How clear are you about the direction your relationship is going?

How much time have you and your partner spent creating a shared vision for your life together?

Do you have the tools and frameworks you need to navigate conflict, emotional charge, and old wounds when they arise in your connection?

Most people spend more time planning a holiday than they do planning their relationship.

Yet your intimate relationship will shape so much of your life. It can become one of the most beautiful, challenging, healing, and confronting parts of your human experience.

But love alone is not enough.

Without the right structure, language, and shared agreements, even well-intentioned couples can find themselves stuck in unhealthy patterns, repeating unresolved childhood wounds, and living past each other instead of growing together.

In this episode, Matt and Gareth explore what it really takes to build a healthy, conscious, and lasting relationship.

They get into the importance of understanding the wounds you bring into love, how to create a shared relationship vision, and why a simple weekly rhythm can help you and your partner stay connected, honest, and aligned.

If you want your relationship to become a place of deeper intimacy, truth, repair, and shared growth, this conversation will give you a powerful place to begin.

🔥 Are you and your partner living past each other?

🔥 Has the magic disappeared?

It is usually not a lack of love.

It is a lack of structure.

Built To Last is a two-day live workshop where you and your partner will build your Relationship Blueprint.

Together, you will create a shared vision, clear agreements, and a practical framework for navigating the hard parts with more honesty, care, and connection.

The workshop takes place on 1 and 2 August.

Find out more and secure your spot here:

FatherssonsbrothersBuilt to Last

In this episode, Gareth and Matt unpack what really happens when sexual connection starts to fade in long-term relationships and why it is rarely about attraction. They explore how desire gets lost through pressure, disconnection, and unspoken expectations, and what it actually takes to rebuild it from within.

What you'll learn:

• “Dead bedroom” dynamics are rarely about lost attraction, but about pressure, distance, and outsourced sexual responsibility.
• Desire does not just fade after big life shifts like having a child. It gets disrupted by identity change, hormones, and role overload.
• Self-pleasure is often not self-connection. When it is driven by porn or fantasy, it becomes outsourcing rather than ownership of desire.
• Healthy sexual polarity does not come from one partner “creating” desire. It comes from two self-activated people.
• Shame around sexuality does not disappear. It goes underground and shows up as pressure, silence, and emotional withdrawal.
• Rebuilding sexual connection starts with reclaiming your own body and building a conscious self-pleasuring practice that is not dependent on porn, fantasy, or partner validation.

If this hits close to home, the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass unpacks the six core mother wounds that shape how you give and receive love, including how you experience intimacy and desire in relationships. It's free, about an hour, and gives you a clear starting point for deeper work.

Take the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass by clicking here: https://digital.fatherssonsbrothers.com/Whatsapp

In this episode Gareth and Matt break down why most relationship blowups come down to an untrained nervous system, not a character flaw and what to do about it.

What you'll learn:

• Triggers aren't proof of a broken relationship, they're a map pointing at what still needs healing in you.
• Kids and animals naturally express big emotions through their bodies. But as adults we learn to suppress them. This suppression is what causes relationship blow-ups.
• The four trauma responses: Fight (rage, argue), Flight (withdraw), Fix (people-please), Freeze (shut down) - and which one you default to when stressed.
• The real marker of relationship maturity: choosing to respond with awareness rather than react unconsciously.

Tools to start using:

• Notice the trigger, take a real pause, and move the energy with breath, movement, and sound.
• Get curious about which of your core wounds (abandonment, rejection, etc.) just got activated.
• Come back to the conversation once you're regulated, prioritising connection over being right.

Ready To Go deeper? If this hit close to home, the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass unpacks the six core mother wounds that determine how you give and receive love. It's free, about an hour, and opens the door into The Tribe so that you can work through this alongside other men.

Take the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass by clicking here: https://digital.fatherssonsbrothers.com/Whatsapp

Most men think they know their partner ...

Here's a quick test:

Can you name her three deepest fears right now? Not her general worries. Her deepest fears.

That moment of hesitation is what this episode is about.

What we cover:

• Why intimacy and sex are not the same thing, and how crossing wires quietly kills connection
• How it's possible to share a bed for 20 years and still never truly know your partner
• What a woman actually needs to feel safe enough to open, and how most men miss this entirely
• How emotional disconnection gets translated into sexual hunger, and why that eventually kills the spark
• Why the flame goes out, and what's actually behind it
  

This is Pillar 2 of 4. Each episode in this series gives you one foundational skill for building a relationship that lasts.

Want to go deeper?

Gareth runs a free 60-minute training called the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass that explores the patterns keeping men stuck in exactly this dynamic.

If you're curious, click here to send a WhatsApp message and immediately receive the link: https://digital.fatherssonsbrothers.com/Whatsapp

Make sure you subscribe so you don't miss Pillars 3 and 4.

And if you want to watch episode 1 of the series check it out here:

#73 Relationship Pillar 1: Inner Work - The Foundation

https://youtu.be/xJiQ16Q4dAk

The Four Pillars of a Relationship. Pillar 1: Inner Work: The Foundation

Most men want to fix their relationship. When we work with them, they realise the relationship isn't the problem.

In the first episode of our Four Pillars series, Gareth and Matt lay the foundation that supports everything else: the inner work most men skip. They also unpack why skipping the inner work means repeating the same pattern in every relationship you have. Doing the inner work changes everything. It starts by seeing yourself clearly.

🔥 Get the free Magnetic Masculine Masterclass - identify your specific pattern.

Click the link below, send a WhatsApp message and receive your link to the training:

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Want to go deeper?

🎧 Episode 72 - Go deeper on the six mother-wound patterns that drive most men's relationship struggles:

YouTube#72 You're Not Dating Her, You're Dating Your Mother Wound - 6 patterns sabotaging your relationship

The Fathers Sons Brothers Podcast is hosted by Gareth Pickering and Matt Dahse.

New episodes every Thursday.

The relationship challenges you’re experiencing today didn’t begin with your partner.

They began with the very first intimate relationship you ever had.

Long before you knew what love was supposed to look like, your nervous system was already learning: whether it was safe to be seen, whether your needs would be met.

That teacher was your mother.

And the strategies you developed to navigate that first relationship followed you into every connection you’ve had since. They may be shaping how you love, how you shut down, and why some men find themselves repeating the same relationship patterns no matter how much they want things to be different.

In this episode of the Father Sons Brothers Podcast, Gareth and Matt explore the six core mother wounds at the root of most relationship patterns in men, and the shadow work required to finally break the cycle.

In this episode, you will discover:

• The six core mother wounds: the Approval Seeker, the Emotional Caretaker, the Avoidant Man, the Good Boy, the Hyper-Independent Man, and the Little Prince. Find out which one is most alive in you
• Why the Good Boy is the most common relationship wound Gareth and Matt see in men, and how niceness, agreeability and hidden desire slowly drain polarity from your relationship
• What reparenting means in practice, and the three S’s of transformation that take a man from recognising his childhood patterns to genuinely changing them
• Why doing this shadow work alone can make lasting change harder to reach, and what real brotherhood looks like for men serious about growth

Whether you're deep in this work or just beginning, this episode will give you something real to take into your relationships. Press play.

In this episode Gareth and Matt reference Dr. Robert Glover’s work on the Nice Guy, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. If the Good Boy wound resonated with you, Ep 39 is a great next listen.

We’ve just released a brand-new masterclass: The Magnetic Masculine: Relationship Fundamentals for Men.

This potent 60-minute training gives you the relationship tools you should have learnt in school but didn’t. Around 30 minutes of teaching, followed by 30 minutes of powerful journaling prompts.

Whether you’re single and searching, recently heartbroken, or in a relationship that needs some spark. This free training is for you.

Join Gareth inside the Magnetic Masculine Masterclass here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/mmm-register

Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open, honest conversations that shift their mindsets and help them live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.

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Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.