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Back in the studio and running on truth serum, we kick off season two with a no-filter catch‑up that spans 40th birthdays, the highs, the midlife burnout, and the joy of choosing memories over things.

Chrystal’s Bali surprise wasn’t just a trip; it was about friendship, making memories, and letting yourself be celebrated. We unpack what five days away can teach you about rest, mental health, and the power of a short getaway with your girls.

Body autonomy sits at the heart of our chat. We walk through Chrystal’s tummy tuck and breast lift, recovery that surprised the nurses, and laugh about the new “teef” the choice to go natural on veneers rather than chase a fluorescent smile. There’s zero shame and lots of detail: costs in Australia, when overseas surgeons make sense, Rose’s thoughts about getting hers done and the only rule that matters—do it for you. Add in laser hair removal that fixed Rosie’s a hormone-fuelled five o’clock shadow, and you get the theme: find whatever makes life easier and your confidence steadier.

Parenting shifts come in hot as a seventeen-year-old gets her licence and independence kicks up both pride and panic. We talk identity wobbles when kids need you less, plus the practical magic of Bali done right: Uluwatu’s calm, sharing villas, how to do Bali differently, and a rhythm that suits families. Ageing joins the party too, bifocals, blurry menus, and health spirals met with humour and even some real science. Through it all, our friendship is the anchor: holding boundaries, loosening control, and laughing through the weird bits until clarity returns.

If you’re craving honest talk between two besties about surgery, self-care, travel, hormones, work, growth, and the kind of friendship that keeps you both soft and strong, press play.

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What happens when life completely derails your carefully constructed plans? For our mate Zara, a hairdresser from Liverpool, what should have been a quick trip home for her sister's baby shower turned into a wild, years-long adventure filled with visa hiccups, COVID border closures, and some serious soul-searching.

Zara had built a seemingly perfect life in Perth over nearly a decade, with a thriving business, a steady relationship, and a gorgeous apartment. But then, BAM! She found herself locked out of Australia due to a technicality with her visa. What felt like the end of the world quickly became an unexpected chance for clarity. "It was the worst - best thing that happened to me," she candidly shared.

Separated from her partner and her work, everything felt like it was crumbling. Yet through that chaos, Zara reconnected with what truly mattered to her. Although her relationship and business ended, she started to feel happy again, something she realized she hadn’t felt in quite some time. She was rediscovering herself and starting anew.

Friends encouraged her to settle down in Liverpool, but Zara's heart was still set on Australia. We admired her stubbornness as she refused to buy a car, a house, or even a proper phone plan in the UK, confident she’d return to Perth on her own terms.

Eventually, the universe had her back with a sponsorship at Chrystal's salon. Tired of waiting in the UK, she decided to live in Bali while her visa was processed, making new friends and venturing back into the dating scene. A cringe-worthy date with a tooth-gem-wearing American left her a bit scarred, but it entertained us for sure!

Now, Zara is rebuilding her life in Perth, determined to find love and re-enter the dating world. Although she's not keen on dating apps -finding them a bit weird, but she’s open to new experiences as long as they don’t involve any tooth gems! It’s a bit daunting but refreshing to see her approach it all with humour and an open heart.

Our chat was filled with fun over snacks and drinks, with Zara teaching us some hilarious Scouse terms, leaving us in stitches trying to catch her quirky phrases and the things we don't quite understand when she talks! We couldn’t resist throwing in a cheeky-themed "Would You Rather" towards the end, adding a sprinkle of mischief to our convo!

Zara's journey resonates with anyone who's faced unexpected detours in life. It’s a raw reminder that sometimes, life’s redirections—even when painful—lead us right where we need to be. We hope you enjoy this fun, candid chat as Zara shares her extraordinary expat journey and adventures so far and discover why starting over might be the best gift of all!

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"You're not lazy, you're not crazy, your brain just works differently." This raw and revealing conversation dives into the hidden world of ADHD in women, exploring why so many of us aren't diagnosed until we're in our 30s or 40s, often after years of feeling misunderstood, overwhelmed, and "not normal."

Rose and Chrystal share their personal journeys with ADHD both diagnosed and undiagnosed. They candidly share their own experiences.

Rose diagnosed at 38 after reaching breaking point with anxiety, and Chrystal tested as a child but never medicated or properly treated. Together they unpack the unique challenges women face with ADHD, from the constant masking that makes us appear put-together while our minds race chaotically, to the imposter syndrome that convinces us we're just "bad at adulting."

The conversation gets refreshingly real about the quirky realities of living with ADHD: the "procrasta-cleaning" that happens when we're avoiding important tasks, the sensory issues that make some of us unable to wear socks while others can't stand the feel of jewelry, and the late-night hyperfocus sessions that lead to half-painted kitchens. They also explore the surprising links between ADHD and postnatal depression, and why so many women only discover their neurodiversity after having children.

Whether you're diagnosed, wondering about your own brain patterns, or simply want to understand a loved one better, this episode offers both validation and practical insights. From the importance of therapy and the considerations around medication to the simple relief of understanding why your brain does what it does – Rose and Chrystal bare it all with honesty, vulnerability and just the right amount of humour.

*Please be advised that all statistics provided are approximate, and it is recommended to consult a professional if you require assistance or guidance.

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