CRUDE #46

Frank in Berlin is joined by Effie and special guest Kenneth for a lively conversation about sex education, female pleasure, and Kenneth’s work as a squirt-shop facilitator.

The episode kicks off with Effie sharing stories from her latest adventures before the Crudies dive into Kenneth’s fascinating career. Kenneth leads workshops on a wide range of sexual topics, with a particular focus on squirting and helping people better understand pleasure, communication, and sexual confidence.

Along the way, Kenneth explains how he became dedicated to sex-positive education and supporting women’s sexual empowerment.

In this episode:

• Kenneth shares practical tips and “squirting hacks” for those curious about exploring squirting.
• A discussion about the importance of relaxation, body awareness, and “clearing the inventory.”
• Kenneth reflects on New York’s vibrant sex-positive community and his experiences at Club Hacienda.
• Stories of the legendary 3 a.m. gourmet meals served to hungry guests after long nights of play and connection.

Kenneth was named the “World’s Greatest Sex Hacker” by GQ magazine in 2017. Keneth is also the autho of the #1 Amazon Bestselling Beyond Satisfied. Kenneth has been featured in 100+ media outlets, including The New York Times, Men’s Health, & Playboy.

He is also the creator of Beyond Satisfied Pro: the gold-standard online course in female pleasure, sexual performance, and confidence, endorsed by women and sex therapists

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Kenneth Play, Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker’s Guide to Endless Orgasms (2002)

[Article] Vice magazine: Kenneth's Coaching

[Video] 10 questions you always wanted to ask a squirting instructor

[Awards] Sexual Freedom Awards

[UK Party] Riot Party London / Manchester

#CRUDE 45

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to chat with special guest Andre Lazarus to talk about his work as a sex and relationship coach as well as his important work in trauma healing with men and women. Andre has also appeared as a sex surrogate on the hit British TV show Virgin Island, but it's his experience in trauma healing and intimacy coaching that he explores with the Crudies.

• How does Andre's experience as a survivor of abuse and PTSD in the military inform his therapy and coaching?
• What kind of problems lead some men to sek out intimacy coaching?
• What about asexuality?
• What is sexual healing and what causes people to seek it out?
• Can trauma be physically locked in our bodies?

*Andre Lazarus*

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognized voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has taken an unconventional path, from serving in the U.S. Marines to helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy, communication, and desire.

He gained wider recognition through the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner supporting participants as they worked through intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre works with individuals and couples seeking deeper connection, whether addressing performance concerns, healing from past experiences, or rekindling passion in long-term relationships. His work is rooted in the Somatica® Method, which emphasizes learning through the body, open communication, and replacing shame with curiosity.

Today, Andre leads private coaching, workshops, and a men’s course on sexual communication while continuing to expand his media presence.

*Social media and websites*

Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandre

*What we were consuming*

[Definition] Somatic coaching

[TV] Virgin Island Season 2 trailer

CRUDE #44

Frank in Berlin and Effie in London are joined by Jonas from the Liebesapfel podcast for a bold, no-filter conversation about God, sex, religion—and all the uncomfortable overlaps in between.

They get into the provocative stuff straight away: why do people dress up as nuns and priests, and what’s behind the so-called “Christian fetish” scene? Is it just taboo, or is there something deeper going on with power, symbolism, and desire?

Can people be spiritual and religious without organsied religion? Or dowe need to throw the baby with the bathwater when it comes to god?

How can religions that preach love and compassion also be tied to exclusion, hypocrisy, and even abuse? Where do those contradictions come from—and why do they keep repeating?

The trio also explores the unexpected parallels between kink communities and religious spaces: rituals, rules, trust, belonging, and the pull of something bigger than yourself.

Jonas is a Protestant theologian and philosopher currently living inZurich. He co-hosts the German-language podcast Liebesäpfel, where he advocates for a sex-positive approach to religion.

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/liebesaepfel_podcast

Instagram: @liebesaepfel_podcast

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Marcella Althaus-Reid. Indecent Theology: Theological Perversions in Sex, Gender and Politics (2000)

[Biblical book] Song of Songs

[Hindu Gods] Kali & Shiva