Guy Winch is a psychologist and bestselling author who advocates for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives. His TED talks have attracted over 35 million views, and his books have been translated into more than 30 languages. He is co-host of the Ambie-nominated Dear Therapists podcast and the author of the book Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

Some of our parents got to work in the morning, put in a full day, and then by dinner time, didn’t think about work or do it until the next morning. That’s not reality for a lot of us today, so in this conversation, Guy and I explore what you can do to take back your evenings.

• Most work stress isn’t experienced at work.
• Healthy thinking is intentional and leads us somewhere useful. Unhealthy thinking (rumination) isn’t intentional and tends to repeat the same script. It feels more like unpaid work.
• To interrupt rumination outside of work, first label it and then associate it with disgust, disdain, and annoyance. Treat it like you would a skunk sitting next to you on the couch.
• Rituals help our brains make a distinction between time to work and time to recover. Rituals are most powerful when they invoke one or more of our five senses to signal a shift to our brains.
• Often we think of relaxation and recovery the same way our grandparents did who often did more manual work. Work today tends to be more mental and emotional, so indexing on ways to engage physically during recovery times is helpful.
• Rather than just assuming that doing nothing, sitting on a beach, or seeing the sights is the best vacation, consider engaging in the things you love that you normally don’t get to do.

• Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life by Guy Winch (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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• Align Your Calendar to What Matters, with Nir Eyal (episode 431)
• What to Do With Your Feelings, with Lori Gottlieb (episode 438)
• How High Achievers Begin to Find Balance, with Michael Hyatt (episode 522)

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Gustavo Razzetti is a culture change instigator, speaker, and
CEO of Fearless Culture, a culture design consultancy. He helps
leaders build teams that talk about what matters—even when it’s
uncomfortable–through his books and tools, including the Culture Design Canvas. He is the author of Forward Talk: The Bold New Method for Getting Teams Unstuck (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

The beauty of a team is that we can get so much more done with collaboration. It also means that sometimes we surrender our responsibility to others. In this conversation, Gustavo and I explore what to do when a team gets stuck.

• Conversations are the foundation of collaboration. Without them, teams quickly build conversational debt.
• We don’t stay silent because we’re scared. Rather, we stay quiet because we surrender our responsibility to others.
• Many of us overestimate our courage. We believe that we’ll say something, but studies show that often we do not.
• Forward Talk accomplishes two things: (1) addresses the real issue and (2) focuses on the future.
• See information as an opportunity instead of an obstacle. Courage can begin with admitting what you don’t know.
• Perspective is the choice to share your views instead of surrendering your judgment to social pressure.
• Responsibility is a commitment to understand the systemic issues instead of entering into blame.

• Forward Talk: The Bold New Method for Getting Teams Unstuck by Gustavo Razzetti (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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• Getting Better at Internal Communication, with Roy Schwartz (episode 687)
• Help Your Team Coach Each Other, with Keith Ferrazzi (episode 709)
• What Really Matters for Team Success, with Colin Fisher (episode 748)

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Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

In this reflection episode, Bonni and I look back on recent past episodes and discuss questions, feedback, and insights that have surfaced from recent conversations.

Dave responded to this question from Margaret Andrews:

• What does success look like for you?

“You can have everything in life you want if you’ll just help enough other people get what they want.” -Zig Ziglar

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” -Earl Nightingale

Bonni responded to this question:

• What feedback have you received over the years about how your actions and behaviors impact others?

• To be of use by Marge Piercy

• How to Get Way Better at Accepting Feedback, with Sheila Heen (episode 143)
• Six Questions Every Leader Should Ask Themselves, with Margaret Andrews (episode 750)
• How to Lead a Meaningful Cultural Shift, with David Hutchens (episode 755)

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