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Episode 371: Solo Episode: Before You Leave: How to Create a Safety Plan

Episode 371: Solo Episode: Before You Leave: How to Create a Safety Plan

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You may have heard it so many times. "Make a safety plan." And every single time, the women I talk to say the same thing: okay, but what does that actually mean? In this solo episode, I'm walking you through what a safety plan actually is, why it matters, how to contact a domestic violence agency or shelter before you're in crisis, and what kinds of help may be available even if you never spend a night in a shelter. We're talking about children, custody fears, documentation, technology safety, legal questions, and why leaving safely often requires more than courage. It requires information, support, and a plan. When you're sitting in your house trying to think through all of this, the part of your brain that is figuring things out or making decisions isn't really working. You're in trauma. And yet you're supposed to make a plan. With what money? Which car? What documents? With my children? Without my children? What if the shelter's full? What if he tracks my phone? What if I leave and he says I kidnapped the kids? What if I stay and something happens? By the end of this episode, I want you to understand what goes into a safety plan, who can help you make one, how to think about shelters and domestic violence agencies, and what questions to ask before you take any action, especially if you have children. A safety plan is not about living in fear. It's about refusing to let fear be the only thing in the room. Fear says, "I can't." A plan says, "Here's what I need to know." Maybe not today, but one private step is enough. What you'll hear about in this episode: What shelter actually means and how to use it before you're in crisisTechnology safety: phones, tracking, shared accounts, and what not to do firstHow to assess your risk and what goes into a safety plan based on that riskIdentifying your safe people and what "safe" actually meansDocuments to gather: ID, financial records, car title and registration, and moreHow to document incidents in patterns, not just isolated eventsBuilding cash quietly: gift cards, separate accounts, and why money must be part of the planThe physical exit: routes, keys, cars, kids, pets, and where you're actually goingKids, custody fears, and why his threats are not legal adviceHow to talk to an advocate or attorney about risk, documentation, and timingYour go bag: what's in it, where it lives, and what to do if you can't get to it Resources & Links: Creating a Safety PlanSafety Planning Words, Phrases, & Questions Registration is now open for the Unbreakable Retreat! Kate Anthony's Complete Parenting Plan Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! Seven Step Mindset Reset for Divorce National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text START to 88788 thehotline.org (has a quick-close button) 211 (where available) for domestic violence resources, legal aid, emergency housing, food assistance, and victim services Aimee Says - an AI platform trained and designed specifically to support victims of domestic abuse Find state specific resources at: womenslaw.org =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-371-solo-episode-before-you-leave-how-to-create-a-safety-plan/
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