In case you need this reminder today:

You are allowed to be in process.
You are allowed to say, "I do not have all the answers yet, but I want to learn."
You are allowed to be growing.

That is not failure.

That is humility.

And humility is often far stronger than we realize.

Sometimes we think confidence means having everything figured out before we take a step. But that's not real confidence at all.

Real confidence says, "I'm willing to learn."
Real confidence says, "I don't know everything, but I'm going to move forward anyway."
Real confidence says, "I may make mistakes, but I'm not going to let fear keep me stuck."

Because transformation requires confidence.

Not confidence that you'll do everything perfectly, but rather confidence that God can help you grow.

Remember: you are not starting from zero.

There have been times you loved your spouse well.

There have been moments that brought a smile to their face.

There are ways God has already grown you that you may have forgotten.

You are a good spouse who wants to get better.

Bravo to you. Seriously.

And if fear has been whispering that you shouldn't try unless you can do it perfectly, don't listen.

Perfection isn't the goal. Becoming more like Jesus is.

So take the next step.
Ask the question.
Receive the help.
And move forward with confidence.

Love,

The Delight Your Marriage Team
(Shownotes written with AI assistance)

PS - Sometimes the most courageous thing you can do is raise your hand and say, "I need help." That's exactly what a Clarity Call is. It's a humble, confident first step toward the marriage transformation you're praying for. We'd love to walk alongside you with coaching, encouragement, accountability, prayer, and practical next steps. Schedule your Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.

PPS - Here is what a recent Coaching Graduate had to say:
"I have grown in patience and understanding that I must love my wife without any expectations. I have learned that the old way that I was attempting to change my wife was one of the main ways I was driving her away. Understanding that safety is not just about physical security but also her feeling safe emotionally."

#confidence #growthmindset #marriagecoach #lifecoach

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Delight Your Marriage is dedicated to helping married couples discover true intimacy and helping heal emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy--biblically.

For the last 10 years, through our practical tools, group coaching, and podcast, we have seen hundreds of marriages transformed- from couples who were on their way to signing divorce papers to couples who had pretty good marriages but just wanted to connect more.

We are honored to get to walk alongside men & women as they become who God created them to be and see their marriages transformed in the process.

If you'd like to learn more about us and our programs, please visit https://delightyourmarriage.com/

Want more on-the-go content? Follow us on Facebook for insightful clips and marriage coaching insights.

Catch up on the podcast on our YouTube channel or your favorite podcast streaming platform.

Ready to take the leap and do the work to heal your marriage? We'd love to chat with you. Schedule a free Clarity Call here.

Thank you for watching and God bless!

Sometimes Christians speak about the body as though it barely matters.

As though spiritual growth and physical stewardship are completely separate things.

But Scripture paints a very different picture.

God created your body intentionally.

Jesus came in a body.
Jesus rose in a body.
And one day, we will receive glorified bodies.

Your body matters to God.

In this episode, Justin Roethlingshoefer (Own It Show, The Power of Ownership) explained how many people live disconnected from their bodies entirely.

Ignoring exhaustion.
Ignoring stress.
Ignoring burnout.
Ignoring emotional pain.

Until eventually the body begins sounding alarms we can no longer ignore.

Anxiety.
Fatigue.
Autoimmune struggles.
Hormonal issues.

And often we wonder: "Why is this happening to me?"

But perhaps sometimes the better question is:
"Have I been stewarding what God entrusted to me?"

Not from condemnation, but from invitation.

Because God is not trying to shame you.

He is inviting you into abundant life.

And at the center of that invitation is identity.

Justin shared that for years, he believed his worth came from achievement and performance.

But God taught him that he did not need to earn what had already been freely given through Christ.

You do not have to prove your value.
You already have value.

And from that secure identity, you can begin making decisions that honor the life and body God has given you.

And when you care for your body fully, you can also show up for the things God has for you fully.

We hope this episode blesses you!

Blessings,

The Delight Your Marriage Team
(Shownotes written with AI assistance)

PS - Want to learn more about Justin and his work? Check out his website at https://justinroethlingshoefer.com/. His books are available at here and his newest book, Holy Health, is set to release this August. We are excited about it! Thank you again, Justin, for your insights and for being on the show!

PPS - Ready to take the next step in healing your marriage? We want to help. Schedule a free Clarity Call at https://delightyourmarriage.com/cc

PPPS - Here is what a recent Coaching Graduate had to say:
"DYM has shown me that change for my marriage start with changing myself. Through Belah's videos its abundantly clear that I am the one that needs change but these changes are only possible through Christ and his grace and desire to see me have a relationship with him first and then allow him to present me again to my wife as the man of God she has always wanted to be with."

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Delight Your Marriage is dedicated to helping married couples discover true intimacy and helping heal emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy--biblically.

For the last 10 years, through our practical tools, group coaching, and podcast, we have seen hundreds of marriages transformed- from couples who were on their way to signing divorce papers to couples who had pretty good marriages but just wanted to connect more.

We are honored to get to walk alongside men & women as they become who God created them to be and see their marriages transformed in the process.

If you'd like to learn more about us and our programs, please visit https://delightyourmarriage.com/

Want more on-the-go content? Follow us on Facebook for insightful clips and marriage coaching insights.

Catch up on the podcast on our YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/@delightyourmarriage) or your favorite podcast streaming platform.

Ready to take the leap and do the work to heal your marriage? We'd love to chat with you. Schedule a free Clarity Call here: https://delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Thank you for listening and God bless!

Maybe intimacy in your marriage doesn't look the way you thought it would.

Maybe there are physical limitations. Health challenges. Pain. Insecurity. Lack of desire. Aging. Shame.

Or just a deep sadness that things don't feel the way they "should."

And maybe, quietly, you've wondered:
Is something wrong with me?
Is something wrong with us?
Are we just broken?

This episode is for the husband or wife who feels discouraged, different, or alone in this area of marriage.

Let this be an encouragement that intimacy is more than what we often make it out to be.

It is about unity. Tenderness. Connection. Loving your spouse well in the ways you are able.

If you feel unseen or forgotten by God in this area, this is a reminder that God sees you.

You are not forgotten.
You are not beyond hope.
And you are not strange or weird for wanting help in this area.

This may be a real suffering in your marriage—but suffering is not proof that God has abandoned you.

He can use even this tender, painful place to grow humility, love, compassion, and deeper unity.

God bless you!

Love,
The Delight Your Marriage Team

PS - If you're ready to take the next step in healing your marriage, schedule a free Clarity Call. Get some insight into the health of your marriage and what the right next step is for you.

PPS - For more information on the accessories mentioned in today's episode, please visit our website.

PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:
"The biggest marital struggle that I was feeling was a lack of connection within physical intimacy. There was also a lack of trust and feeling safe to genuinely be ourselves in different areas. It was hard to communicate without the other person taking offense, switching the subject or shifting the focus, etc. and it just made it hard to grow in a lot of areas...[Because of DYM], I've been able to truly shift my priorities to just focus on myself in the terms of how can I love my wife the way that God intended me to...[Intimacy has] been happening so much more than in the past, but more importantly, it's been meaningful, fulfilling, and it's being enjoyed without fear of strings being attached or tension from expectations..."