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How To Love Yourself No Matter What

How To Love Yourself No Matter What

By: Amanda Hess: Certified Life Coach for women ready to heal past hurt and finally thrive
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You’re trying so hard to make life work… and it still feels like something’s missing. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, taken the advice — but somehow, you’re still stuck. You’re smart, capable, and self-aware, yet you can’t shake the feeling you’re surviving instead of living. This podcast is for deep-feeling women who are done holding it all together and ready to finally feel at home in their own skin. Each week, Amanda Hess, Certified Life Coach and straight-talking deep-feeler, shares honest coaching, personal stories, and practical tools to help you: Get out of your head and into your life Stop managing your emotions like a full-time job Build self-trust that lasts Live on your terms — without apology If you’ve ever felt “too much” and “not enough” at the same time, you’ll hear yourself in every episode — and discover how to love yourself no matter what. 📅 New episodes every Thursday.2025 How To Love Yourself No Matter What Alternative & Complementary Medicine Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • 319. Sometimes the Truth Doesn't Serve You
    Jun 25 2026

    Alright, folks! So today we’re diving headfirst into the wild world of self-criticism and the liberating idea that sometimes, the truth just doesn’t serve us. Picture this: you drop a glass and suddenly you’re the clumsy villain of your own story! But guess what? It’s time to flip the script! I’m here to chat with you about how our interpretations of our little blunders can spiral into a tsunami of self-loathing, and how we can break free from that cycle. We’ll unpack the notion that how we perceive our mess-ups—big or small—can shape our confidence and overall vibe in life. Trust me, realizing that life is messy and that we don’t need to play the blame game can be a total game-changer. So let’s kick that guilt to the curb and learn to be our own biggest cheerleaders instead! Ready? Let’s roll!

    Takeaways:

    1. Life is messy and embracing that messiness allows us to approach our emotions and experiences with more grace and understanding, instead of blame.
    2. Understanding that our perceptions of truth can often hinder our growth is vital for personal development and emotional resilience.
    3. Rather than focusing on whose fault it is when something goes wrong, we should ask ourselves how to move forward and what we can learn from the situation.
    4. Shame and guilt are unhelpful emotions that can prevent us from making progress; instead, we should learn to be kind to ourselves and focus on constructive actions.
    5. The narrative we create about ourselves in moments of failure can either propel us forward or hold us back, so we must choose our words carefully.
    6. We often believe that attributing blame leads to accountability, but in reality, it can create more negativity; let’s focus on solutions instead.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. amandahest.ca/bookacall

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    14 mins
  • 318. Navigating Family Drama Like a Pro: Patterns, Pleasing, and Perception!
    Jun 18 2026

    Alright, folks, let’s dive into some juicy family dynamics! Today, we're peeling back the layers on why family gatherings feel like stepping into a well-rehearsed play where everyone knows their lines—especially those cringe-worthy ones. The real kicker? It’s not about the events themselves; it's about the patterns we’ve been stuck in since we were knee-high to a grasshopper. We're talking about those age-old scripts we keep repeating, and trust me, they’re not as random as you think. Spoiler alert: it’s your nervous system playing tricks on you, making you time travel back to your childhood every time Uncle Bob brings up politics at the barbecue. So grab your favorite snack, settle in, and let’s explore how we can break those patterns without putting the blame on anyone else—because, really, who has the energy for that?

    Takeaways:

    1. Navigating family dynamics often unveils deep-rooted patterns that we unknowingly perpetuate, impacting our emotional well-being.
    2. The key to transforming how we interact with family involves reframing blame and focusing on personal accountability instead.
    3. Our nervous systems have been conditioned from childhood to react in predictable ways during family gatherings, leading to emotional time travel.
    4. Mastering the art of storytelling about our experiences can significantly alter our emotional responses and improve our overall happiness.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. amandahest.ca/bookacall

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    16 mins
  • 317. Accountability Or Self-Love — The hidden shame of motivation and accountability
    Jun 11 2026
    DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE YOU SET A GOAL, PUSH HARD FOR A FEW DAYS—AND THEN FALL OFF AND WONDER WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?Like no matter how many times you try, you can't seem to make yourself do the things you say you want to do?If that's you, this episode is going to change how you see yourself.Because it's not that you're lazy. And it's not that you lack discipline.It's that the fuel you've been using to motivate yourself is actually working against you—and no one has ever shown you what to use instead.In this episode, I'm breaking down why accountability and motivation fail most people, what's really underneath the cycle of trying and quitting, and what it actually takes to build habits that stick long term.In This Episode, I Cover:Why motivation and accountability alone will never be enoughThe real reason you can push for a few days—but can't make it lastHow shame becomes the hidden fuel behind most "self-improvement" effortsWhy using self-hatred as motivation has a built-in breaking pointThe difference between forcing yourself and genuinely wanting to show upWhy love is a more powerful motivator than frustration, disappointment, or disgustHow to get specific about why you actually want what you wantWhy your brain resists new habits—and why that doesn't mean anything is wrong with youThe practical steps to remove barriers and make showing up easierHow to talk to yourself the night before so you actually follow throughThe toddler analogy that reframes everything about self-disciplineWhy a D-plus effort is still better than nothing—and how to own thatWhat regulated accountability actually looks like versus dysregulated forcingHow to flex when life gets in the way without quitting entirelyWhat changes when you stop using guilt and start using radical self-acceptanceKey TakeawayYou don't have a motivation problem. You have a fuel problem.Shame, guilt, and self-disgust can push you for a few days—but they will always break down. They are not a long-term solution.What actually works is getting specific about why you want what you want, removing the barriers between you and the action, and learning to redirect yourself with kindness instead of force.You don't need to be harder on yourself. You need to be more honest—and more loving.InvitationI'm running JuneTube all month inside the Love Yourself No Matter What community—weekly trainings, weekly lives, and everything you need to actually use these tools and create a different kind of summer.To get access, grab the free End Overthinking Five-Minute Reset Ritual at:👉 joinamanda.caYou'll get the audio training plus an invitation to everything happening in June.Ready to Go Deeper?If you want support implementing this work in your own life, you can book a discovery call with me.We'll talk about what's going on for you and whether coaching together would be a good fit.Book here: amandahess.ca/bookacallConnect With MeIf this episode resonated, I'd love to hear from you.Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahessOr visit www.amandahess.ca to learn more about working together.Featured on the Show:Book a free consultation call with meSend me a DM over on InstagramHelp Other Women Find This PodcastIf this episode resonated with you, or you know someone who needs to hear it, please share.Leave me a review on Apple Podcasts and let me know what topics you would like to hear.Don't miss an episode, follow the podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or RSS.
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    22 mins
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