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Drop the Mask - For Nice Guys and People Pleaser

Drop the Mask - For Nice Guys and People Pleaser

By: Frederik Herre
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For the men who’ve always been “nice” — and are tired of getting overlooked, friendzoned, or are just not getting what they truly crave. If you’ve built a life everybody approves of on the outside but feels off inside, this podcast is for you. Hi I am Frederik — recovering nice guy turned men´s coach. Come drop the mask, and ask yourself the question "What do I want" (maybe for the first time) together with me. Welcome to your safe space.© 2024, Frederik Herre, Drop the Mask Podcast. All rights reserved. Content may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, derived, or otherwise used without prior written permission. Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • The Hidden Struggle of “Nice Guys” Nobody Talks About

    The Hidden Struggle of “Nice Guys” Nobody Talks About
    Mar 16 2026
    You’ve probably met a “nice guy.” The man who never causes problems. The one who says yes when he wants to say no. The one who tries to make everyone comfortable… while slowly disappearing inside. In this conversation, I share the story behind the work I do with men — and the truth about Nice Guy patterns that keep so many men feeling lonely, disconnected, and unsure of themselves. For most of my twenties, I lived behind a mask. I avoided conflict. I hid my emotions. I was afraid to approach women, afraid to express what I wanted, and afraid that being honest might hurt someone. On the outside, I looked like the “good guy.” Inside, I felt isolated. This episode is about the moment things started to change — and what happens when a man begins to feel again, speak honestly, and step into his own life. If you’ve ever felt like you’re performing instead of living… This conversation might be for you. 📲 Instagram: @itsfrederik
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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • #003 - Why the Path to Happiness Feels So Wrong

    #003 - Why the Path to Happiness Feels So Wrong
    Oct 24 2025
    Hey, it’s Frederik. This conversation goes straight into the “honest mirror.” If you’ve ever felt numb, over-rational, or stuck in achievement mode while you know, that there has to be more out there. THis one is for you! I’m joined by Carly Stephan, creator of the Personal Light Grid Activation—a somatic way of reconnecting your body’s “points of light” so you can feel grounded, clear, and alive again. We talk about the long journey from head to heart, why comfort and convenience keep us disconnected, emotions as signals (not problems to fix), fear of rejection, and how to begin with simple curiosity.  In this episode: • Head vs heart in Western culture—and how to recalibrate • Numbness, micro-traumas, and why embodiment matters • Heart coherence as a practical bridge between physiology and emotion • Men, fear, and “Can I still love myself after a ‘no’?” • A gentler way to start: follow childlike curiosity, not another 10-step plan 
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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • Why Relationships Require Risk (Especially for Nice Guys) - Nice Guy Pattern #4

    Why Relationships Require Risk (Especially for Nice Guys) - Nice Guy Pattern #4
    Sep 18 2025
    I recently had two conversations with friends — and both revealed a painful pattern I know many Nice Guys carry: the fear of hurting others. It feels noble, right? To protect someone from pain, to hold yourself back until you’re “healed enough.” But if you are really honest with yourself, most of the time, it’s not about protecting *them*. It’s about protecting *you*. From discomfort. From rejection. From being seen as the bad guy. And in doing so, you not only deny them the chance to choose for themselves — you also deny yourself the life and love you want. In this episode, we break down: - Why avoiding pain is not noble, but fear in disguise - How “protecting her” is really about avoiding your own emotions - Why trust means letting others handle their own pain - How courage in love means risking heartbreak
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    12 mins
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