework for 2026: why New Year’s resolutions often fail, how winter is meant for reflection, and how to create goals that are simple, measurable, meaningful, and aligned with your inner authority.

    Kyle shares the SMART goal framework, breaks goal-setting into personal vs. professional, and maps personal goals through the seven energetic bodies (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, primal, social, financial) plus life logistics. Tori grounds the conversation with the core reminder: don’t follow the crowd—follow your truth, your body, and your season of life.

    If you’ve been forcing goals that don’t stick, this episode will give you a new map.

    What You’ll Learn
    • How to reflect on 2025 using themes (integration, not pressure)
    • Why winter is for slowness, stillness, and intention-setting
    • How to create SMART goals that you can actually sustain
    • The seven energetic bodies goal framework (plus life logistics)
    • How to balance maintenance and experimentation
    • Why inner authority matters more than dogma
    • How to stop chasing someone else’s life and build your own
    Sponsor: Anywhere Clinic

    This episode is sponsored by Anywhere Clinic, a mental health clinic with a holistic approach to care, including psychiatric care, medication management, ketamine therapy, TMS, talk therapy, and family counseling.
    Learn more / book a consult: www.anywhereclinic.com/tori-gordon

    Links

    Substack: torigordon.substack.com

    Instagram: @howtostayhumanpod @thetorigordon @kyleaherron

    Website: torigordon.com


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    55 mins
  • Relationship Agreements Part 2: How to Implement Them (Sacred Pause, Weekly Check-Ins, and “Ouchies”)

    Relationship Agreements Part 2: How to Implement Them (Sacred Pause, Weekly Check-Ins, and “Ouchies”)
    Dec 31 2025

    Relationship agreements only work if you actually use them. In this episode, Tori Gordon and Kyle Herron share how to implement relationship agreements in real life: how to recognize when you’re drifting, how to regulate before you react, and how to build weekly check-ins that keep love practical, safe, and alive.

    In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

    • Use relationship agreements as guardrails (like bowling bumpers) to stay aligned with your shared vision
    • Spot the signs you’re drifting (in your body, mood, tension, and motivation)
    • Practice the “Sacred Pause” before reacting when you’re dysregulated
    • Create emotional safety so vulnerability becomes a source of trust (and attraction)
    • Use weekly check-in questions to prevent resentment and strengthen connection
    • Track “ouchies” and wins so the little stuff doesn’t become the big stuff
    • Ask for support in a way that improves efficiency, intimacy, and teamwork
    • Bring play back into your partnership (without needing a “reason”)

    Key Concepts & Frameworks

    • Agreements as guardrails: A living manual for repair, regulation, and alignment
    • The Sacred Pause: Pause → regulate → return to the agreement → choose your next step
    • Ouchies: Naming small hurts before they stack into resentment
    • Weekly rhythm: A light structure that becomes more fluid over time
    • Mutual accountability: Repair is reciprocal, not one person “doing the work”

    Weekly Check-In Questions (steal these)

    • What did I do this week that you loved?
    • How could I have loved you better this week?
    • Do you have any “ouchies” we need to bring presence to?
    • What support do you need from me in the coming days?
    • What would be fun for you this week?
    • Where are we aligned with our shared vision right now?
    • Where are we drifting? What agreement isn’t being honored?
    • What responsibility am I taking for how I show up this week?

    Resources

    Substack: Relationship agreements + check-in questions (paid subscribers get the full formats Tori & Kyle use): https://torigordon.substack.com

    Get our Relationship Agreements Starter Pack: https://torigordon.gumroad.com/l/ikkcp

    Instagram: @howtostayhumanpod | @thetorigordon

    If you loved this episode:
    Send it to your partner or best friend, and try one question together tonight.

    Sponsor: Anywhere Clinic
    This episode is sponsored by Anywhere Clinic—your online destination for high-quality mental health and hormone optimization.

    Whether you're exploring ketamine therapy, need psychiatric medication management, or want ongoing support from experienced clinicians, Anywhere Clinic brings expert care to you—wherever you are.

    💻 Book your first appointment or explore holistic mental health options now at:
    anywhereclinic.com/tori-gordon


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    39 mins
  • The Relationship Agreements That Changed Everything: How We Build Love, Safety, and Truth

    The Relationship Agreements That Changed Everything: How We Build Love, Safety, and Truth
    Dec 17 2025
    If you have ever wondered how healthy, conscious couples stay connected through conflict, grow without outgrowing each other, and build relationships that feel safe, passionate, and deeply alive, this episode is for you.In one of the most intimate and practical conversations yet, Tori and Kyle pull back the curtain on the relationship agreements they created at the very beginning of their partnership — the same agreements that now serve as the foundation for their love, their communication, their emotional safety, and their shared vision for the future.These are not rules. They are living, breathing commitments that help two sovereign individuals build a partnership rooted in truth, devotion, stability, and integrity.Whether you are single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode offers a framework for how to create a relationship that does not rely on guessing, hoping, and wishing — but instead is built intentionally, consciously, and collaboratively.You will walk away with a deeper understanding of:Why every relationship needs its own “operating system”How to create emotional safety and navigate conflict with clarity and compassionThe power of nervous system regulation and timing in your communicationWhy openness, truth, and mutual understanding are pillars of intimacyHow to stop keeping score and create a partnership that feels like team, not competitionHow shared vision, polarity, and sovereignty fuel long-term loveWhat it looks like to choose each other over and over againThis is a grounded, honest, spiritually rich conversation about love as a path of awakening — and partnership as a sacred container for growth.This Episode Is For You If…You want a conscious, mature, emotionally safe relationshipYou’re calling in a partner and want to do it intentionallyYou’re already partnered but want more stability, clarity, and connectionYou want tools for communication, nervous system regulation, or conflict repairYou love hearing real, honest conversations about what it takes to build lasting loveYou’re tired of performing partnership and ready to practice partnershipEpisode HighlightsWhy couples need written agreements (not just unspoken expectations)How to build your relationship like you build your business: with intention and clarityThe difference between values and virtues — and why both matterWhat it means to create a relationship “container” and why it’s essentialRegulation: the #1 building block for connection, intimacy, and repairThe 5 regulation agreements Tori and Kyle use every dayHow to navigate conflict without collapsing or attackingWhy timing matters more than you thinkThe “heard, held, or helped” frameworkHow to stop making your partner the enemyThe truth about polarity — and why so many modern relationships lose itThe power of shared vision and co-creating a futureSponsor: Anywhere ClinicYour mental health matters. Your nervous system matters. Your wholeness matters.This episode is sponsored by Anywhere Clinic — the online psychiatric and mental health care team Tori has personally worked with for years. Whether you are exploring ketamine therapy, need medication management, or want long-term support, they offer compassionate, expert help from wherever you are.Book your appointment at:👉 www.anywhereclinic.com/tori-gordonTimestamps00:00 — Welcome, intention, and why relationship agreements matter03:45 — Treating your relationship like a business (in the best way)07:10 — How unspoken expectations sabotage intimacy12:00 — Values vs. virtues and the foundation of partnership17:40 — Openness, truth, and what Tori needs to feel loved25:00 — Why emotional transparency requires safety30:20 — Regulation: the first pillar of conscious partnership37:55 — The 5 regulation agreements45:30 — Timing, bandwidth, and energy awareness53:00 — Communication, emotional safety, and repair1:00:00 — Mutually balanced growth and ending scorekeeping1:10:00 — Love, polarity, and partnership1:18:00 — Shared vision and co-creating your future1:30:00 — Choosing each other again and again1:34:00 — Closing reflections and part two previewTo continue your journey with the concepts from this episode, we have created The Relationship Agreements Starter Kit. This is a practical, grounded toolkit for building a partnership rooted in clarity, connection, and love. It includes a translated version of our own agreements, a fill-in-the-blank template, and a step-by-step framework for creating and integrating your own. You can find it here: https://torigordon.gumroad.com/l/ikkcp Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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    1 hr and 39 mins
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