Too many of us in the Gay community feel pressure to “measure up.” From dating apps to p*rn to locker room culture, we’re constantly being told that size equals worth. But what if this obsession is actually sabotaging our ability to find meaningful connection, lasting intimacy, and self-worth?In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode, we unpack the psychological, emotional, and relational toll of our community’s fixation on p*nis size. I'll walk you through where this anxiety comes from, what the research actually says (spoiler: it’s not what you think), and how we can begin to shift our focus from comparison to connection.---🔍 What’s Covered in This Episode:→ The cultural obsession with p*nis size and how it impacts Gay men’s mental health→ The hidden psychological costs of comparison and body dysmorphia→ Real stats about what “average” actually is—and why we’re getting it wrong→ Why this obsession damages our dating lives and emotional connections→ Practical mindset shifts to break free from p*nis-size anxiety→ How to reclaim confidence, pleasure, and deeper connection—no matter your size---⏱️ Timestamps:0:00 – Intro: Is this obsession ruining love?01:14 - The Problem with Comparison03:56 - The True Cost of Size Obsession06:46 - The Proof That Debunks This Myth10:19 - Be Mindful of Your Media Diet10:54 - Let's Change How We Approach Dating11:30 - We Have to Do the Internal Work---✅ Subscribe for more real talk on confidence, dating, and intimacy for Gay & Bi men:

Why are so many Gay men obsessed with how we look?This episode gets real about the deeper wounds driving body image issues in the Gay community — from the silent shame we carry to the toxic ripple effects of dating apps, social media, and hookup culture. This isn’t about vanity — it’s about survival, identity, and how we’re taught to tie our worth to our appearance.As a Self-Esteem and Dating Coach for Gay & Bi men, I’ve seen how deep this goes. And in this video, we’re unpacking the silent epidemic of muscle dysmorphia, comparison culture, and the unconscious shame that fuels it. You’re not alone if you’ve ever felt not hot enough, not fit enough, or invisible in your own community.If you’re tired of chasing perfection and want to build real confidence from the inside out — this is for you.---📍What’s Covered in This Episode:→The invisible pressures we grow up with as Gay & Bi men→Why dating apps fuel insecurity & body obsession→How “preferences” became coded language for exclusion→The real mental health impact of appearance-focused culture→What muscle dysmorphia (aka "bigorexia") actually looks like→How to reclaim your self-worth and build body appreciation→A new definition of beauty for Gay & Bi men→Why this is a community issue — and how we heal together---⏰ Timestamps:00:00 - Intro: Why this Conversation Matters00:59 - The Invisible Battle Field02:34 - The Digital Meat Market05:23 - The Ghost in the Mirror07:19 - The Turning Point---💬 Leave a comment:Have you ever struggled with appearance pressure in the Gay community? What’s helped you shift your relationship with your body and self-worth?---🔗 Book a discovery call: https://stan.store/MensLoveCoach/p/discovery-call--8dbu5📲 Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales📲 Follow on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dannymoralescoaching/📧 Join the email list: https://stan.store/MensLoveCoach---Mentions: gay body image, muscle dysmorphia gay men, gay appearance culture, gay dating coach, body dysmorphia gay, appearance pressure gay culture, internalized shame gay men, gay dating apps pressure, self-worth gay community, gay beauty standards, reclaiming gay identity, mental health gay men, body positivity gay men, Grindr culture, hookup culture gay

You’ve probably heard it — “All gay men are in open relationships.” But what if that stereotype isn’t just inaccurate, but harmful? In this episode, we’re breaking down the deeply held myths around monogamy in the Gay community: where they come from, why they persist, and how they affect the way we date, connect, and build lasting love.This video is for every Gay or Bi man who’s ever felt like an outsider for wanting one partner, been told they’re boring for wanting intimacy, or felt pressure to conform to hookup culture when their heart wanted something deeper. Monogamy isn't outdated — it's often misunderstood.We're challenging the false hierarchy between non-monogamy and monogamy, exploring internalized stigma, emotional authenticity, and how to build the kind of relationship that actually honors who you are — not just what’s trending.This isn’t about shaming non-monogamy. It’s about choice, truth, and dismantling the subtle shame around wanting something that feels secure, loving, and true to you.---What You’ll Learn in This Episode:→ Why the stereotype “all gay men are in open relationships” is rooted in bias, not fact→ The real data behind monogamy vs. non-monogamy in the gay community→ Why wanting a committed partner doesn’t make you boring or “heteronormative”→ The emotional and historical roots of these myths→ How to reclaim your relationship desires without shame→ A mindset shift that empowers you to date authentically---Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Why this myth needs to be unpacked01:24 - All Gay Men Are in Open Relationships04:21 - Wanting Monogamy Makes You Boring, Non-Adventurous, or Heteronormative05:28 - Question for You to Answer07:16 - Non-Monogamy Isn't Just an Option, It's Evolution