This episode sits in a very specific moment: when nothing has technically happened, but your whole system reacts as if something has gone wrong.

1. A message goes unanswered.
2. A reply takes longer than expected.
3. A conversation pauses.
4. And suddenly, silence feels loaded.

In this episode, Jane explores why those moments don’t register as neutral. They register as danger. Not because you’re dramatic or overthinking — but because past experiences have taught your system that silence can mean rejection, conflict, or loss of safety.

The panic that shows up isn’t reactive. It’s predictive.

And the relief that floods in when the reply finally comes? That’s not embarrassing. It’s data. Evidence that your system misfired a protective alarm — not that something is wrong with you.

This is a recognition episode, not an explanation. It doesn’t teach you how to stop spiralling. It names why the spiral happens — and lets that understanding do the calming.

1. Why silence is experienced as threat, not information
2. How past social pain trains the brain to predict danger early
3. Why panic is terrible at writing messages
4. The relief that comes when nothing was actually wrong — and what it proves
5. How overprotection develops from lived experience, not weakness
6. Why this reaction is about safety, not self-control

1. Unanswered messages make your whole body brace
2. Silence feels heavier than words
3. You rewrite texts that didn’t need fixing
4. Relief after a reply is followed by self-doubt or shame
5. You want recognition, not advice

These episodes deepen the same patterns of silence, rejection sensitivity, and misread threat.

An RSD Story: Taking My Own Advice

A personal lived experience of rejection sensitivity and shame loops.

👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/an-rsd-story-taking-my-own-advice-s1-ep9/

Why Am I Bracing for Impact When Nothing Is Wrong? (Quick Reset)

How the system predicts danger before there’s evidence.

👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/

When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiet — What Your Body Is Doing and Why

Hypervigilance and waiting for the social ‘drop’.

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