Have you ever felt like nervous system regulation has become one more thing you're supposed to be good at?

You know the tools. You've heard the advice. Breathe. Pause. Meditate. Journal. Take a walk.

And yet there are still days when one more question, one more responsibility, or one more emotional demand feels like too much.

In this episode, we challenge the common narrative that regulation is simply about managing stress better in the moment. Instead, she explores a deeper question:

What if the goal isn't getting better at calming yourself down? What if the goal is creating a life that requires less calming down in the first place?

Together, we'll explore:

• Why so many women feel overwhelmed despite knowing all the "right" tools
• The difference between coping and capacity
• How the invisible mental and emotional load affects the nervous system
• The concept of "the brace"—that subtle state of always anticipating, preparing, and scanning for the next problem
• Why mothers of teens and preteens often live in chronic vigilance without realizing it
• How perimenopause can reduce stress tolerance and increase emotional reactivity
• Why nervous systems learn from repeated experiences, not information
• The hidden beliefs that keep many women in survival mode
• How to begin creating more safety, support, and spaciousness in everyday life

Boundaries aren’t hard because you don’t know what to say.

They’re hard because of what happens in your body when you try to say it.

In this episode, we move beyond awareness, regulation, and repair, and into one of the most real-life applications of this work: boundaries.

Because it’s one thing to understand your patterns and even catch them in the moment.

It’s another thing entirely to stay connected to yourself while you’re with other people.

We explore why boundaries can feel so uncomfortable (and often unsafe), how your nervous system shapes the way you set them, and what it actually looks like to communicate limits without over-explaining, shutting down, or reacting.

This episode is not about scripts or being rigid.

It’s about learning how to stay grounded in yourself while telling the truth.

In this episode, we explore:

• why boundaries trigger guilt, anxiety, or fear
• how nervous system patterns show up (people-pleasing, reactivity, avoidance)
• what boundaries actually are (and what they’re not)
• how to communicate limits in a clear, grounded way
• why guilt doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong
• how to start practicing boundaries in small, real-life ways

This is about protecting your energy without disconnecting from yourself—or others.

In today’s episode, we move beyond catching the reaction and choosing a different response in the moment, and into something equally important:

What happens when you didn’t catch it in time?

Because growth is not about never being triggered.

It is about learning what to do after the moment has already happened.

We talk about how to move from shame into curiosity, how to understand what your reaction may have been protecting, and how repair can become a deeply healing experience for both you and your relationships.