What do you do with a decade of your life that doesn't fit neatly on a CV?

This week, Meha talks to her cousin Iman — a doctor turned anatomy teacher turned cake baker — about the quiet erosion of self-belief that can happen when life pulls you away from who you thought you were going to be. They talk about the version of yourself you had to become to keep everything running, and the strange courage it takes to become visible again.

They also get into the guilt. The mum guilt, the rest guilt, the "I should have done more by now" guilt — and why so many of us have been trained to feel like wanting something for ourselves is somehow taking it from someone else.

Somewhere in the middle of all of it, there's a cake business that started from a note in an envelope. And at the very end, a five-year-old with something to say about happiness that neither of them saw coming.

If you've ever felt like you waited too long, lost too much ground, or talked yourself out of starting — this one's for you.

Home doesn't stop being home just because you left it. But maybe, when you live abroad, you're not missing people's lives — you're bumping into their dimensions. Your best friend had a baby. Your cousin got married. and you're here, living a completely different reality, visiting theirs when you can.

We talked about what it means to leave, to stay gone, and to make peace with both. Episode 2 is out now 🎙️

We spend so much time performing “fine” — for our families, our partners, our feeds. But what happens when we finally let someone in? In the very first episode of You and Me Both, I sit down with my dear friend Vanessa to talk about the real cost of achievement, the fear of being vulnerable, and what it actually means to have someone hold space for you. We talk about the good girl. The strong woman. The one who listens to everyone but never asks for help herself. This one is for anyone who has ever heard “why are you complaining? You have everything” — and felt something shift in their body.

Come sit with us. 🎙️🤎#YouAndMeBoth #NewPodcast #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ChoosenFamily #DiasporaGirls #HealingJourney #WomenWhoFeel ps. some of these were recorded a while back but, well, life happened.