We often hear people say that life is short. It’s a cliché, something we repeat casually without really letting it settle in our bones. But there comes a moment — sometimes quiet, sometimes abrupt — when those four words stop sounding like a slogan and start feeling like an ache. Life is short. Not in the poetic sense, not in the philosophical sense, but in the painfully real sense. Short enough that we can’t afford too many wrong detours, too much unnecessary stubbornness, or the kind of hesitation that keeps us frozen in place.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to walk through life with a magnifying glass—always searching for the faults in others, but never turning that same lens toward themselves? You’ll hear it in conversations, you’ll see it online, and sometimes, if we’re honest, we catch ourselves doing it too. And it makes you ask: Who actually has the time or energy to constantly put others down?

Because honestly, people who can’t stop criticizing usually aren’t doing as well as they’d like others to think. Behind the pointed words, the sarcastic comments, the constant corrections, there’s often insecurity, frustration, or a sense of lack. People who feel whole rarely need to tear anyone else apart.

Today, I want to explore a simple but powerful idea: instead of spending energy denying, judging, or diminishing others, focus on becoming the best version of yourself. It sounds obvious. But in practice, it’s something many of us struggle with.

Happy New Year! Wish you all in 2026 can have your wish come true. Even facing difficulties and challenges, still have confidence and courage to overcome them.

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You know, people always talk about love like it’s the most powerful thing in the world. And yeah — love is powerful. It makes us brave, soft, alive. But you know what we don’t talk about enough? The moment when love fades. When the laughter starts to feel forced, the silence gets heavier, and what once felt like home… just doesn’t anymore.

There’s a saying I really love — it goes: When love is gone, having the strength to walk away with resolve is a rare ability.

There’s a saying in Chinese that I think about often recently.

“未经他人苦，莫劝他人善。你若经我苦，未必有我善。”

It means:

“If you haven’t suffered as others have, don’t advise them to be kind.
Even if you went through what I did, you might not be as kind as I am.”

It sounds simple, right? But there’s something raw and real in it — a kind of wisdom that doesn’t sugar-coat anything. It’s a reminder that before we tell someone how they should act, we ought to understand what they’ve been through.

Today I want to throw a question at you. Not a light one—this isn’t “would you rather fight a horse-sized duck or a hundred duck-sized horses.” Nope. This one stings a little.

Ready?

Would you rather lose your memory… or have your lover lose theirs?

Yeah. That one hits different, doesn’t it?

Take a second with it. Imagine the person you love most in the world—partner, spouse, soulmate. Now, imagine one of you wakes up tomorrow and the slate is wiped clean. Who should it be?

You know, sometimes real life feels like a movie.

Except… you’re not the star.

You’re just living your life—minding your business—and suddenly, someone out there decides you’re the one.

They start chasing you. And I don’t mean a little crush. I mean texting all the time. Watching every story. Trying to see you every day.

And you’re like:

“Wait… what’s going on here?”
“I don’t even like this person.”

So… what do you do when someone you don’t like is pursuing you like crazy?

Today let’s break it down.