Unfiltered but Not Unkind is one of those episodes that needed to happen.

In this raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation, Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on the lifestyle behaviors we all quietly side-eye… but rarely say out loud. This isn't a call-out episode. There's no rage, no dunking, and definitely no drama farming. Instead, it's thoughtful honesty, humor, and real talk about swinger etiquette, communication breakdowns, confidence versus self-awareness, and why "just communicate more" is terrible advice when no one explains how.

We talk openly about:

• The difference between confidence and lack of self-awareness (and why overconfidence kills attraction)
• Why hypersexual behavior shuts doors faster than it opens
• Oversharing explicit content in spaces that didn't consent to that energy
• Treating every interaction like a sexual audition (and why that's a turnoff)
• The harm caused by "Google it" culture instead of real guidance
• Jealousy as a signal, not a personal failure
• Inclusive language without inclusive behavior
• Why your relationship should always come before the lifestyle

We also get deeply personal—sharing moments from our own relationship where communication failed, jealousy showed up, and growth was uncomfortable but necessary. From stopping polyamory to rebuilding emotional security, this episode is a reminder that honesty and kindness can coexist—and that loving the lifestyle doesn't mean pretending it's perfect.

If you've ever left a party thinking, "I don't want to sound judgy, but…" — this episode is for you.

Resources & Links:

• Website, episodes, blogs, merch & events: www.beyond-monogamy.com
• Beyond Monogamy Confessional (100% anonymous)
• Streaming on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central
• Pris's Birthday Party — March 14th at 9 PM at Club Eden San Antonio

Grab your headphones, pour a drink, and get comfy—this one hits different.

What happens when the swinger lifestyle starts to feel less like freedom and more like permission?

In this raw and honest Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris unpack a listener confession that hits closer to home than most people want to admit: one-sided rules in the lifestyle.

The listener describes a dynamic where her husband controls who she can play with, forbids single men, and ultimately restricts her from being with men at all—while she places no rules on him and genuinely wants him to have the best experiences possible. She agrees to the restrictions not because they align with her desires, but because she's afraid of losing the lifestyle—and possibly her marriage.

Adam and Pris break down where these rules often come from, how insecurity shows up early in the lifestyle, and why control is frequently mistaken for safety. They share deeply personal stories from their own journey, including early jealousy, discomfort with watching, and how reassurance, over-communication, and patience helped them evolve instead of implode.

This episode isn't about villainizing anyone. It's about understanding that feelings are valid on both sides—and that sustainable non-monogamy requires collaboration, not permission slips.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why one-sided rules are so common in new swinger dynamics
• The difference between reassurance and restriction
• Why watching can be harder than participating
• How insecurity shows up differently for men and women
• The emotional cost of agreeing to rules you don't actually want
• Why slowing down can save your relationship
• How to schedule "the uncomfortable conversation" without blowing things up

If you've ever felt like you were compromising too much just to keep the lifestyle alive—or if you're the partner struggling with jealousy and fear—this conversation is for you.

Upcoming Events & Where to Find Us:

• Live SDC Webinar: February 22nd at 4:00 PM Central – Finding & Vetting Couples: From Profiles to First Meet (Without the Cringe)
• In Person: Club Eden DFW – Saturday, January 31st
• Full Swap Radio: Streaming every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central

Have a confession, question, or story of your own? Visit www.beyond-monogamy.com and submit it through the Beyond Monogamy Confessional—100% anonymous.

Whether you're swinging, poly, monogamous, curious, or just trying to understand your relationship better—we're really glad you're here.

This episode is a deep, grounded, and powerful conversation.

In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with relationship and sexuality professional Martha Kauppi, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, educator, and founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy.

Martha works at the intersection of intimacy, attachment, nervous system regulation, and relationship patterns — helping people understand not just what's happening in their relationships, but why it's happening in their bodies, emotions, and connection styles.

Together, we unpack some of the most important (and misunderstood) parts of ethical non-monogamy and long-term relationships: communication, differentiation, emotional regulation, compersion, desire, and the real work that starts after the fun part.

Martha shares how her personal life and family history led her into this field, why open relationships have been unfairly pathologized in therapy spaces, and what decades-long non-monogamous relationships actually look like when they are built with intention.

This conversation goes far beyond labels. We talk about what happens when couples move from swinging into emotional connections, how to navigate mismatched needs, how to express hard truths without destroying trust, and how to stay connected when discomfort shows up.

You'll hear powerful insight on:

• Why communication is a skill set, not a personality trait
• The difference between rules, regulation, and relational safety
• Why many therapists misunderstand non-monogamy
• How to explore ethically without overwhelming your relationship
• Compersion, jealousy, and emotional self-awareness
• How long-term non-monogamous relationships actually sustain intimacy

Adam and Pris also get personal — opening up about their own journey from swinging into polyamory and back out again, what they learned about themselves, and how those experiences reshaped their communication, trust, and emotional depth.

This episode is honest, validating, and packed with insight whether you're monogamous, exploring, actively non-monogamous, or simply trying to build better relationships.

About our guest:
Martha Kauppi is a certified sex therapist, clinical trainer, and author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients). She trains therapists internationally and hosts the podcast Untangling Intimacy.

Learn more at: Institute for Relational Intimacy

Listener discretion advised. This show contains adult themes and real relationship discussions.