Episodes

  • 467. Why Rejection Feels So Painful (Psychology of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria)

    467. Why Rejection Feels So Painful (Psychology of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria)
    Jan 26 2026
    If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection, criticism, or disapproval. This episode covers: What RSD actually feels like and why it can feel physically painful The difference between real rejection and perceived rejection Common triggers (and why perception matters more than reality) What’s happening in the brain during an RSD spiral Signs you may be experiencing RSD Why people-pleasing, avoidance, overachievement, and rumination don’t actually help How RSD differs from “normal” emotional sensitivity The link between RSD, ADHD, and emotional dysregulation This episode isn’t about “toughening up” or stopping emotions from happening. It’s about learning how to move through rejection without losing yourself to it and rebuilding a sense of control, safety, and self-trust. If you’ve ever thought, “I know this is irrational, but it feels unbearable,” this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next. Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    44 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 10. Choosing Peace is the Power Move

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 10. Choosing Peace is the Power Move
    Jan 22 2026
    Episode 10 – Choosing Peace Is the Power Move (How Stability, Clarity, and Balance Actually Give You Everything You Want)The Reset You Actually Need For a long time, hustle culture convinced us that being busy meant we were getting somewhere. In Episode 10 — the final episode of The Reset You Actually Need , we explore why choosing peace isn’t giving up on ambition, but refining it into something sustainable, intelligent, and far more effective. This episode breaks down: Why hustle culture confuses motion with real progress How constant urgency fragments attention and fuels anxiety Why peace of mind increases performance rather than complacency How balance isn’t a compromise it’s an optimisation strategy Why inconsistency creates anxiety and the illusion of “falling behind” How overstimulation kills clarity, creativity, and fulfilment Why slower, long-form thinking leads to better decisions and deeper satisfaction We talk about the gap between where you are and where you think you should be and how that gap is often the source of chronic anxiety. Not because you’re failing, but because you’re trying to sprint instead of stabilise. Choosing peace doesn’t mean doing less. It means doing the right things, consistently, without burning yourself out. This episode is about redefining success so you don’t have to escape your own life to survive it. This episode concludes a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and step into the year calm, clear, and self-led. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    26 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 9. Less proving, More Choosing

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 9. Less proving, More Choosing
    Jan 21 2026
    Day 9. Less Proving, More Choosing The Reset You Actually Need So much exhaustion comes from trying to prove your worth. In Day 9 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore what happens when you stop performing for validation and start making decisions from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead. This episode breaks down: The difference between proving and choosing and why it matters Why proving is reactive, while choosing is grounded and powerful How the need to prove often comes from unresolved self-doubt Why proving keeps you busy, but choosing actually moves you forward How choosing makes boundaries feel simpler and more natural The discomfort that comes with choosing and why it’s necessary This episode isn’t about becoming cold, dismissive, or disconnected. When you stop trying to convince people of your value, your decisions get quieter, clearer, and far more effective. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with calm authority and direction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 8. Until you learn to rest, you will not get ahead

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 8. Until you learn to rest, you will not get ahead
    Jan 20 2026
    Day 8 – Until You Learn to Rest, You Will Not Get Ahead The Reset You Actually Need So many people think they’re resting but they’re actually avoiding. In Day 8 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why confusing rest with avoidance keeps you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and stuck in the same place, even when you’re “taking breaks.” This episode covers: The difference between real rest and avoidance behaviours Why your mood and energy don’t change when rest isn’t restorative The kinds of tasks people avoid and why How to tell if you truly rested or just numbed out Why sleep alone doesn’t fix exhaustion Forms of rest that actually restore energy and calm the nervous system Why some activities are more restful than bed rotting How to wind down on your own without avoidance If you feel like you’re constantly tired, overwhelmed, or needing more time off — this episode will help you understand what kind of rest you actually need, and how to get it without sabotaging your momentum. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    27 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses
    Jan 19 2026
    Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail. It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal. In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence. This mini episode explores: Why every excuse sounds reasonable in your own voice The difference between a valid reason and a repeated pattern How negotiating with yourself teaches your brain that your word is flexible Why discipline isn’t harsh, it’s relieving and freeing The balance between self-compassion and accountability Why small promises matter more than big goals Self-trust isn’t built through motivation, grit, or hype. It’s built through follow-through. When you stop arguing with yourself, life gets simpler. Decisions feel lighter. Confidence starts to return naturally. This episode is about becoming someone who does what they say, without punishment, drama, or burnout. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life
    Jan 18 2026
    The Reset You Actually Need Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting. In this episode of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why disappointment is rarely about bad luck, and more often about repeating the same patterns, ignoring behaviour, and abandoning your own boundaries often without realising it. This episode explores: Why disappointment is often self-created (and how to stop doing that) How repeating the same goals or relationships erodes self-trust Why listening to words instead of behaviour keeps you stuck The psychology of repeated rejection and loss of control How taking responsibility restores agency (without self-blame) Why self-respect is the fastest way back to emotional stability This isn’t about becoming cynical or emotionally closed off. It’s about regaining control by changing what you tolerate, repeat, and negotiate with. If you’re tired of feeling let down, drained, or stuck in cycles that keep hurting you, this episode will help you reset your expectations, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with clarity. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, raise your standards, and step into the year with calm self-leadership. Episode 217 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sXGur29se1TajjfWjMiNB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 5. Stop waiting to feel ready: Why action changes identity

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 5. Stop waiting to feel ready: Why action changes identity
    Jan 15 2026
    Episode 5 – Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: Why Action Changes Identity The Reset You Actually Need – Day 5 So many people believe confidence, clarity, or motivation comes before they act. In Day 5 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why waiting to feel ready is one of the most common (and invisible) ways people stay stuck, and how identity is shaped by action, not intention. This episode explores: Why the brain doesn’t reward planning, it rewards movement How repeated action updates self-concept and confidence The psychology behind hesitation and “I’ll start when…” thinking Why readiness is a byproduct, not a prerequisite How to begin changing your identity through behaviour, not self-talk If you’ve been waiting for motivation, certainty, or the perfect moment before making a change, this episode will help you understand why that moment rarely arrives , and what actually creates momentum instead. This isn’t about forcing yourself or pushing harder. It’s about letting action do the psychological work for you. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with calm direction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 mins
  • The Reset You Actually Need - Day 4. Discipline the body and the mind will follow

    The Reset You Actually Need - Day 4. Discipline the body and the mind will follow
    Jan 14 2026
    The Reset You Actually Need – Day 4 We’re often told to fix our mindset first, to think more positively, feel more motivated, or “get our head right.” In Day 4 of The Reset You Actually Need, we flip that idea on its head and explore why disciplining the body is often the fastest way to change the mind. This episode breaks down: Why changing your physical state contributes to motivation and confidence How physical routines regulate your mood and improve mental clarity Ideas for you that you can start implementing today How small, repeatable behaviours create psychological momentum This isn’t about extreme routines or rigid self-control. It’s about understanding that the brain takes its cues from the body and that mental resilience is often built through physical consistency. This episode will show you why action at the level of the body is the reset you’ve been missing. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move differently through the year ahead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    20 mins