On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the amazing Bobbi-Jo Molokken! As most ADHD and Autistic parents of ADHD and Autistic kids know things can get out of hand quickly. You feel all the pressure to parent well and meet your kids needs while preparing them for the “real world” and yet it feels like sand through your fingers trying to keep it all going. What most parents don’t know is how the F do I even help my ADHD or Autistic kid with executive functioning. Bobbi-Jo is here to help, as an ADHD mom of two ADHD kids AND a licensed therapist and ADHD coach, Bobbi-Jo can help from all angles! Answering questions about reasonable expectations, how to support effectively, and on the bonus episode her own experience with executive functioning, you don’t want to miss this one!

Show notes:

Embrace the Muchness (Bobbi-Jo Molokken’s coaching business): https://www.embracethemuchness.com/

Compassionate Curiosity Counseling (Bobbi-Jo Molokken’s therapy practice): www.compassionatecuriositycounseling.com

Bobbi-Jo on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embracethemuchness

Bobbi-Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embracethemuchness

Bobbi-Jo’s ADHD resource list: www.adhdresourcelibrary.com

What the EF? Executive Functioning Series by Bobbi-Jo: https://www.embracethemuchness.com/blog/tag/What+the+EF%3F

Inner Equilibrium Audit by Bobbi-Jo: https://www.embracethemuchness.com/digital-downloads

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We have a brand new logo to accompany this week’s episode! We’re explaining why that is, what the new flag by AceinGrace means, and we’re answering some questions about life on the asexuality spectrum. We’re covering if hormones are the reason someone’s asexual, what to do about it, and how to navigate uncomfortable Public Displays of Affection from friends.

Ace in Grace's instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/DXabwaljIrP/

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

This episode explores ADHD, medication options, and navigating healthcare as a college student. We share insight about diagnosis, medication types, and advocating for support at college - and with your doctor!

Disclaimer: We are not medical professionals! Do some more research and touch base with your provider, please.

We're answering:

• Are ADHD medications going to cure my problems? I’m starting my first year of college and my high school teachers helped me with IEP things but I don’t think my professors will do the same things. I was thinking of asking my mom to help me talk to my doctor about medications but I don’t know where to start. Am I allowed to ask or do I have to pass tests? Thanks for your help.
• What is it like to take adhd meds? My dr wants to put me on them but it sounds like there’s a lot of different types

Show notes:

• Therapists - Join us June 17, 2026, at 12pm Pacific time: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast

Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We’ve been asked to give our top tips for heat intolerance for autistic and ADHD folks! Join us to hear what we’d suggest to stay cool and how to survive summer. Curious about how to start your very own EveryFans (or what that is?) Listen to find out!

Show notes:

• Therapists - Join us June 17, 2026, at 12pm Pacific time: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live
• Sabrina's "Lilfan": https://getholmesfans.com/en/fans/personal-fans/4-rechargeable-fan.html

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast

Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We’re talking all about how to be a better ally to asexual and autistic people! We’re also debunking even more myths and stereotypes about autism. Wondering about what counts as a special interest? Or what the "broader autistic phenotype" or "female autism" really means? Join us to hear more!

• Therapists - Join us June 17, 2026, at 12pm Pacific time: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live
• Asexual Visibility & Education Network: https://www.asexuality.org/
• Autistic Self-Advocacy Network: https://autisticadvocacy.org/
• Autistic Women & Non-binary Network: https://awnnetwork.org/
• Sounds Fake But Okay podcast: https://www.soundsfakepod.com/

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

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Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

In this episode, we’re examining how PDA & BPD can impact romantic relationships. If you’re wondering how to avoid triggers, feel loved, and build connection with your partner, this episode is for you!

We're answering these listener questions:

• I need a lot of alone time to regulate my nervous system, but my partner takes it personally and thinks I don't love them. I just sit around and do nothing so its not like I’m having fun without her. The worse part is I think like that too when she’s playing star dew valley for hours even though I know it’s not that. How do I get my space, have time for my special interests and decompress without making her feel abandoned or unwanted? I do like time with her but a guys got a job and bills to pay so I have to use energy at work and try to do overtime for extra cash. If it changes your guys answer, she is ADHD BPD and I am autistic PDA.
• I’m 26 and got told I’m borderline last year by a therapist. I think I have rejection sensitivity and maybe even PDA. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years and I know we need to talk about our relationship issues, but the moment my partner says 'we need to talk' my brain completely shuts down and I want to run away and hide, or just dump them even though stuff is normally really good. How can we handle our issues without triggering me to run away or shutdown? He thinks I’m projecting my trauma on him because my ex was actually abusive but I don’t think of him as my ex at all.

Show Notes:

• THRIVE (18+): www.thrivevirtualcon.com/
• Kink Trust Pixie Dust (for therapists): www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live
• Sabrina’s BPD Stigma & Teens training (for therapists): https://www.neuropebble.com/bpd-teengirls

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast

Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

In this episode, we are busting the most common autism myths that still circulate today! Whether you are an autistic adult, a parent of a newly diagnosed child, a therapist like us, or an educator, understanding the truth about autistic individuals is crucial.

We're answering this listener question:

• My partner says I’m "cold" or "dismissive" when we argue because I try to find logical solutions instead of just comforting them. How do I explain my communication style without sounding like I'm making excuses or not caring?

And we're covering myths like:

- Autistic sense of justice or justice sensitivity

- Whether or not autistic people have empathy

- Literal thinking

- Direct communication

Plus other common things that get thrown around all of the time when discussing autism or the autism spectrum. Want to check in on your own knowledge? Give it a listen!

• Mixed Neurotypes episode w Kyle Rutherford: https://www.patreon.com/posts/145865983?collection=1767142
• THRIVE: www.thrivevirtualcon.com/
• Kink Trust Pixie Dust: www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast

Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

If submission has ever felt like a demand and triggered your PDA, this week’s episode might resonate with you! We’re answering if you’re a “bad sub” if you’re a PDAer, how to navigate explaining your nervous system to a partner, and why kink is healing. We explore a few ways people can heal from trauma and feel empowered by kink. Join us!

BTW: This is part 3 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month called THRIVE; it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters!

On this week’s Upping the Ante, our Patreon bonus content is focused on CPTSD, “disappearing” or “dissolving” during sex, and if it makes you a bad partner if you don’t reciprocate. If you’ve ever wondered why autistic and AuDHD focus seems to be different than allistic folks’ attention- especially in the bedroom- then you’ll want to hear what we’ve got to say!

(Also, if you’re a mental health professional, this is your last week to sign up for the first ever GEMS Neurodiversity Summit - this one’s focus is Autistic + ADHD Teens. It’s on May 16th starting at 10am Pacific and it’s going to be SO fun! We’re hoping to build a tightknit community and to continue hosting GEMS Summits in the future.)

• Find us at GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens this week: www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit
• GEMS Neurodiversity Community for therapists on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/924737776755804
• Join us at THRIVE later this month: https://thrivevirtualcon.com/
• Therapists can take a sneak peek at our June 17th, 2026, event here: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live

To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys

Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast

Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)

Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)