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Brought to you by Penguin.

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?

This life-changing audiobook will transform your conversations forever.

As a society, we’ve forgotten how to listen. Modern life is noisy and frenetic, and technology provides constant distraction. So we tune things out or listen selectively - even to those we love most. We’ve become scared of other people’s points of view, and of silence.

Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.

Listening is about curiosity and patience - about asking the right questions in the right way. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. And the cleverest people can be the worst at it. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected.

When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You're Not Listening shows us how.

©2020 Kate Murphy (P)2020 Penguin Audio

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waist of time

One of the worst books I've ever read. The entire book can be summarized by two words: listen more.

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Learning to listen

The beginning and end of this book were interesting and I think I’ve learnt something from it. Overall I found it very hard to listen to this book, not a good start for learning to listen! It has taken me several weeks and I had to push myself to get to the end. Saying that, I feel that I am improving my listening skills, and have learnt to ask and listen to replies.
I feel a bit unfair only giving it three if I have learnt something, but that’s an honest review.

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nothing profound nor new

These are interesting points but not new. Basically it's a lament for listening. Listening is good and people like to be listened. If you need to hear an argument for it, this book provides one. If you already think so, it doesn't add much.

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Listening to This Book Will Change You

This may well be the most usefull book you will ever pick up, it is well written, read, structured and easy to listen to.

The author has put together and narrated theory, story and practical advice with easy making this an enjoyable read from cover to cover.

Do yourself and those around you a favour and simply listen to this book and apply the life changing advice within.

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great

enjoyable and interesting. motivated to be a better listener! need 6 more words for the review.

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A very long essay on why listening is important

It's nice to be reminded on why listening is so important and to think about all aspects personal and societal that are affected by it. I was hoping for more practical information, but that is not to be found here.

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Listen about listening

highly recommended, very insightful. when to take time to listen what is being explained in the book you realise just how much we miss

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Interesting & dare I say gripping.

Wow, Kate covers a lot of ground. but every word is fascinating insight into how we have stopped actually listening. it's genuinely made me realise how we've all stopped listening and how we can get back to being better listeners. it's amazing how you can change so little to get so much more out of a person or conversation.

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enlightening on how to reconnect

made me realise how much I'm missing or not getting, and a few great ways to change that

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A well researched and informative read

I always thought myself a good listener but this book reveals that I fall short in some areas. But it also offers some well researched examples to demonstrate what it takes to be a good listener. In fact, in the process of listening to the audio, I paid more attention than before on how I engage in conversations with others. In all, I find it informative and educational.

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listen more... start here

was a book that I needed to consider... the outcome was motivation to listen to the world.

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  • 22-04-21

I hope to be better at listening!

Acknowledged some behaviours within myself that are not useful... now to work on being a better listener!