Stacie and Eden delve into the complex world of identity and labels. Today, they peel back the layers of societal labels that often define us more by expectation than by essence. Stacie opens up about her discomfort with being pigeonholed by her profession and shares her aspiration to be recognized first as a woman of faith, while Eden discusses the often underestimated and judged role of a stay-at-home mom. They explore how labels can equally empower and constrain us, discussing the dynamics of personal identity in a capitalist society, the pressure of checking boxes during life changes like divorce, and the need to find moments of stillness to discover who we are beneath these labels. Together, they reflect on the transformative potential of redefining ourselves on our own terms and invite listeners to join in by crafting personal greetings that affirm their destinies. Stay tuned - this is an episode you won't want to miss!

What is Discussed:

Introduction (00:00:00) Stacie and Eden introduce the podcast and its purpose.

Personal Experiences with Labels (00:01:19) Stacie shares her discomfort with being defined solely by her occupation.

Challenges of Identifying as a Stay-at-Home Mom (00:04:02) Eden discusses the judgment and internal conflict associated with identifying as a stay-at-home mom.

Struggles with Labels in Personal Life (00:06:41) Stacie shares her struggle with labels during a period of separation and divorce.

Empowerment through Self-Definition (00:09:55) Stacie and Eden discuss the idea of empowering self-definition and reframing the use of labels.

Reframing Labels for Empowerment (00:10:47) Eden shares her perspective on using labels in an empowering way and giving herself permission to define her identity.

Embracing "Enoughness" (00:12:39) Stacie and Eden discuss the concept of "enoughness" and reframing self-evaluation based on labels.

Using Labels for Empowerment and Connection (00:13:56) Eden discusses the impact of labels on self-perception and connection with others.

Challenging the Norm of "What Do You Do?" (00:15:14) Stacie and Eden express their desire to challenge the societal norm of defining individuals by their occupations.

Ending Networking Events without Occupation Questions (00:16:40) Stacie and Eden advocate for starting a movement to shift the focus away from asking about occupations at networking events.

The Makeup Artist's Approach (00:17:07) The importance of not leading with job titles and how it can impact interactions positively.

Discovering One's Identity (00:17:32) Anecdote of a speaker's experience at an event, emphasizing the significance of defining one's identity beyond job titles.

Defining One's Superpower (00:18:33) The concept of identifying one's superpower and its impact on self-definition and interactions.

Transformative Relationship with Labels (00:20:24) Embracing positive relationships with labels and identities and disassociating from them when necessary.

Shifting Into a Positive Outlook (00:21:25) Changing perspectives from self-evaluation to focusing on wins and positives.

Empowerment Through an Oríkì (00:24:16) Introduction to the concept of an oríkì for self-praise and empowerment. (Luvvie Jones, Professional Toublemaker)

Gratitude and Stillness (00:27:26) The power of gratitude and the significance of stillness in shedding labels and finding clarity.

Being and Becoming (00:31:47) The importance of understanding one's core identity and aligning it with aspirations and actions.

Transformational

Stacie and Eden explore the intricate balance between feeling grateful and experiencing other, seemingly contradictory emotions. Eden shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood with a newborn and a two-year-old, expressing her challenges with exhaustion and guilt. Stacie and Eden emphasize the importance of acknowledging and processing all emotions without judgment, and discuss societal pressures that often hinder this process. They advocate for intentionality in thoughts and actions, likening it to a pilot adjusting coordinates. The episode encourages listeners to embrace their emotions, practice mindfulness, and the importance to create supportive communities for holistic conversations.

What is Discussed:

Gratitude and Tension (00:00:00)Exploring the tension between feeling grateful and having other conflicting emotions, using personal experiences as examples.

New Motherhood Challenges (00:02:12)Discussing the challenges and conflicting emotions of being a new mother while feeling grateful for the blessings.

Acknowledging Negative Feelings (00:05:48)Encouraging the acknowledgment of negative feelings and the importance of giving oneself permission to feel them.

The Impact of "Shoulding" (00:08:00)Discussing the negative impact of societal and external pressures on one's ability to listen to their own instincts and make choices.

Permission to Feel (00:10:54)Exploring the idea of giving oneself permission to feel conflicting emotions and the importance of recognizing and addressing them.

Reframing and Acknowledging Emotions (00:13:00)Highlighting the significance of acknowledging emotions as a prerequisite for reframing and reorienting one's perspective.

Creating a Space for Conversations (00:16:11)Emphasizing the need for a community and space for holistic conversations about the challenges and responsibilities that affect women's lives.

Gratitude and tiredness (00:17:18)Discussion about feeling tired and struggling to feel genuinely grateful.

Therapy and emotions (00:18:08)The benefits of therapy in recognizing and processing emotions without judgment.

Imagination and reframing (00:20:53Exploring the impact of imagination on emotions and the importance of reframing negative thoughts.

Self-regulation and gratitude (00:22:10)Learning to self-regulate emotions and focusing on personal control for gratitude.

Being present and content (00:25:27)The challenge of being present and finding contentment in the present moment.

Practicing presence (00:33:22)The importance of practicing presence and overcoming default thinking about the past or the future.

The importance of intentional thinking (00:34:05)The speakers discuss the importance of being intentional with thoughts and decisions to avoid drifting off course.

The power of intention (00:34:55)The conversation emphasizes the need to be intentional in daily life, with a focus on making new choices and thoughts.

Acknowledging and reframing feelings (00:37:23)The discussion centers around acknowledging one's true feelings and reframing them to create space for gratitude.

The impact of intention on life's course (00:41:25)The analogy of a pilot intentionally changing coordinates is used to illustrate how small shifts in intention can significantly impact life's trajectory.

Coping mechanisms and delaying personal work (00:44:08)The speakers discuss the tendency to delay personal growth and the importance of acknowledging one's coping mechanisms.

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Stacie and Eden take on a topic that resonates with many - the societal concept of the "good girl" and the relentless chase for perfection. They explore how societal norms impose challenging expectations on women and how this pressure affects our self-perception and relationships.

Stacie and Eden bring a refreshing, candid, and heartfelt perspective to the conversation, advocating for acceptance of ourselves as works in progress. They emphasize the importance of extending grace and understanding, both towards ourselves and within our network of women, fostering a sisterhood vibe.

The discussion takes a powerful, empowering turn as they promote the elimination of judgment and competition. They passionately advocate for building each other up, creating this sisterhood vibe where we're all in it together, cheering for one another on our unique paths, a move away from the constant comparison game.

This episode serves as a heartfelt call to action for women everywhere to stand in their power, toss those unrealistic standards out the window, and focus on cultivating an environment of support and understanding. It's like a breath of fresh air, and if you're feeling weighed down by the quest for perfection, this episode is a must-listen. It might just be the nudge you need to start empowering yourself and uplift the women in your life. Let's collectively create that kind, empowering environment together!

What Is Discussed:

The tension around good girls and perfectionism (00:00:24) Discussion on the restrictive nature, societal pressure, and self-inflicted unrealistic expectations.

The impact of "should" (00:02:23) Examination of the negative impact of the word "should" and the pressure to conform to societal expectations.

The monologue from America Ferrera's character (00:06:19) An analysis of the monologue highlighting the contradictory and impossible standards placed on women.

Grace as the antithesis to perfection (00:10:07) Emphasis on embracing imperfection and extending grace, both to oneself and to other women.

Women's relationships and societal norms (00:11:37) Discussion on the competitiveness and lack of grace in relationships between women, and the shift towards sisterhood and support.

Judgment and tension among women (00:16:10) Exploration of how societal expectations can lead to women being judgmental and critical of each other, contributing to tension and lack of support.

Unresolved desire and admiration (00:17:13) Discussion on acknowledging desire and admiration in other women's lives and the impact of unresolved feelings.

Good girl and perfectionism (00:18:07) Exploring the impact of trying to be a "good girl" and the struggle with perfectionism, including the difficulty in starting and the fear of imperfection.

Recovering from perfectionism (00:19:15) The struggle with finishing due to perfectionism and the importance of embracing imperfection and starting without overthinking.

Seeking affirmation and grace (00:22:23) The impact of seeking affirmation and grace, the exhaustion of perfectionism, and the need for surrounding oneself with positive and affirming people.

Raising children and societal expectations (00:25:39) The impact of societal expectations on raising a daughter, the need to embrace uniqueness, and the importance of not raising boys and girls differently.

Embracing uniqueness and self-reflection (00:29:38) The significance of embracing one's uniqueness, having internal conversations with oneself and God, and reflecting on personal strengths and qualities.

Accepting one's gifts and purpose (00:32:27) The importance of...